^ Excellent post!
There should be mandatory courses for fellatio for every woman that comes of age, and you would make a great professor.
HAH oh that makes me laugh lout loud! Not makes me lol, makes me actually laugh.. Well thank you!
I don't pretend to be some Casanova type, I've just been incredibly lucky in my choices of partners. They helped me go from feeling very sexually inadequate to feeling good about myself, but not puffed up. And that was through communication before, during, and after sex, talking about what was great and what could be improved upon.
That's something important that I should note: when communicating with a partner as I suggested, please aim for what my old college profs called 'constructive criticism'. By that I mean when you tell your partner that some head they gave you wasn't so great, instead of saying 'you suck dick at sucking dick!' and being negative about it. That will defeat the whole purpose of the communication because it will reduce your partners self esteem by making them feel like they've done something wrong. Instead tell them how good it felt and then give them some suggestions on how to make it feel even better.
Furthermore, I really recommend alternating between telling them about sexual acts and techniques that they performed really, really well, and making suggestions using the constructive criticism technique listed above. That way, not only do you not crush their self-esteem through poorly thought out critiques of their sexual performance, by manner of using the constructive criticism method I described, you also intersperse the sexual dialogue with examples of things they did that really turns you on and or really pleasurable and that will increase their self-esteem and self-image.
That will benefit the sexual performance of both partners, and it will also allow both parties to speak more freely and to communicate their thoughts to one another in the future in a more honest way, by building trust and by making the experience of learning how to sexually please one another more intensely all inclusive.
Making sexual communication a two-way dialogue will ultimately result in much more beneficial results for both partners than if one person or the other were to try and take charge of the discussion, telling the other what they did and did not do correctly while refusing to address their own performance. In summary criticism should be made in a constructive fashion, and the very word communication implies two individuals talking to one another on equal terms, not one person dictating directions.
Anyway, as for me the communication payed off. And once you get the hang of it, learning how one person's body responds to sexual techniques allows you to more quickly learn how a different person will respond to this or that technique. So over time you build experience that applies not just one partner but to your own sexual abilities in general. And when you finally get to put all that knowledge to good use, and you make a girl come 5 to 6 times in a matter of minutes, it's actually pleasurable for yourself, and it greatly heightens one's self-esteem and at least in my case eradicated most, though not all, of the inadequacies that I had felt prior to meeting the various partners that helped me learn to communicate about sexual matters.
One more thing that I would mention in relation to how to improve your performance when sucking dick: Keith can be a very bad thing but teeth can also be a very good thing. As with so many things in life that can be double-edged swords if you're not careful, it is all in the application. Biting down on a dick? Yeah, not so much pleasantries there. But if the teeth are very lightly dragged along the top and bottom of the dick, the feeling can be electric. Dragging isn't even the right word, upon reflection, I think that the best term would be using your teeth to *caress* the top and bottom of the cock.
On and off topic note, I am an old–school blue lighter, I've been here since 2003. I forgot the password to my old username, and unfortunately the password recovery email address no longer exists, thus new account. I hadn't been to Bluelight in probably two or three years, and then came back about a month ago (we all do seem to get drawn back in eventually don't we?). I have to say I was somewhat… Disappointed with some of the threads in the trip reports and other drugs (especially the trip reports) forums. But I'm thankful to say that SLR appears to have remained the same: a place for freely-spoken sexual discussion, where unnecessary and frankly ridiculous guilt doesn't enter into the equation, and trolling and immaturity seem to have remained absent... or at least as absent as they ever were!
Again directed to the OP, I suggest that you tell us what you are currently doing when you're giving your man some head. I have to say myself, I find it very hard to achieve orgasm when I'm getting it blow job as well. That's why I laid out that detailed list of techniques in my last post in this thread: after lots of discussion and communication (and oh yes, yes, YES, gloriously much, potentially gratuitously so, wonderous experimentation!) with one of my partners I discovered that the formula listed above works perfectly for me, every time! Of course, everyone is different, and so your (and your partner's) mileage may vary. But, it's worth giving some of those techniques a try I believe, because if nothing else, even if they don't end up making him come, they will at least guaranteed for certain make him feel really, *really* good!
Just remember everybody's body is different, and everyone reacts differently to sexual acts. So if it ends up that you simply cannot make your significant other come in your mouth, please, don't feel bad about it, and certainly don't feel bad about yourself! It almost certainly would not be a reflection on you, rather it would simply indicate that blowjobs just are not his thing, and full vaginal or anal sex will be required for him to achieve orgasm.
One last thing that I forgot to mention: for me personally, no oral sex in the world, from any woman anywhere on any drug, can even come close to comparing to the glorious pleasure of the 69 position. The 69 position guarantees that both you and your partner are fully engaged in sexual experience. So if the above tips that I mentioned in my last post don't help at all, I would suggest that you two go for the 69 and see if that changes the situation any. It's... just plain god-pleasure, even for an atheist like me
Finally, I second the motion for a school to teach girls how to give good head when they come of age! And furthermore I think the even more important than the school that would teach girls how to give good blow jobs, would be a school to teach boys newly turned to men how to properly eat pussy. Because seriously there is not enough female orgasm in the world, and I hate seeing girls neglected. I mean come on there lucky Vicky to come multiple times without the rigorous training that may or may not result in a man being able to come multiple times. And yet so often sex ends up consisting of a man perhaps playing with the woman's pussy for a minute, maximum, not finding the clitoris during that extremely brief and unsatisfactory sexual foreplay, and then using that minute of unsatisfactory foreplay as justification that it's now time to stick his dick in her pussy.
And that's no more fair to the woman than it is for a woman to give a bad blowjob to a guy! Probably Westfair even, because of the nature of female arousal (lasts longer, cannot be terminated wholesale by jackin off in a bathroom). So what the hell, I think I may as well just go ahead and make the blanket statement that ALL people, regardless of gender or sexual orientation, should be sent to a class when they come of age that teaches them how to PROPERLY pleasure people of as many different sexual orientations and genders as the student desire!
And while we're (and by that I mean I'm) fantasizing about imaginary sexual skill trade-schools, I think it should be mandatory that for each sexual orientation and gender that they choose, they should have multiple instructors. That way they'll learn to understand that not everyone gets off in the same way and learn how to pleasure various people with differing sexual desires, and ultimately, to learn to appreciate the variation between people's sexual desires.
After all, variety's the spice of life, ain't it?
Good luck again to the OP,
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