View Full Version : for the girls: does a large penis ever hurt you during sex?

12-06-2003, 19:33
Okay yeah so my current partner is very well equipped. Sometimes if we're having sex (usually rough sex ;) ) and he goes in really deep it ends up hurting a bit. Yeah, I'm not too fond of the feeling of having his dick banging up against my cervix.

However one of my friends says that she doesn't think a penis can ever be too big, whereas I definitely think it can be (I've been with guys with large penises on more than one occasion and have always found that it can hurt sometimes if they're big enough).

I'm a fairly petite girl, though, so I guess that might have something to do with it.

Personally I'd rather have a less large (though not small by any means!) penis on my guy so that way we can be as rough as we want and I won't ever have to worry about it hurting.

So, to all the ladies out there, do you ever find that a penis can be too big?

I like being on top, but I find I can't really get as down n dirty as I'd like without feeling a bit of pain. :(

So, any good suggestions for that, either? I like rough sex but that usually means a lot of hard thrusting which leads to cervix banging and thus pain. BAH!

- Mella

12-06-2003, 19:55
My boyfriend is pretty well-endowed, but usually it doesn't hurt me.

However, a couple weeks ago we had like a 60+ minute marathon session during which I was dry as the freakin sahara down there (and usually he complains that I get too wet and that makes him cum sooner than he'd like 8) ), and I was also freshly shaven so I guess maybe the area was extra sensitive as well. I was in SOOOOOOOOOOO much pain, I was holding back tears, but I insisted he kept going b/c I wanted him to get off. After we were done I was in so much pain I couldn't help but cry, and I also couldn't even get up and walk so he had to carry me to bed (we were on a pull out sofa in another room during the act). Still hurt a lot for the next few days :(

After this experience I'm thinking I need to invest in some lube ;)

12-06-2003, 20:16
lube is good, try astroglide or wet

12-06-2003, 20:30
something that might help is locating where your cervix is. if you're at a certain angle, his penis might be hitting the walls of your cervix and that hurts a lot. however, if you can feel for yourself and move so that his penis is going the same direction of your cervix, it should feel better. every girl's cervix is different, some are deep and toward their tailbone while others tend to be straight forward. hope it gets better...

12-06-2003, 20:33
What really IS well endowed these days? I've always wondered how my hog compared. THen again read some posts about people who've had numerous partners with 10 inch dicks. Is something like that freakish or common? Is it like 2 percent of the population?

12-06-2003, 20:41
I'm sorry but if a guy came near me with a 10" penis I'd probably run away screaming 8o 8o lol

That just sounds waaaaaaaaaaaaay to frickin big.

And I have no idea how big my boyfriend's penis is in inches. And I don't care. :p Compared to my past partners, he's bigger. But I dont' even care about that. Its what you do with it that matters ;)

12-06-2003, 21:04
Hey hun,

My fiance (or 'bastard' as we can now refer to him) has a large penis, one of the largest I've had (and I've had many). A couple months after I started dating him I had an abnormal papsmear. I FREAKED out thinking I had gotten an STD from him (being stupid enough not to get him tested before we started having unprotected sex). I was also having chronic pain in my lower abdomen...I was convinced I had some horrible infection. It turns out I was totally clean, and that he was just so large and vigourous (even though I never had pain during sex) that he disrupted the cells on my cervix, and that's why I had an abnormal papsmear.

I've found that careful angling, which I gradually learned to do, has prevented any more chronic pelvic pain and abnormal papsmears. It really is all about angling. There are certain positions however that I just can't do, and I just have to accept that.

Good luck honey and keep working on it...

12-06-2003, 22:20
Yes, oh my god yes.

its all about the position/angle

12-06-2003, 23:01
Yes, the last guy i slept with had a rather large penis....about 8 to 8 1/2 inches. Me being rather tight was in a lot of pain, especially the next day. It was still good sex, but it hurt to let him go all the way in.

