swingingalone
Greenlighter
- Joined
- Oct 31, 2014
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Hi there. New to this forum, which I stumbled upon trying to see if I could get some perspective on my situation. I'm not sure if I'm in the right place, but did see another thread on swinging. I have been seeing someone for a little over a year, and he wanted to start swinging. He had previous experiences from past relationships. I was game because I was curious. Now the situation has devolved into the only time we are intimate is when we are swinging with another couple. And because of our busy schedules we rarely see one another for lunch, coffee, etc. So most of our relationship consists of plans to meet up with other couples and when we do finally meet up my partner and I have on 2 of the 3 occasions (this is still new) not ended up having sex with one another. I explained to him that in a relationship where the partners were having regular sex with one another, the swapping of partners makes more sense - you are adding variety, etc. and that's part of the fun. But he and I are only having sex in the context of hooking up with another couple, and even then have not had sex. We have talked about it, but the no sex between us during an encounter has happened twice now. I am beginning to wonder if I am being used as a "straw woman" for him to have sex with as many females as he wants. I'm very upset and need guidance.