Hi! I'm new here, but been a lurker for a couple of years. I decided to make an account to contribute to the community a bit (I've done hours upon hours of research on certain subjects, especially addiction to opiates. Not to mention personal experience) but I also came needing some urgent advice. I hope I can post this here.
I've been dabbling on and off with opiates for 4 years now. I started when my teeth began rotting out of my mouth. Put up with it for a few months but then when the infections started I just couldn't deal anymore. It's an ongoing problem and all of my teeth have some damage, with like 8 being broken in half or at the gum line. I also had back pain after I had my daughter (I suspect a botched epidural. When I got it done, it felt like a jolt of electricity shot down my limbs and I felt every contraction including excruciating back labor but my legs were 100% numb. When I had my son, the new doctor did it totally differently and I didn't feel anything other than a slight pinch and it worked completely ) but it wasn't too bad until I got pregnant with my son (I had him last year). I was able to keep it under control by pretty much being in bed all the time and some mild muscle relaxers but after he was born, it got even worse and I couldn't just lay around anymore. I had to juggle two kids and a full time job, so I went back to pain killers, anything I could find. The doctors offered me more muscle relaxers but they made me so tired and completely unproductive and the whole reason I take pain killers is to be more productive and be there for the kids. Not to mention they didn't work that well anymore anyway.
Anyway in the past year or two I've developed quite the problem. I go through extremely violent withdrawals when I go without. And even when I make it through them, as I've tried to get off a few times, the pain is still there and it gets unbearable. I cant sit or stand or do anything for more than a few minuets before it feels like someone is stabbing a hot poker into my lower or middle back. I also have numb spots all over my thighs and a feeling like my hip is popped out of place when I walk. I can't do my job as an employee or a mom without pills.
I could deal with all of this but I recently found myself pregnant again. I feel like a total shit bag. I was using natural birth control methods with my husband but I ovulated early one month and bam. When I found out I was trying to wean myself off and an extreamly fast pace but started cramping up really bad, so I looked some stuff about it up. Apparently withdrawal can cause a miscarriage and other harm to a fetus. I called the OB I had with both my kids anonymously (amazing doctor. He has a number for anon questions, but gives no advice without knowing the patient of course) this is the only doctor I trust with my life and he said even mild withdrawals from tapering without medical oversight can cause a spontaneous miscarriage.
I need some advice. Does anyone have any experience with my options? I've read that there are programs pregnant people can get on to stay on maintenance until the baby is born. Only problem I have with that is there is a 48% chance the baby will have to go through a taper program for a few days with the program I would choose. The nurses online say it's a relatively painless process for the infants, that they make them as comfortable as possible but how can we actually know that? It's not like they can let us know. But do I chose the chance of killing the baby over weaning after birth? Plus they told me that whatever symptoms I feel, the baby feels even in the womb.
I also live in TN and they have a lot of new laws about drugs and pregnancy, but I don't know if they apply if it's prescribed by a doctor. Would CPS take my kids away for getting help? I live the life of an addicted but it's not like I'm nodding out all the time. I dont have enough money to get me "high" as I have quite the tolerance and have since the beginging. A starters dose never worked on me. I just take the minimum to take the edge off of my pain. My kids never go without either to support my habit. If I run short on money I get their stuff first then use what's left over for me. Also, do those maintenance drugs help pain at all? Like I'm not looking to totally get rid of the pain, just enough to be productive. Even if they don't, I'll have to make do for now.
Also would that mean they would deny me pain meds in the hospital when I go into labor? I wouldn't care if they would let me walk around and such but the local hospital pretty much makes you lay down on your back and your stuck that way for at least 3 days, sometimes more and I don't know if I could. At least not all the whole being nice and polite like I always am lol.
If anyone actually stuck around and read all of this, I really, really appreciate it. I rambled a lot I know but my mind is racing right now. I'm terrified. My kids are my life and my whole reason for being alive, I couldn't loose them. I hate the stereotype that if you take narcotics, you cannot care for kids. But if they are prescribed by a doctor, that automatically makes you a fit parent. I get it, it's illegal, but my mom got them legally my whole life and she would spend 24/7 in bed. She was not fit at all. Hell,The only reason I self medicate is because I can't even get a scan of my back. This area has a drug problem and i guess they think I'm after Pain meds. They told me it should go away 3 months after having my son. I understood at first. Then the problem wouldn't go away. Then they told me 6 months, then 10, then A year and I got fed up. Even if I was looking to get high, how would an MRI of my back hurt? They don't give out drugs for those. That's all I want, just some answers.
