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Why don't I cum from blowjobs?

its somewhat rare i can climax from oral, especially if i dont feel comfortable getting some thrusting in...

try not to let it bother you too much, its still the most awesome feeling in the world, great foreplay or even right up to the event and cum (harhar) up with creative ways to finish (him) off, or get him right up to breaking point then take him in your mouth...

lots of great bjs involve lots of hand and boob action, im a big fan of titfucking give that a shot. dirty talk spitting to keep it nicely lubed all that pornstar kinky sexy slutty stuff, say you want it etc. cause its half in his head (hard to keep track of who im talking to, the guy or girl lol)

i saw a video once (have to do this one day) of a girl just rubbing her clit forward and back on the penis (she did this to finish him off too) , straddling the guy while he was on his back, and using her hands too, was really hot.

ive had a couple of awesome bjs recently and both just seemed so determined, like they did 1000 push ups a day...it can take a bit of action to get things frothing, think of how hard he fucks in the lead up to his cumming...

be creative enjoy it, dont stress too much about what works or doesnt for you. guys remember its often takes a bit of work to get her off the same way!

here endeth icegeckos sex ed class *P

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As enjoyable as blowjobs are, I've never ejaculated from one either. I put it down to the lack of physical, exerting, strenuous thrusting. Though enjoyable they may be, I can't shoot my load with them really. They will get me kinda close, but nowhere near enough to actually cum.

Like has been said, just use it as a prerequisite for sex, eg. a form of foreplay before she finishes you off with a handjob.
 
my boyfriend sometimes gets annoyed because my head is blocking his view :-/ i suggested he could jerk it himself if he'd prefer. He doesn't come from my sucking, though he moans like it's the greatest thing ever, mostly to keep me from losing interest I think. Sometimes he'll jack off in my mouth, but I'd rather it be on my body so HE has to lick it up, not me. I enjoy giving them, as long as the guy doesn't pull my hair/ head when I'm doing it. Us girls have to breathe too, you know!

^fucking agreed! i hate it when my boyfriend gets into it, like him groaning i think its hot i also think he does it to keep my going..whichi is cool[: but yes guys dont pull our heads closer to your dick than it already is..its itrritating and i cant suck your dick like that.
 
Good god, I had always had this problem - until recently, my girlfriend has been on her fucking game. She made me cum for the first time ever close to a year ago and then not again for a really long time. The past couple of times she has given me mouth love, I came in under two minutes. Insane!

Alas, there is hope. I'm 26 years old and it's taken 10 years to get the right mouth on it. :D
 
dont sweat it mate, i couldnt come from a BJ off my ex, but i didnt worry bout it.... just need to find a girl whos better at it! ;)
 
For years, actually for pretty much my whole life, I thought it was pretty much impossible for me to cum from blowjobs. It certainly wasn't due to a lack of trying from partners, I just couldn't. get. off. I assumed it was me because I thought the blowjobs I was getting were "good".

Until I met a chick that could get me off every single time with her mouth. She skipped all the fancy crap chicks do that is supposed to look sexy but doesn't really feel any different and got straight down to business. More importantly, she was willing to stick to it until the job was done.

For as much as most women like to think they're good at oral(I mean what guy ISN'T going to say they're good?), most of them aren't that great. When you find one that pays attention and learns what you like, you won't have any problem getting off from head.
 
I find that for some guys, a bit of fingering/ bum teasing can go a long way... also, using the hand if this is someone who need a lot of pressure on his cock to come and not just the soft sensation of the mouth. Deep throating helps, though I can only do it for a few minutes before I need to breath, and as for sticking with it... had my lip bleeding a couple of times from being face fucked, but I just think it's hot ;) also, going really fast doesn't do it for everyone as the man can lose sensitivity eventually.

But basically, some guys come really quickly from bjs, some don't and can take a lot of work, others like it as foreplay, some finish themselves off on my face... hell, who cares? As long as everyone is happy why are we so stuck on how/where/when we *should* come? If you and your gf get off and are keeping it varied and creative this is all that matters. And I'm with Priest here, heterosexuals do only seem to consider penetrative sex to be "sex", but one of my favourite things about my heterosexual relationship is that sometimes one of us will give the other oral or we'll get each other off without penetration, just so it's not the same thing every night. It feels very intimate and special to be able to concentrate fully on pleasuring the other person, and I'd hardly say we've had an evening of foreplay or not had sex just because there was no penetration! And for the OP - the more you worry about it, the less it's likely to happen... just take the pressure off and enjoy the sensations.
 
For years, actually for pretty much my whole life, I thought it was pretty much impossible for me to cum from blowjobs. It certainly wasn't due to a lack of trying from partners, I just couldn't. get. off. I assumed it was me because I thought the blowjobs I was getting were "good".

Until I met a chick that could get me off every single time with her mouth. She skipped all the fancy crap chicks do that is supposed to look sexy but doesn't really feel any different and got straight down to business. More importantly, she was willing to stick to it until the job was done.

