Eveleivibe
Ex-Bluelighter
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think you misspelled that so I fixed it for youI am <amazing>
One thing that I have learned (and that you have to learn to accept) is that nobody is going to swoop down and save you, so feeling sorry for yourself won't get you anywhere. People can give you helpful advice and suggestions, but you are the one that is going to have to make the changes in your life to make it better. One of the few NA saying that I like (since it's very simple and true, and can apply to anyone regardless of their circumstances) is "just make the next right decision." If you keep doing that then things will begin to come around, but they take time so don't get discouraged.
What good comes from saying bad things about yourself on here? The more you say them the more you believe them the more true they seem to you. And the reason I mentioned that nobody is going to swoop in and save you is because I get the vibe that you continue to say negative things about yourself so that others will say they aren't true. That's relying too much on other people since their words won't save you on their own, so you have to put in the footwork. The same goes for negative things said about you. Often times what others say is out of your control (although sometimes you may influence it) so don't put so much stock in the bad stuff said about you.
Negative attracts negative, and positive attracts positive, so if you continue with the negative thinking then you will still find yourself posting the same things (or worse) in here years from now. Do not dwell on things that are outside of your control! You need to get out there and surround yourself with positive people. If that means having to go to AA/NA then give it an honest try, and don't just stop going if someone says something to you that you don't like. You can't just rely on bluelight as your therapy or something. It can be a great tool for many people, but it should just be one of many tools that you have in your recovery tool-box.
You sound like you're turning over a really positive leaf Evey, just keep that train of thought going .
Also here is a picture of the multiquote feature, it's circled in red, just click it on every one of the posts you want to quote and on the last post you want to quote hit quote instead of that button and every one of the selected posts will show up as a quote:
Thank you never, I'll try that.When ever you start to get frustrated or down evel examine the way your thinking. I think you may find that you have a tendency to always choose to focus on the negative of a situation. If this is the case try no longer judging anything as good or bad and really consciously look for the most positive things in every situation.. it may be hard at first but it will get easier if you work at it.
That button is right next to the quote button below every post.