I've been dabbling on and off with opiates for 4 years now. I started when my teeth began rotting out of my mouth. Put up with it for a few months but then when the infections started I just couldn't deal anymore. It's an ongoing problem and all of my teeth have some damage, with like 8 being broken in half or at the gum line. I also had back pain after I had my daughter (I suspect a botched epidural. When I got it done, it felt like a jolt of electricity shot down my limbs and I felt every contraction including excruciating back labor but my legs were 100% numb. When I had my son, the new doctor did it totally differently and I didn't feel anything other than a slight pinch and it worked completely ) but it wasn't too bad until I got pregnant with my son (I had him last year). I was able to keep it under control by pretty much being in bed all the time and some mild muscle relaxers but after he was born, it got even worse and I couldn't just lay around anymore. I had to juggle two kids and a full time job, so I went back to pain killers, anything I could find. The doctors offered me more muscle relaxers but they made me so tired and completely unproductive and the whole reason I take pain killers is to be more productive and be there for the kids. Not to mention they didn't work that well anymore anyway.
Anyway in the past year or two I've developed quite the problem. I go through extremely violent withdrawals when I go without. And even when I make it through them, as I've tried to get off a few times, the pain is still there and it gets unbearable. I cant sit or stand or do anything for more than a few minuets before it feels like someone is stabbing a hot poker into my lower or middle back. I also have numb spots all over my thighs and a feeling like my hip is popped out of place when I walk. I can't do my job as an employee or a mom without pills.
I could deal with all of this but I recently found myself pregnant again. I feel like a total shit bag. I was using natural birth control methods with my husband but I ovulated early one month and bam. When I found out I was trying to wean myself off and an extreamly fast pace but started cramping up really bad, so I looked some stuff about it up. Apparently withdrawal can cause a miscarriage and other harm to a fetus. I called the OB I had with both my kids anonymously (amazing doctor. He has a number for anon questions, but gives no advice without knowing the patient of course) this is the only doctor I trust with my life and he said even mild withdrawals from tapering without medical oversight can cause a spontaneous miscarriage.
I need some advice. Does anyone have any experience with my options? I've read that there are programs pregnant people can get on to stay on maintenance until the baby is born. Only problem I have with that is there is a 48% chance the baby will have to go through a taper program for a few days with the program I would choose. The nurses online say it's a relatively painless process for the infants, that they make them as comfortable as possible but how can we actually know that? It's not like they can let us know. But do I chose the chance of killing the baby over weaning after birth? Plus they told me that whatever symptoms I feel, the baby feels even in the womb.
I also live in TN and they have a lot of new laws about drugs and pregnancy, but I don't know if they apply if it's prescribed by a doctor. Would CPS take my kids away for getting help? I live the life of an addicted but it's not like I'm nodding out all the time. I dont have enough money to get me "high" as I have quite the tolerance and have since the beginging. A starters dose never worked on me. I just take the minimum to take the edge off of my pain. My kids never go without either to support my habit. If I run short on money I get their stuff first then use what's left over for me. Also, do those maintenance drugs help pain at all? Like I'm not looking to totally get rid of the pain, just enough to be productive. Even if they don't, I'll have to make do for now.
Also would that mean they would deny me pain meds in the hospital when I go into labor? I wouldn't care if they would let me walk around and such but the local hospital pretty much makes you lay down on your back and your stuck that way for at least 3 days, sometimes more and I don't know if I could. At least not all the whole being nice and polite like I always am lol.
If anyone actually stuck around and read all of this, I really, really appreciate it. I rambled a lot I know but my mind is racing right now. I'm terrified. My kids are my life and my whole reason for being alive, I couldn't loose them. I hate the stereotype that if you take narcotics, you cannot care for kids. But if they are prescribed by a doctor, that automatically makes you a fit parent. I get it, it's illegal, but my mom got them legally my whole life and she would spend 24/7 in bed. She was not fit at all. Hell,The only reason I self medicate is because I can't even get a scan of my back. This area has a drug problem and i guess they think I'm after Pain meds. They told me it should go away 3 months after having my son. I understood at first. Then the problem wouldn't go away. Then they told me 6 months, then 10, then A year and I got fed up. Even if I was looking to get high, how would an MRI of my back hurt? They don't give out drugs for those. That's all I want, just some answers.