After almost thirty years of marriage, my father divorced my mother a year ago (divorce was officially finalized six months ago) because he fell in love with this total ditz of a woman who was working as a model/secretary/barista/whatever.
I'm not a fan of her, but she could honestly probably be the nicest, most insightful woman on the planet and I would still hate the bitch. I am 25 years old (she's 23) and it just gives me the creeps.
My parents had a lot of problems for a long time, and my mother is a very difficult woman to be around, so I don't fault my father for the divorce... I mean, the amount of times I've come home to find a) my mother or my father passed out drunk b)my father has been living in a hotel for weeks or my mother has left the country to return to Paris or c)had to answer the door for the wonderful SFPD because our neighbors called the police I don't even know, and there is still so much that went on between them that they haven't and never will share, that, honestly, it's probably the best thing that could have happened-- but it's the way in which he decided to go about it that disgusts me. He cheated on my mother for months, proposed to this woman, and then told my mom he wanted a divorce. He's so in love with this woman (or something) that he gave my mom everything she wanted so they could get divorced super fast and run down the aisle. But my mom is still very angry... she feels betrayed, humiliated, etc. She left San Francisco for Los Angeles and I've been down here to help her get settled.
My future stepmother asked me to be one of her bridesmaids in the wedding and I respectfully declined (to her credit she really is trying to build a relationship with me, but step mother?? she's YOUNGER THAN ME!), but I feel like I should go, because it really is important to my dad, and as much of a bastard as he can be, he is my dad and I do love him and he has been through a lot of shit with me over the years. But my mother is going to feel so betrayed if I go (she has made this clear) that I don't know what to do. I don't know if it's a case of me figuring out how to deal with her, or if I really am betraying her and out of loyalty to her I shouldn't go, and I don't want to anyway. The whole thing has been really upsetting and came so out of left-field (I knew they were miserable I just never thought they'd get a divorce) and finding out my dad cheated on my mom was WAY more upsetting than I would have thought it would be-- I mean I could barely look at him for weeks-- anyway I'm rambling, just want some opinions.