anna! said:
Thanks Liz
We spoke at length about it last night, and his stance is 100% "I don't want to contribute to the human race because it's fucked and I hate it". He doesn't want to live life thinking that he's contributed to a bollocks society.
I don't think that's a good enough reason for me
My kids are what is
good in the world, not bad. The kind of happiness they bring is what makes the other bullshit bearable.
Very OT but I gotta ask why this guy would be making a big deal about having this extended wold trip thing when he thinks the world is shit?
I had a drunken christmas conversation a few years ago which I have never forgotten, about absent fathers- with my then husband's step father's ex wife.
She had 4 kids in total, apparently to 2 fathers, 2 marriages.
But one of the family secrets was she was having an affair with her first hubby's brother and her second child (my exes step sister) wast the brother's kid.
She justified it by saying that it didn't matter who the father was, they were just a sperm donor, and she wanted another baby when her hubby was working away and not able to make a "deposit".
That baby girl, who is my close friend regardless of my divorce, has had a very fucked up life as a result of not having any idea her dad was really her uncle, and no clue as to why her "daddy" - her mums hubby- didn't like her.
I really don't think for a moment anna! would get pregnant deliberately, thats as bullshit as the guy not taking any responsibility if it happens.
If this dude really did think the world is shit, its because of shit like him who don't do anything to better it.
Is he like this with anything thats got any responsibility about it?
Sounds like you already had 3 kids to be honest, you're just trading one overgrown crybaby for a smaller, less painful version