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Size: does it matter? & Great sex and penis size.

As a gay guy, it took me years to get around the social image of shallow people who care about size, but I finally was honest enough to admit to myself that size does matter to me. Guys can be either too small or too large for me. Sex with a guy who has a truly small cock is just not the same, and if a guy is over 7.5" or 8" it can be quite limiting as well. Thickness is always more important for me anyway.

If I watch porn with guys with horse cocks, it doesn't even turn me on because I can't key into the fantasy of what's happening. Then again, I'm a bit strange that way. Most of my fantasies have to be tied into the realm of what is realistically attainable for me to get all hot and bothered.

On another note, the sex columnist Dan Savage says that he receives quite a few letters from very well hung guys who say that it often makes sex difficult and that they would actually have penis reduction surgery if it were possible and/or practical.
 
Frankly I feel that this issues stems directly from the phallocentric view our culture has of sex. This phallocentric view is quite limiting in the range of human sexual experience and expression, especially in heterosexual relationships. Men (and many women) view the penis and penetration as the focal point of sex. If this was a part of a broader spectrum of sexual expression than I imagine that people would have much better sex and much less of an issue with penis size. Hell so many women fail to obtain orgasm, good non-penis centered sexual consciousnesses would allow, in my opinion, a lot more women to orgasm. The penetrative sex revolving around the male penis is only one part of many acts which one should use to arouse/stimulate lovers.

I can dig up some interesting critiques of phallocentric, heterosexist sex if anyone is interested.
 
Well, a guy's dick size doesn't bother ME as long as MY breast size doesn't bother HIM ;)! Guys aren't the only ones who deal with the "does size matter" thing. Girls also get the "are they REAL or FAKE thing, as well. How many guys get asked if their "thing" is REAL, lol?

Just read that about the "ruined" by a BIG.....lol! I'm petite, 5' 0", 90 pounds (on a GOOD day). My man has a big one and ain't NOTHING ruined. I even had 3 kids, by "express" route/ c-section so that's intact, as well. I have to say though that I was "forced" against my will once by this shiot man I had known for awhile. He was drunk, and managed to hold me down, but when I saw "it", I nearly cracked up. It looked like a worm (the size of my pinky finger) coming out of a great, big, hairy "bird's nest, lol! Not exactly "assault with a deadly weapon" but I DIDN'T laugh, because IF he had've HAD a BIG one, I wouldn't been able to laugh, or sit down either. As it was, after 5 minutes he passed out. I got out of there but that sure got me to thinking that I couldn't with one THAT small. He probably had less than 3 or 4 inches. It doesn't take a great big one to satisfy a woman UNLESS she's a moose or something BUT that isn't always the case either. Sometimes BIG women have tighter ones than small women do....
 
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Frankly I feel that this issues stems directly from the phallocentric view our culture has of sex. This phallocentric view is quite limiting in the range of human sexual experience and expression, especially in heterosexual relationships. Men (and many women) view the penis and penetration as the focal point of sex. If this was a part of a broader spectrum of sexual expression than I imagine that people would have much better sex and much less of an issue with penis size. Hell so many women fail to obtain orgasm, good non-penis centered sexual consciousnesses would allow, in my opinion, a lot more women to orgasm. The penetrative sex revolving around the male penis is only one part of many acts which one should use to arouse/stimulate lovers.

I can dig up some interesting critiques of phallocentric, heterosexist sex if anyone is interested.


I'm interested in reading some critiques, actually. What you say makes sense.
 
I'm interested in reading some critiques, actually. What you say makes sense.

cool I did some research on it this past year, currently working on my thesis so I am slammed with work, I'll go digging through my notes sometime soon and see if I can relocate some of the text.

One book you could check out, if a local library has it, is "The Science/fiction of Sex" this has a couple good articles about the issues surrounding Heterosexist/Phallocentric sex.
 
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If a guy wants to "stick it up my butt" , I tell him if my twat ain't tight enough, it's because his dick ain't big enough. Child-sized as it seems to be, my kitty-Cat does NOT require a child-sized pecker, lol :). Besides that, how many men are going to actually take the time to stop and go wash it off with antibacterial soap BEFORE putting it back in the kitty? If they DON'T, a bacterial infection may result.

As for size, some guys with great big ones strutt around like they're "da man" but he probably isn't getting much action fom ANYBODY unless he's a porn star or something. So his big ego and big dick will probably have to keep each other company. It's the same with breasts. There are some gals walking around with great big hooters that they sport like it's a trophy or something but look "behind" them and you will a great big butt to go with them. They act like nobody notices THAT. Well, not every man is a "breast" man. Not saying a petite woman can't have naturally large breasts but not usually it seems, unless it's a genetic thing and other females in her family have, them too.