13-06-2003, 01:35
from the back or the side with him on top always makes it deeper for me.... which sometimes adds some pain
these are the normal deep penetration position, an aid when your man isnt as big as he/you wishes///

on certian times/situations mostly there is just slightly uncomfortable pressure from him being so deep inside me but occasionally it feels as though he is physucally knocking something out of place... a change to missonary or something where i have more control of the penetration works so we can keep going without me wincing with every push

ha, how many guys wish they had a bigger dick and never know that really it might not be all that great for the girl

13-06-2003, 01:56
yep i have that problem it seems...

its all about the angle, if your on bottom try a pillow under your lower back/ass area...it helps me.

if your on top try turning around VS facing him, and angle your body slightly back...or slightly forward whatever feels better. that works for me as well.

13-06-2003, 01:58
Yes, I believe that a penis can be too big. I had a brief sexual relationship with a guy simply because he hurt me and I couldn't stand it.

13-06-2003, 09:53
I am just a normal sized guy, i.e. 6". However, when my gf and I have sex certain position will hurt her. So I think it is the position

Also, lubrication does help a lot!

13-06-2003, 13:47
^^lubrication helps a lot of things, but i dont see how it can help in this situation...whether your sliding around or dry, your still gonna hit the cervix if you go to deep or hard. :)

13-06-2003, 14:13
yeah too big is bad - i was with a guy that was super huge, it was all wrong an i ended up crying and nearly blacking out I was too ashamed to mention it too him as i didnt want to look like a freak, but im only 5'3

i never want to see anything like it again, if a guy pulls out something like that im running........:X

13-06-2003, 21:05
^^^ yeah i'm only 5'3 as well, so i feel your pain... literally! :)

14-06-2003, 01:40
sometime last week, i heard on the radio that a muslim girl (21 yrs old) wanted to divorce her husband (28 yrs old) because of his large penis. they have been married for 3 months but within those months they could start but never finish. apparently, the muslim court is not buying this so the judge sent the couple for medical treatment or testing...can't remember.

some callers were agreeing with the radio dj, one girl said she was admitted to the hospital.

14-06-2003, 04:51
The length of an average womens vagina (6 and 1/2 to 7 and 1/2 inches), regardless of the size of her body (body size has little to do with vagina length), is generally not much longer than the length of the average male penis(6 and 1/2 inches). So big penises are prolly much better off being wide than long, and prolly most women would have trouble with 8-10 inches. If your stuck with a guy too big, i suppose just make sure he doesnt use it all, is gentle etc and stay away from deep entry positions.

07-05-2009, 01:16
BUMP: Guys with large penis can obviously comment too.

One of my fantasies is to watch a grl get drilled with >10" (and enjoy it)! :)

4 me (being transexual) anything over 8" gives me trouble and is not satisfying 4 the guy.

07-05-2009, 17:44
Bigger is not always better. Just as angling can help when a guy is too big, I have found that certain angles can hurt me even when a guy isn't very big.

I always try to spread the word when I meet idiots who brag about their "huge cocks."

And on a sidenote: We don't want to be fucked for hours on end, either. That hurts too.

07-05-2009, 21:32
My ex recently came back into town and we hooked up. He's 6'3 and 10" and thick where as I'm 4"11 and pretty tight and it fucking HURT. I mean, hurt waaaay too bad to enjoy it. But I didn't want to make it awkward so we finished. But I think it had more to do with the fact that I wasn't wet at all (we pretty much jumped right to sex, no foreplay) and less with his size. We've hooked up before and it was great, I think this past time was just off.

But I personally prefer a 6-7" dick over some monster python cock. I mean, sure, it sounds nice, but it's a bit too cumbersome.

08-05-2009, 02:47
The pleasure doesn't come from the length, it comes from the GIRTH. ;-)

08-05-2009, 03:17
I think that being girthy is much better than being long. Yes, a big dick can be painful. I'm a small chick, too, and I had a boyfriend once that I just couldn't take most of the time.

08-05-2009, 03:25
I am so irrelevant to this thread I could puke blood.

