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    So I have suffered from penis anxiety pretty much ever since on of my friends flashed me as a teen. (yes very gay, I know.) Lets just say that with his size he could do porn and be very successful at it.

    I am in my early 20s and my erect size is 5.75inches maybe 5.9 on a very good day. This anxiety has prevented me from being intimate with woman. I feel like at best if she has been with a guy like my friend or even someone who is just above 6 inches, that she is down grading with me. At worst I think they might even laugh when they see it flaccid. (can be as small as an inch.)

    I hope that I still have an inch of growth left in me but I am starting to doubt it. I really don't know what to do.
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    dude theres nothing you can do, and your shit is average size according to other things ive read. And even if it was three inches why would you not try to get laid anyway? better to get pussy with a small dick than none at all
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    Many guys' penises are extremely small when flaccid. I'm not sure why this is an issue, and ~6 inches is average. Comparing yourself to a potential partner's past partners will not make anything sexual less uncomfortable. You need to be confident in your endeavours. Women can pick up on this. Go into it with a clear head and do your thing.
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    (a) You're not that small, honestly.
    (b) Most women prefer foreplay and then intercourse to 'finish them off', so get this right and you could pull out an acorn afterwards and she'll be impressed with ya.
    (c) There are many positions that result in deeper penetration - look them up. I'm only just over 7 inches and there are many of these positions where i am TOO BIG for some women. Not my size obviously; just the position.
    (d) Any girl who sniffs at your size really isn't worth it.
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    You sound pretty avg to me, which is just like mine as well. It practically disappears after getting out of some cold water Don't sweat it, It's really not as important as our culture tries to make it. The constant inundation of extenze commercials and such, has had a pretty negative impact (i.m.o) on a lot of men.
    Porn as well creates this false impression, about penis size, about what sex is, about how women and men should look. Just be a real person, learn how to use it, learn how to give good oral. Once you try these things you'll realize it's not a big deal (no pun intended), and that avg can be the best thing for a lot of women.
    And if a chick were to say something? I would say it's more than big enough to poke her in the eye...
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    It's not your penis that isn't sexy, it's your anxiety.
    Change that, and you penis will look like a million bucks to the next girl who sees it.
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    you're not small. size is relative. you know, i used to have a bit of anxiety myself. mainly because i am a grower and i would be at gym class or something in High School and there are guys walking around in their sweat pants with adequate bulges and it would make me feel really inferior. but i learned with more sexual partners that i was actually a very comfortable size for women. you will grow into your own comfort and you will realize that it's really not that big of a deal. especially when flaccid (that was my main insecurity) but when i'm getting hot and heavy with a lady friend my penis is anything but low-key.

    do you have problems getting an erection? i mean, does the anxiety effect you that extensively?
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    dude I'm a hardcore size queen, and even I can tell you that you've got nothing to be worried about

    honestly there are men with smaller cocks than yours who think they are among the most well endowed creatures on the planet!!!

    just relax and enjoy the fruits of your sexuality my friend....
    there are fewer things more exquisitely rewarding in this life
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    I have a female friend and her ex boyfriend use to have a 8 inch penis and now her new boyfriend has a 5.5 inch penis and she told me she prefers the smaller one as it hits her gspot directly during intercourse. see bigger isn't always better
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    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered357 View Post
    So I have suffered from penis anxiety pretty much ever since on of my friends flashed me as a teen. (yes very gay, I know.) Lets just say that with his size he could do porn and be very successful at it.

    I am in my early 20s and my erect size is 5.75inches maybe 5.9 on a very good day. This anxiety has prevented me from being intimate with woman. I feel like at best if she has been with a guy like my friend or even someone who is just above 6 inches, that she is down grading with me. At worst I think they might even laugh when they see it flaccid. (can be as small as an inch.)

    I hope that I still have an inch of growth left in me but I am starting to doubt it. I really don't know what to do.
    take a xanax and chill out, make some random hook ups and fuck um and forget um to get your confidence up. In the end its how you work it that matters, size isn't everything and some women are terrified of overly large penis', I have had trouble in the past from girls not wanting to sleep with me because it hurts them (stretching and hitting the organs inside) a few of my hookups actually hurt me because I am mashing my dick against a hard wall inside, not sure what that is.

    not trying to thread jack, just pointing out that there is too big and too much is just as bad as not enough, yours is average and all peens are small while flaccid, don;t sweat it. When you meet the right woman whom you click with she wont be too concerned with your penis size if you are capable of getting her off. There is always your finger and you can bring toys and oral sex into the play as well. penis size is not the most important thing in a sexual relationship. You could have King Kong's dick but if you cant get her off its useless.
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    I highly recommend you find maybe some pictures of dicks... OF AVERAGE MEN and stop looking at PORN dicks.... not every man is 10+

    mellow the fuck out average dick is something like 5.5inches/6inches

    be confident in your dick kid... and if you have no confidence... fuck some girls with small confidence too... let them build your shit up... plus get some sex practice... than move on.... to something better... with a higher confidence and some sexy moves.... lol GOod luck


    btw don't think sex with a women is like a women in a porno... They all don't do that shit and don't all moan like that... actually most don't scream like that...just in case you think that crap and that will make you think you suck in bed because she didn't scream craziness
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    There IS exactly ONE thing that is a VERY big deal when it comes to the size of your cock:

    THE FACT THAT YOU ARE BEING COUNTERPRODUCTIVE BY FOCUSSING ON IT!