For as much as most women like to think they're good at oral(I mean what guy ISN'T going to say they're good?), most of them aren't that great. When you find one that pays attention and learns what you like, you won't have any problem getting off from head.

exactly- making a man cum from a blowjob is a combination of skill and perseverance. as a man who has had men blow him and blown men its all about finding the right spot and working it continuously. on uncircumcised men this is the banjo string, but dont forget to gently wank the man as you are sucking/stroking with your tongue the banjo string. if someone does this to you for long enough with the right use of pressure, you will come.
 
yeah im kind of like genericmind - ive had women go down on me my whole life and never came from it. i dated one girl (incredibly stacked african vixen) who was a dom instructor, blowjob instructor, stripper teacher, porn instructor - and you wouldnt believe the talent she had with her tounge and lips. she loved unleashing her sexual energy more than anything else in life, and loved mesmerizing a man with it. couldnt ever make me cum from sucking me off tho!

ive had a few 3 way experiences where i was damned determined to cum from getting head, also to no avail. i pretty must assumed a lot of things - that i was someone who had to be in control of the situation to orgasm, and thats why i couldnt get off from head. maybe also i was less sensitive than normal men or something, and thats why (cuz up until then, i could only cum fully from semi-rough sex, i could fuck indefinitely at more relaxed paces). maybe my mind was too wound up or excited, not sure, all i knew was that it was impossible to cum from head. that actually makes for excellent conversation too, i typically date more hedonistic types so talking about sex with total strangers isnt weird, and it really surprised me how many women out there see it as a challenge, and want to BE the one. so many girls are like, "oh thats cuz you never had me!" and are determined to be the one to make me cum. 100% failure on all fronts.

i really dont care about jerking off into a woman's mouth. its very pornstar-ish (most porn behavior i find strange and unnatural). im not saying ive never done it ;), just saying its no replacement for laying back, hacking no control over how anything feels, and just letting a load out softly.

so yeah, then i met the love of my life. the first night we had sex, we were fucking like crazy and the condom broke. without saying a word she just dove down on me and sucked my dick. i figured id give her like 5-10 mins before i explained that it was impossible to make me cum that way, and that i diddnt mind if the night ended without me getting off. i diddnt last that long :). she made me cum in like, 2, maybe 3 mins. it was pretty mindblowing, no pun intended.

now i feel "free" from this prior condition of not being able to cum from oral. she can do it 100% of the time, and it isnt some sort of technical wizardry, its just a bond we have and shes also really fucking amazing at it and loves doing it (thats the most important thing - your partner being passionate about doing it, and real). i dont enjoy cumming from oral nearly as much as from sex, so i only ask for it once in a while. its a totally different feeling, feels way diff than cumming from penetrative sex. a lot of it may have to do with love, a lot of it may have to do with her allowing me to find out how to relax my self down there and just let it out.

so the new experiment is to see if other women can do this to me now. were playing with some other girls as of late, but thats sort of my job to satisfy them, and havent really had an opportunity to just lay back and let all the attention on me (also drugs are usually involved, i need to be sober or just stoned to get off from oral). weel see, but i have a feeling that my lover has unlocked a new dimension to sexual pleasure in my head, and now im free to just "let it go" when some warm lips relax me enough.

seriously, just gotta chill out.
 
have you tried being in control ?
if you masturbate you are in control,
if you fuck her face off like its your hand im pretty sure you should cum
but then you and-or her might have a problem with that
she might not be comfortable letting you use her throat like a toy
and you might feel like you are hurting or disrespecting her
but if you two find a way to be in tune with each other about whats happening as it is happening i think that there shouldnt be any reason why you shouldnt cum
 
I never cum from blowjobs for years until with my mrs in the early days, one night, she just grabbed me and started doing it and doing it well. It's more in the brain than anything else, if you are relaxed, turned out and without any pressure to cum it'll happen eventually! If you keep trying to cum, it puts pressure on you too and it makes it harder / impossible.
 
See, im the exact opposite. Sometimes i cant cum from the actual sex part and only when i get a bj is when i come after we both get tired lol. I mostly think this is because im usually on opana or some other strong opiate which kills my sex drive in the first place so im lucky to cum any when im on something like that.

It can make for quite an embarassing situation if the girl youre dating has never had expierence with them. hahaha =)
 
It's actually really common for guys to not be able to cum from blow jobs. I consider myself to be pretty fucking good at giving them, but a lot of the time even when they're loving it guys will still want to move on to doing something else. I have had a few dudes who did cum tell me they don't normally, or that it was the first time for them, which is good for my ego, but also just goes to show that it's not unusual for blow jobs not to necessarily make a guy cum.
 
if she gives the bet head ever, just ask her to step up the pace. and relax.

It takes a while to get off through justgetting head, from my experiences...are you circumcised, just out of interest?

Ask her to use her hands a bit too.
 
Yep I am circumcised. I don't know, I get off just fine from pussy. I'm kinda over it, maybe one day I'll get off from a good doming. I've also recently sworn of masturbation forever. I think with increased jizz levels I'll have an easier time cumming from the dome. I don't really care either way anymore, its no big deal.
 
... for the record im the same way :-\ its a challenge, but i accept that, and all its consequences.

:p
 
Yea it can take some time for me to get off from a BJ. I have to really concentrate, and it helps if I havent gotten off in 24+ hours although I can do it.. Honestly after a couple minutes of her giving me head it isn't long before i tell her that's enough and fuck her brains out.
 
Like a few others have said, you are not alone. Oral sex just isnt my thing ._. I dont know why, i've gotten sum good head but it just never happened. Maybe i just couldnt get into it??? I usually engage in more than oral because i already know how its gonna end if I don't
 
I came CLOSE to having came today lol.... Got some really bomb head. I had already ejaculated during sex earlier that morning so I was surprised how close I felt.. This girl seems determined, I have a feeling oneday I'm gonna cum from a blowjob.
 
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