Halif...it's IS that black and white, in reference to "they should quit if that's how they feel"...I am in the medical field. I"ve worked in various parts of it...including the ER and in Public Health. I am so so sorry for the way your mother was treated, while dying. When I read "she was reduced to tears...." by a rude nurse, my heart hurt for you.
Plain and simple...if Dr's, nurses, and all the other techs, etc. go in w judgement, for any reason, they shoudn't be there. If they are going to be rude to a patient for whatever reason, they shouldn't be there. It is not the place of any medical worker to judge or decide whom deserves treatment more.
Everyone is entitled to have bad days...we're all human. If it's consistent behavior, they need to quit the medical field. You have to put your stresses aside, refrain from judgement, or "dislike"...if that takes carrying around what your pledged to do as a person in the medical field in your pocket, bra whatever, and reading it in the bathroom when you're feeling yourself judging or feeling a patenit is irritating. It's no different than the days you have to go into the bathroom and cry because your heart is breaking for a patient.
I think the treatment of the OP is unacceptable. I'm not saying that the Dr. was supposed to sit there for hours, going through every drug the OP had taken...but he couldn've referred him somewhere that would do that if he wasn't willing to. For the most part, Dr's can be cold. Nurses too.
The treatment I witnessed to the patients in ER by the staff INFURIATED me. Maybe the hospital was famiiar to US because we're there day in day out, and the other employees were also familiar w eachother due to the same reason...but
both are notfamiliar to the patient who's not there all of the time
Sorry OP. And I've know more than one Dr. and more than one nurse that's been an addict. And high at work, whlle beng holier than thou to a patient. One Dr. shot water into the IV line, instead of Demerol. He had
a headache, and used the demerol for himself.