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how to make my husband come when i give him a blowjob

Have you tried giving him head in positions other than him lying on his back? I find it extremely hard to cum when I am lying down (from oral or penetrative sex likewise). I never came from blowjobs till I met a girl who got down on her knees and basically let me fuck her in the mouth ( gently and slowly, but that position lets a guy control the speed, and when it starts to feel good He can continue with that pace.

These days I really like my woman to be lying down, propped up on a couple of pillows, and to straddle her. You have to trust your partner of course, to not just grab you by the back of the head, and start trying to lung plunge you....
 
I find that a well-lubricated hand playing with his balls while I use my mouth and other hand to ensure his entire cock gets attended to - lots of spit to keep it nice and wet!! plus using the tongue on the glands and all the way up and down - gets him there. And he said he hardly comes from bjs usually...
 
omg CBT sounds horrible from the male perspective...

Gracias, pero no thanks gracias.
 
Some pretty good advice given already.
Not all guys can cum from blow jobs. My boyfriend can't either (he said he did once with another girl a while ago but he was really high or drunk or something). Blow jobs are just something we do to warm up before sex!
Try using your hands as well, playing with his balls, possibly his butt (depends if he's open to that).
 
I find that a well-lubricated hand playing with his balls while I use my mouth and other hand to ensure his entire cock gets attended to - lots of spit to keep it nice and wet!! plus using the tongue on the glands and all the way up and down - gets him there. And he said he hardly comes from bjs usually...

thinks this is all good advice & lol @ the last sentence..

TBH..I never knew that so many men couldn't cum from getting head....
but i didn't know about cbt either..
all mixed with some awesome poetry..
what more could you ask from a slr thread?
super educational..and harm reductive..
except for the cbt part..:?
it's great how different we all are tho.

~token
 
I'm another guy that bj's doesn't do much for. I like them, they are enjoyable, but I've came less than 5 times in my life from them.
 
I used to have a hard time having an orgasm from oral, literally 30-40 minutes. I guess my girl watched some porn and learned how to give head, because one day she started using her hands in a circular motion while in her mouth licking my balls and everything. Needless to say, I cum in 5-10 minutes now.
 
I don't advise sticking a finger up his arse without first checking with him if it's ok or not.
A lot of us blokes don't like things up our arse especially without warning.
A finger up there may work for some men but a lot of us aren't into it at all.
A nice sloppy wet blow job done with eagerness and a will to please is good enough for a lot of us.
 
Mind games - tell him you want him to see how long he can stay soft while you go down on him. Tell him how much you love giving him head, how you love that it never has to end since he doesn't coum - take the pressure off him to perform. Get him to concentrate on the zen of the blow job - appreciation of the sensations happening here and now, not worrying about being able to cum later.
When you find a rhythm he likes and you sense his excitement, don't speed up to make it more intense - keep doing exactly what you're doing and let him roll with it.
Diddle yourself while you suck him - your building excitement will translate into what you're doing.
The more you concentrate on appreciating what's happening now, the more he's likely to lose it and toss you some throat yoghurt.
 
some guys just have a hard time cumming... I have been told by quite a few of my guys that I am one of the BEST D*cK suckers that they have ever had!!! and I STILL have had about 3 guys that just cant cum...
I have ALSO had a few that have said that they cant cum from a BJ and I have got them to cum... hehehe...

But my tricks to being the best is to just LOVE it... I enjoy pleasuring my man... and when he knows this he loves it!!
DONT stop!! ESPECIALLY if he sounds like hes enjoying it!!
MOAN while down all the way.. like say MMmmhmmmm n moan like ur enjoying it
TOUNGE
go slow..go fast... mix it up... rub his legs.. rub his chest..
rub ur tits up n down his legs or chest... or his dick... get in between his legs.. hold ur tits around his dick and suck the head while going up n down.. well if ur tits are big enuff and if his dick is too.. lol

look up at him..
theres so many things.
Listen to him and when u hear he likes it do that more!!
NO TEETH!! watch the teeth .. unless he likes it .. .heheheh
and for Gods sake SWALLOW!!!!!!! :-D

they can tell when u are enjoying it.. I usually get pretty wet from giving a blowjob... then they just fuck the HELL out of you!! OH YEAH!!

i really like a nice clean hard dick..... __
~looks for my man~
hehehe


edit>> i cant believe i just wrote that.... hahah im stoned ..
 
Not sure if anyone else notices this but if you can thrust a bit while getting a bj it's far more likely that you'll cum, but if you just sit there and they do all the motion then it won't work. I can't get off with a bj unless I'm actually thrusting my dick in and out.
 
A lot of good advice in this thread. I'll actually echo the advice about making him feel like it's about the PROCESS and not necessarily the END RESULT that you want him to enjoy. "Don't rush yourself, just enjoy it" is the best thing a guy can ever hear during oral. If a guy feels rushed (which can either be from you not seeming to like what you're doing or if you keep hinting at him having an orgasm), he will feel pressure that will not only make it harder to climax, but it will take him out of the good feeling of the moment and into his "focus zone." True, you want to end it with him having an amazing orgasm, but it's best to let him know that you want to keep him at that state right before an orgasm as long as possible. Guys love to get off, but it also means that it's over, so sometimes it can be a little anti-climactic. If a guy know that he can close his eyes and lay back, or prop himself forward and watch, and really sink into the moment of things, it's going to be much better than oral sex that just pulls out all of the tricks to make him finish as fast as possible.

So endurance is key, and the best way to handle this is to alternate your hand and mouth. And it's okay if you need to stop and rest for thirty seconds or so (he might actually like this, since it can delay the orgasm), as long as he's not duped into believing that you're going to quit and leave him hanging.

Something that some people like (has worked when I did it to women, and it can work on guys too) is to reach up and hold his hand during the middle of it. It establishes a personal connection that will give him a rush of love for you and the intimacy you share. You don't have to keep holding hands, but just a small acknowledgement that it's the two of you together in the act.

And the last thing, my biggest pet peeve about oral...Actually suck on him. Sucking feels amazing; it's what differentiates oral from other types of intimate contact.
 
Why does he not cum? Have you asked him? Maybe he is uncomfortable about shooting his load in your mouth! Why not have him wank off as you lick his balls/cock - when he cums take his load. Show him that your eager and willing and see how it goes from there.
 
I think that you can also try to heck what experts can offer you. To be honest I had the same problem in the past, but after *looking it up* I managed to make my boyfriend happy.
 
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never came from a blowjob before. after having a good fuck session the girl noticed I was getting close and finished me off and kept sucking after I came... it was pleasurable torture. Mmm. I've had several girls say they would get me to cum from head and they have all failed... but then again it takes me like 30 min SOBER to bust during vaginal sex.... I'm broken... :(
 
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