No, I'm not a 12 stepper
I quit heroin using suboxone
I've gradually given up all the hard drugs that ever made me happy; I only had a one time, 4 day long meth binge this last 8 months
it was really good; stayed up the whole 4 days, met someone I am now in love with. I realize now all things happen for a reason and I'm quite glad I went through all this shit to get to where I am today
If I was unable to quit drugs without a 12 step program, I would be happy dying an addict. I don't believe in sobriety as a goal in itself. I enjoy using cannabinoids, and there's nothing wrong with indulging your desires. It's all about implementing self control properly. I wouldn't abstain from something that made me feel good all together, unless I truly desired to do so.
I get a feeling a lot of people want the "easy way out" of things, and instead of trying to create an equilibrium with using sometimes but not all the time, they give something up entirely, and this creates a mindset that enables relapses; "I can't control myself" mentality means eventually you'll come across a drug again, and you'll think "oh well it's OK, I can't control myself" - actually, you can, and the idea one cannot is what fuels relapses
every time I chose to use a drug again, I chose to do it, it wasn't because I was out of control. I think this is the same for everyone else; it's just easy for people to be in denial, that they have no will power, no self control, and so on.
It's a tragedy because it leads them away from the path of attaining a healthy balance; these people will go on to over-eat, procrastinate, and accept mediocrity and withdrawal from life's joys, instead of learning to properly balance them.