Hello everyone, I am +90.
I have been a long time lurker of BL (maybe for 2 years?), and now decided to join.
I feel like I have to share this with people, because it has been bugging me for a long time.
I am a 20 year old guy originally from Istanbul, Turkey. I am in the US for college.
I have a history with drugs, but I try to not use them nowadays.
Anyway, here is my story:
I am the guy that you would hate on the first sight. But once you talk to me, you will like me.
I have a nice car, I have a nice watch, I have nice clothes. I have a good monthly allowance, and I am not an ugly person that you wouldn't want to talk to. I don't have to worry about work, or my grades as I have already have a pretty big family business (200M yearly revenue) ready for me to take over once I am done with college. I hate to say this, but my life is probably better/easier than most people out there.
Sounds good so far, right? There is a catch though. I am lonely. Very lonely.
Although I know a lot of people, they never seem to get close to me. I don't know why... I feel like everyone around me hates me.
I cannot get along with people. Whenever I meet someone, I get very close with them... And within a short time, I notice that they have many characteristics that I really loathe. So I get driven away from them.
I usually disregard females. I am straight, it's just I don't find anything appealing about them except their looks. I find it really disturbing for myself to sit in my room on a Saturday night, knowing that the people around me are either having fun in clubs, or doing something social, WITH EACH OTHER. Me? I am just sitting by myself, smoking a cigarette every hour, and typing this.
I am surprised at myself at right now, as I have never told anyone about this problem. Not even my psychiatrist in Turkey...
Why do people hate me? Why do they want to be distant to me?
I have tried many ways to cope with this loneliness. Actually, I have been suffering from it since I was a child.
I attribute my loneliness to my looks... Although I stated that I am not ugly, I am not the A&F model either. Or, I am not wearing the clothes I have...
Although I have a lot of clothes from high end brands, I prefer to wear stuff like sweatpants from Zara, along with a $10 t-shirt from Macy's with Nike shoes. I find shoes from Nike to be a lot comfortable from shoes from Lanvin... Although Lanvin looks more "flashy" and is more expensive...
I am not a fat person, but I am not skinny to the bone either.
I have tested people and myself in many ways, to combat my loneliness. Nothing worked.
I have been working out for almost two years now, so I kinda have some sort of muscle base. I am thinking of jumping on my first steroid cycle soon, and dress better, to see if this loneliness is because of my general appearance.
Sorry for making you read all this crap, I just felt like I had to write something, to someone...
Regards,
+90