Size really is just one part of a person's anatomical features but their own perception of that size might dictate how they behave about it. I don't like "cocky" men, no matter how big their "cock" is but self-confidence, on the other hand, is sexy. I imagine the same is probably true for women. Ironically, it's often the men with the smaller peckers who can do the most with them because they think they have to go out of their way to compensate and please the woman. AND they learn very well, since they imagine the big-dicked dudes are getting all the girls and probably know all the tricks. Ha!

Often the "Biggins" think they don't have to do a thing BECAUSE they do have such a big one, and if he is arrogant and hansome as well, it's even worse. He EXPECTS to be worshipped. Phallis worship is definitely NOT on my to-do list. If a woman cares for her man, she KNOWS how to make him feel like he's got one 3 feet long. Like Psychedelic Dream said, if you know what you're doing in the oral department, there's not likely to be any bitching going on.

If a man has a lot going for him, let's say for the sake of argument he's damn near perfect-handsome, sweet, good-mannered, great build, intelligent, etc...BUT he's on the "small" side anatomically, it's doubtful ANY woman is going to turn him down JUST because of THAT! By the same token,say the woman is pretty, smart, sweet, great build BUT she's on the "small" side anatomically, what man would turn her down JUST because of THAT? True, she can always get implants and he can always get his size "adjusted" cosmetically, as well, but that's beside the point. The point being that they don'tfeel like they HAVE to just to adjust anythng to please someone else or to compete.

I have a male friend, in his late 60s, who just went and had this "adjustment" made to his dick. He's nearly 7 feet tall (he's 6' & 3/4") and 275 pounds with a big stomach (looks like he's having triplets). He was with a woman once and had just dropped his pants when the woman said, "oh my God, as big and tall as you are, I thought you'd have one that hung to your knees, at least." This guy had a great big ego to start with but that ONE little comment had him RUNNING to the plastic surgeon to "fix" his problem. It didn't occur to him that his great big "tool shed" of a stomach was putting his dick in the shadow and that it was his all-over "bigness" that made his dick look smaller, in comparison to the rest of him. Duh!He already had an "internal pump" or penile prosthesis, they call it, because he claims he was sprayed with Agent Orange in Viet Nam and it "affected" his ability to get an erection. So the dude didn't ever have to worry about ever needing Viagara or anything and was quite PROUD of the fact but she sure busted his bubble on the "size" thing. NOW he can't get a woman who will go near him because it's TOO BIG!

So fellas, if you ever take it into your head to go do something like that, think long and "hard" (pun intended) because most women can handle a small dick but not EVERY woman can or WANTS to handle a big one. Unless you are just "microsopic", as someone referred to it, I'd just get a woman that accepted it and YOU the way you are. I'd rather have a good, sweet man (okay, at least cute, too) with a small one than a man with a great big dick and an ego to match, even IF he looked Johnny Depp or Antonio Banderras. "Dynamite comes in small packages" and this is true for BOTH sexes....;)
 
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What do people have against short paragraphs?

Betsym I think your posts are very interesting, but It would be great if I didn't have to read such a large chunk of text. 15 lines of 25 - 30 words is a bit much.
 
Okay, I'll fix it, buddy, lol! I have ADHD and I guess it shows :) I'm just not used to giving "one-liners" because at Drug forums, you get "penalized" (no pun intended) for that. I'm a published author and used to writing "books" but will try to remember I'm not working on a manuscript when posting....;).

Okay, that was the best I could do....might have to trim my thoughts down and "resize" my posts, lol :) SIZE matters everywhere....
 
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Much appreciated. I did read through your long post and I think you made some good points.

Really though, even if someone DID reject a guy because his dick is too small -- So what??

Men and women often reject potential dates or suitors because of something the other person cannot control. That's just the way it goes. No matter how deep we all might think or hope we are, we are all probably shallow in certain ways.

If I met someone who had a lot in common with me and was a great person, BUT had a voice that I find really annoying and was not the least bit physically attractive to me, I would be unlikely to pursue a romantic relationship. Is that fair? She can’t help the way she looks or the sound of her voice. Those are things we are born with.

Yet, I suspect most people would also not pursue a relationship under those same circumstances. Note that I am not saying the person necessarily has an annoying voice or that she is ugly. Other people might find her attractive or her voice appealing. To each his own.