08-05-2009, 03:54

Doesn't even have to be large - seems to be purely an angle issue for me. Last bf was about 6 inches - and he could *really* hurt me at some angles.
Bear in mind that the tilt of your cervix shifts during the month, so there won't be one position that works all the time. If I find a position that doesn't hurt, the guy can go as hard and rough as he likes without hurting me.

I guess.... try a few positions and see what works. I'd guess that him-on-top will probably be ok. Then in theory it's just a matter of learning how your body is tilted and keeping it in the same line in other positions. I never tried properly though - it's a really unpleasant pain - so I'd just stick with whatever didn't hurt if it was a bad-cervical-tilt-time.

08-05-2009, 05:12
BUMP: Guys with large penis can obviously comment too..

I normally hate responding to threads of this sort since I am a guy, as I always think that whatever I post will look bad for me, as though I am trying to toot my own horn, brag, or lie/whatever about my penis. So I will just keep it simple.

I have been told by everyone I have been with that I am big, yet I don't see it personally. I guess because of porn when I think "big" I picture something like 8 to 12 inches. And yes, I have to be gentle for most women because it can be painful for them if I am not. The women I have spoken to about this sort of thing all agree that there is definitely a "too big", however what "too big" is seems to vary from woman to woman.

It seems it's all about communicating and learning what feels good for the woman and what doesn't so sex can be pleasurable with no pain involved.

At the same time, however, if a woman is not ready and warmed up before intercourse I would imagine that a penis of any size could hurt if it's just thrusted right in there before the woman's ready.

The last relationship I was in was with a very petite girl, though, so that may have had something to do with her insistence that I was big. Most of the other women I have dated were a bit taller than I am (I'm only 5'4") but I've gotten the same response. I guess I don't like to focus on what they think of my penis because I'm afraid I'll get cocky (pun intended)/arrogant and start acting like a prick (again with the puns). :\

10-05-2009, 15:32
Yeah- all cocks are too big for my ass. I seriously have a problem with anal. As far as my pussy goes, I can handle most dicks.

23-08-2010, 21:27
I am a male I do believe there is such a thing as a man being to large for a woman. Most small petite women can not take a lot in certain positions, until they loosen up. Being small you have to be with someone that can help you to relax. This will help you loosen up to take a larger penis, then it will most likely not hurt so much. I am not real large about 7" by 6.5", but I have had women to say it hurts so I had to do something different. I am an older male that has been around the block a little bit, I have had a lot of women. I have had many different size women tall, short, big and small so I have experience with a lot of women. I also beg to differ with person who said a womans vagina is 6" to 7" deep, it's starts at about 4" and stretches to about 7" deep. All women are not the same size just like all men are not the same size, some can take more.

23-08-2010, 21:49
I'm very very petite (I'm 5'1" and 95 lbs) but I'm a masochist, but the masochism is on/off and can be really tiring. I dated a guy who was 10" and we had some amazingly intense sex because it was so painful and we were so into each other, but when our relationship died down there was just no way, the positions were limited, and it sucked. Also I could come from normal sex and my stamina was terrible. I'm dating a 6-7" guy and it's only painful in the beginning and in certain positions, my stamina is better and I can get off.

And yeah the first time I saw 10" I lol'd, it was way too fucking big.

The best positions for that are plain missionary, sideways with your legs closed, from behind while you're lying flat and he's on your back, and on top facing front so you can control it better. Imo. Don't push your legs back, he's going to ram your cerv.

23-08-2010, 23:44
If the cervix is hit for long enough it can actually prolapse and the penis can get right up her then.

23-08-2010, 23:53
my bf is big it hurts when we have sex but it feels soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo good. x

24-08-2010, 00:04
Tell us more about that.

I'm not horny right now.

24-08-2010, 00:45
OP: I dated a guy who was really really big too. He knew it too. I couldn't give any BJs...it was HUGE. And, I agree - I prefer a smaller size (I can't believe I am saying that LOL). Sex with him hurt sometimes and it was a little awkward at times.

Maybe try some lubricants? I don't know...think of it this way -- it's hella better than a really small guy. :) I think TOO big actually inhibits sex.

DAMMIT....I dont' think the OP is reading this anymore. LOL