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Going dogging

Not much help here, but I've never heard that term in my area (Canada) or in the amateur porn world lol. I don't usually run into things I haven't at least heard of before!
 
Artificial Emotion said:
I want to have sex with complete strangers and if someone catches us then that's all the better. Of course I will use condoms but aside from that the more dirty and deviant the sex the better.

edit: it can't be that risky if I use protection, can it?
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Yes, it can be risky. You can still get genital warts/genital herpes even when using a condom. I can't say why this happens or what the likelihood is of it happening, but I know this is true. Condoms only protect against some STD's, and thankfully HIV is one of them.

AE: You can still have NSA sex, just go with them to get tested first, and then have at each other, and go on your merry way. :D
 
Captain.Heroin said:
Yes, it can be risky. You can still get genital warts/genital herpes even when using a condom. I can't say why this happens or what the likelihood is of it happening, but I know this is true. Condoms only protect against some STD's, and thankfully HIV is one of them.

AE: You can still have NSA sex, just go with them to get tested first, and then have at each other, and go on your merry way. :D
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NSA means just that 'no strings attached' asking for your potential partner to go for a std test first is not NSA :D. As were talking about condoms / new sex practices (for some) swingers - I recently discovered a rather sickening term 'Stealthing'.

In certain gay circles swinger parties have a more (for me and this is my personal opinion) sickening tone - 'Bug parties' where guys willing go with HIV guys. The guy with HIV is often called the 'gift giver/breeder' and stupid names like that. There has recently been a twisted version of this - where the 'Gift Giver' pretends to wear a condom with an unsuspecting guy and then deliberately tears it/removes it to deliberately spread HIV/other STD's. What makes this even worse is there is a lube which has been made to look and smell like cum which some of these 'stealth' breeders use to hide the fact that they were not using a condom.

*shudders*
 
Well, thanks for that. Cleared it up lol

I think I'll have to bow out of this conversation.
 
dogging must have similar protocol to cottaging. pastimes of the past resurface.

its one on those things where your own furtive instinct is going to be of more use than any advice found on here

you will know if someone is interested. it should be obvious and also remember that whipping it out in public in a rash fashion can attract police attention so exercise caution

with that and gay marriage were having a bit of a social role reversal
 
Pagey said:
Had absolutely no idea that was a thing, my bad.

But then yeah in that case I agree with Bearlove, you'll definitely wanna go through some sort of website or club or something. Can't really just walk up to someone in the street and ask them.
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:D Hilarious! This guy still hasn't understood what dogging is, even though it's just been explained to him/her. Pagey - no one is suggesting that you walk up to someone in the street and ask them. This is an organised activity and has a set of rules and etiquette to be followed.
 
Pagey said:
It is? :?

Well AE, really all I have to recommend is that you listen to and follow all of Bearlove's great advice. And let us know how it goes!
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Except that there was no great advice from Bearlove. He/she had simply copied and pasted from dogging.co.uk website. Which is where I suggest you go for further information if you really want to learn more about this. It may be pretty irrelevant though if you are living outside of the UK as it seems to be a British thing.

For the uninitiated or completely naive (Pagey) I can explain a little bit which might help.

Having sex with a stranger is one of the most common fantasies for both men and women. (Fact). So it is not altogether surprising that humans have found a way to facilitate this happening. A quick tour around some porn sites will give you an idea of regional variances on this theme. For example, in some states of the US, "swinging" appears to be common or more acceptable than others. (Pagey - swinging is nothing to do with dangling on ropes - just thought I'd point that out for you);). In Vegas, Nevada, for example. The idea of introducing another lover to your sex life may manifest itself in "cuckolding" where either partner seeks enjoyment from watching their spouse get sexual pleasure from a stranger. In some parts of the US this practice is well-established and meets, often between a white couple and a black guy (known as "the Bull") take place in seedy motels or hotel rooms.

Across Europe we have many variations on these themes. In Germany, and in Berlin in particular, the "Kit-Kat" club is famous as a swinger venue where couples and singles of all sexual persuasions meet to enjoy free, liberated sex with strangers. In France, the beaches of Cap D'Agde attract a naturist crowd who meet inpromptu across the sand dunes, away from the main beach, and have sex openly with each other and with strangers.