But it not realistic to expect people to overlook important qualities in the other person, even if they are not ones the other person controls. If a guy complains that a woman rejected him because his dick is “too small” for her liking, I would say to that guy, “ok, have you ever rejected a girl because you thought she was ugly or unattractive?”
 
Yep, which is basically what I said just took longer doing it, lol! I don't have anything against "paragraphs" but "one-liners" can sometimes be annoying and you might wonder why they even bothered to post if that's all they had to say.

And so what if a guy did get rejected?"One person's junk is another person's treasure" the saying goes.....
 
if she was being honest (which she might not have been) then maybe try dating smaller chicks exclusively. They don't need a huge dick in them (generally) and you don't need to worry about her not feeling it (probably)
 
I believe most women who've been with a big guy are not ruined for sex with average or small guys either physically or psychologically. Any more than a woman who's dated a rich man is ruined for living in a small house with a man she loves.

In my experience, it's the exact opposite. I've been with chicks who missed their rich exbf's. i've also been with some that have openly told me that they wouldn't have sex with a guy with a small dick after having been with bigger ones. I'd say the majority of girls i've talked to about the subject are the opposite.

that makes me sad:(
 
^ Maybe it depends on the age of the girls? It can take a while to figure out what's important in life. I can see a younger girl missing the money or the big dick and wanting to get that in her next relationship, whereas a fully-mature woman can put those things in perspective because she knows that they're not the key to her happiness.
 
this thread has confirmed it once and for all.

ID say 90% of females put great value on size and fucking ability.

i hate that they all try to sugar coat it and say they 'kind of' dont care , but really they do.

so if you have a small dick you better fuck really good and be wild.

this is such a dumb question to ask a women too because they will never give you a straight answer.
 
personally, i think it's hot when chicks like big dicks..and anyways whats wrong with being honest about what they enjoy?maybe i'd feel different if i had a small dick..but it wouldnt change the fact that women shouldnt be ridiculed for being honest about their prefference.
 
One of my straight customer told me one day that a thick wallet will get you more chicks than a thick cock.
 
fUkk her. Don't let no bitch make u feel bad about urself. She was probably just lieing r something. Size does matter... but there are other ways to make a woman feel good too.
 
Great sex and penis size

Question, mostly for ladies.. Is it possible to have awesome sex with a guy but wish his penis was bigger? Or, if the sex is awesome then that means his penis is big enough and you don't want anything different? The reason I ask is because I think I'm pretty good in bed, I make pretty much all the girls I sleep with have a few orgasms and they are almost always completely satisfied.. they tell me I'm the best , the sex is great blah blah...

My dick is pretty average though, right on 6 inches and probably about 5 or so in girth, maybe a little more than 5... Some girls have told me I'm big, but I know I'm average.. What I wonder is... I know these girls honestly are having an awesome time having sex with me, they are cumming hard, and all that.. noone ever complained about me not being especially big.. but i know a bigger than average dick is a turn on for a lot of women... would you have awesome sex with a guy, cum super hard, but still wish he was bigger, or if the sex is great then you dont really consider wanting more size because everything is so good already? Be honest, afterall I'm not worried because I'm at least average sized, but i just wondered about this because from what I gather, 8 x 6 seems to be the perfect cock size for the average woman, and that's definitely big.
 
Question, mostly for ladies.. Is it possible to have awesome sex with a guy but wish his penis was bigger? Or, if the sex is awesome then that means his penis is big enough and you don't want anything different? The reason I ask is because I think I'm pretty good in bed, I make pretty much all the girls I sleep with have a few orgasms and they are almost always completely satisfied.. they tell me I'm the best , the sex is great blah blah...

My dick is pretty average though, right on 6 inches and probably about 5 or so in girth, maybe a little more than 5... Some girls have told me I'm big, but I know I'm average.. What I wonder is... I know these girls honestly are having an awesome time having sex with me, they are cumming hard, and all that.. noone ever complained about me not being especially big.. but i know a bigger than average dick is a turn on for a lot of women... would you have awesome sex with a guy, cum super hard, but still wish he was bigger, or if the sex is great then you dont really consider wanting more size because everything is so good already? Be honest, afterall I'm not worried because I'm at least average sized, but i just wondered about this because from what I gather, 8 x 6 seems to be the perfect cock size for the average woman, and that's definitely big.

8 x 6 sounds like a fuckin chode to me bro.
 
I think you have overestimated your girth--five inch girth or six-inch girth is just too girthy for most females.
 
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