    Play to your strengths.

    And figure out (through living life) how to be genuinely confident because confidence trumps the greatest genitals in the world.
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    Everyone's been worried about this at some point. Just get good at eating pussy and fingering, and then it doesn't matter if you've got a micro penis.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Moral Decay View Post
    I am mashing my dick against a hard wall inside, not sure what that is.
    It's called the cervix.
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    5/6 inches is a good size in my opinion.
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    you should quit measuring your penis.
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    ^^^^ and start using it, lol
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    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered357 View Post
    So I have suffered from penis anxiety pretty much ever since on of my friends flashed me as a teen. (yes very gay, I know.) Lets just say that with his size he could do porn and be very successful at it.

    I am in my early 20s and my erect size is 5.75inches maybe 5.9 on a very good day. This anxiety has prevented me from being intimate with woman. I feel like at best if she has been with a guy like my friend or even someone who is just above 6 inches, that she is down grading with me. At worst I think they might even laugh when they see it flaccid. (can be as small as an inch.)

    I hope that I still have an inch of growth left in me but I am starting to doubt it. I really don't know what to do.
    Look at the bright side...with a penis your size, you could fuck all night and she won't ever become sore!

    On the other hand, you are right to worry; if your member is really as small as an inch when flaccid, I would not let her see you naked in the light until after she agrees to marry you because the laughter will echo in your head forever. That could really hurt your self esteem. And definitely always remember to trim your pubic hair so the penis sticks out further than the bush.

    Having a very large penis has its downsides. Some positions will be painful for the woman and they tend to get sore sooner than you may wish. Plus, after a night of really rough sex it is generally a few days before she is ready for more. Morning after sex is a rarity and that sucks more than having a small dick.

    So the lesson is to make the most of what you have, or find a sympathetic doctor to make you into a woman with a small vaginal canal.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Captain.Heroin View Post
    It's called the cervix.

    I did some reading about the cervix and that must be it, I noticed there are positions where it isn't a problem but like if she is on top it usually happens and can be pretty painful.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Unregistered357 View Post
    So I have suffered from penis anxiety pretty much ever since on of my friends flashed me as a teen. (yes very gay, I know.) Lets just say that with his size he could do porn and be very successful at it.

    I am in my early 20s and my erect size is 5.75inches maybe 5.9 on a very good day. This anxiety has prevented me from being intimate with woman. I feel like at best if she has been with a guy like my friend or even someone who is just above 6 inches, that she is down grading with me. At worst I think they might even laugh when they see it flaccid. (can be as small as an inch.)

    I hope that I still have an inch of growth left in me but I am starting to doubt it. I really don't know what to do.
    My erect wang is roughly the same size as yours. I always thought that my weiner was small too but women I've been with have told me honestly that I'm actually average sized. My ex says she's seen bigger but also much smaller. I wouldn't sweat it if I was you.
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    I hear shaving your balls makes your penis bigger...or so everyone here tells me
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    Quote Originally Posted by morninggloryseed View Post
    Look at the bright side...with a penis your size, you could fuck all night and she won't ever become sore!

    On the other hand, you are right to worry; if your member is really as small as an inch when flaccid, I would not let her see you naked in the light until after she agrees to marry you because the laughter will echo in your head forever. That could really hurt your self esteem. And definitely always remember to trim your pubic hair so the penis sticks out further than the bush.

    So the lesson is to make the most of what you have, or find a sympathetic doctor to make you into a woman with a small vaginal canal.
    Yeah, I can relate to the OP with this right here. Once you actually think about it, it pretty much means you end up as celibate as a nun. Somehow knew I was gonna be small even at the age of like 5...which was funny cause I didn't really understand that sort of thing then.

    Actually thought about doing that last thing before just cause it would be more sex....though probably just as potentially humiliating, if not more. If it makes you feel better OP, you are bigger than I am by a pretty decent margin. Just imagine what that must look like flaccid anytime you feel inadequate. From what I can tell most guys have inadequacies about their dicks even when it isn't warranted, so just imagine how that must be when a girl/guy is like...oh it can't be that bad...and then it is
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    As a woman without much legnth down there, (i'm 5'1 and very little) I LOVE THE SHORT PENISES. Haha. HONESTLY! The long ones hurt a lot and make me look like i'm having spastic seizures when they go too deep. Not cool. Pick a petite lady
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    ^^^ +1

    If you get a really petite girl your cock will look HUGE next to her.
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