In the UK, it is often too bloody cold and raining to be getting one's kit off outdoors. So, on those dark winter nights, sex outdoors may be best done in a nice warm car. For those of you who have never been to the UK (or heard of it - Pagey ;) ) it is a small, but heavily populated island in the North Sea. It is more densely populated than the US for example. We don't have hundreds of miles of non-habited land. We have a few areas of the country with "national parks" - areas of outstanding natural beauty in rural locations. Away from these, there are small pockets of land, rural areas like parks or forests or just small woodland areas, within the vicinity of most towns and cities. Any area like these, be it national parkland or smaller rural areas, tend to be the places where this "dogging" activity takes place.

This is usually a male/female couple, married or otherwise, who enjoy having sex, safely, in public and being watched whilst they do so. They may be willing to let others join in - they may want to join in with others. This is where you need to look at the website I mention to you and observe the rules and etiquette around it. When another car arrives at the spot where you have parked up and flashes their headlights, or interior lights at you, they are signalling to you to do what? If you don't know then you could be missing out on something - or making a mistake. Check it out if you are really interested.

Personally, I have never set out with the intention of going dogging. However, I have been parked up in a rural spot with my other half, engaging in some sexual fun, when another vehicle has come and parked nearby and communicated to us (by the flashing of lights) that they are interested to engage with us. I must admit, the thought of it turns me on, although I am quite a fit, good looking guy, with a good physique and my partner is a very attractive, sexy young woman. Neither of us fancy having sex with some ugly people or ones with bad hygiene either - and that's the downside of dogging in the dark at least!

I think I would much prefer to book us into a hotel room and sit down with my partner and look through some profiles from a local Escort agency on the web. If we identify someone we like the look of and they are available to join us then that would be preferable to sex outdoors with ugly folks in the cold. To me anyhow. I don't mind paying for it if it's what my partner would enjoy - we've discussed this fantasy many times.

I once (or twice) had the pleasure of sharing a girl with another man. I am straight btw, but that was one hell of a mind-blowing experience. I would highly recommend it. If you thought you'd seen your lady turned on and enjoying herself before, be prepared for taking that to another completely different level, for both of you actually. When sex is that good it is like a highly addictive drug that you just need more of. It wasn't so much sex as some kind of near hallucinogenic sexual trip that we all experienced.

So, yes, I would like to do that again. My partner isn't so sure about it, but then again she's never experienced it but I know if she ever does then it will change her outlook on sex forever.

As long as it's not on a freezing cold and wet winter's night, outdoors, in some remote car park in the UK.
 
Bearlove said:
NSA means just that 'no strings attached' asking for your potential partner to go for a std test first is not NSA :D. As were talking about condoms / new sex practices (for some) swingers - I recently discovered a rather sickening term 'Stealthing'.

In certain gay circles swinger parties have a more (for me and this is my personal opinion) sickening tone - 'Bug parties' where guys willing go with HIV guys. The guy with HIV is often called the 'gift giver/breeder' and stupid names like that. There has recently been a twisted version of this - where the 'Gift Giver' pretends to wear a condom with an unsuspecting guy and then deliberately tears it/removes it to deliberately spread HIV/other STD's. What makes this even worse is there is a lube which has been made to look and smell like cum which some of these 'stealth' breeders use to hide the fact that they were not using a condom.

*shudders*
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I've heard about that; but there are also gay hook up sites devoted to that sort of thing. :\

Years ago when I was on hook up/dating/sex sites looking for men to date I had guys in my area message me asking to meet up for sex and a simple google search showed that they were into what you described, or they were HIV+ but lied about it which is illegal in my area.

'Dogging' happens in other countries besides the UK.

I have done it when I had sex in a parked car at night with a woman my friend introduced me to that afternoon who was visiting from his university.

My friend and some random stranger watched the woman, and I have public sex. I did not ask them to watch us, it just happened that way.

I also have had sex with men in parked cars at night. The first two times were with a man I knew from a bar. The first time he wanted to go to a motel or hotel room or have us pay for one, and I said no. The second time he wanted to drive us out into the middle of nowhere, and I was not comfortable doing that.

The other 5 times were with my first boyfriend since we could not go to my place, and he was concerned about his house being dirty; but when I did finally go to his place it was not dirty. Neither of us wanted to pay for a hotel or motel.

But I never have encountered people having public sex, and joined in, or had random strangers see me having public sex with someone and they joined in.
 
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