What have you learnt in the last year?

A year after what happened in Florida, what have you learnt?
I've learnt a few things.

• Always look through the peephole before opening doors to stangers.
• Never ever lend people money, even if you trust them. (Sounds harsh, but its true :-\)
• No drug, No person, Nothing in the world is more important that my wife.
• Bluelight has given me some amazing friends, that i hope i'll stay in touch with for a very very long time.

-buzzy
[ 28 October 2002: Message edited by: buzzy ]

Never power-up an electric toothbrush BEFORE it is in your mouth. Especially if there is a freshly squeezed premium-sized dollap of toothpaste on the end...

A fucking year, eh buzzy? That's just insanity to me, but even at its worst this year has been highly educational for me.
-I learned to never borrow money from your friends, no matter how much they trust you.
-No matter how much you think you know, there is always a way of looking at the world that can change your mind.
-Self-control takes a lot more work than you would think.
-Waking up the morning after the worst day of your life is an amazing feeling.
-Don't ever take for granted the act of brushing your teeth! It's one of lifes greatest luxuries.
-When helping other women undress to use the bathroom you will form a bond not easily broken with them!
-Friendships can be strengthened or weakened in such a short time.
-It's okay to have to depend entirely on other people for a short time, but you'd better have the right people in your life when it comes.
-Self-confidence is a precious thing.
-Until last year I had truly overestimated the problems I've had in this life. A mistake I do not plan on making again.
-Hopelessness is one of the most tragic things, and those who have experienced it will learn so much but never be able to forget the way it hurts.
-Nothing in life is more important than the people you love.
-This board, for better or worse, has given me choices that I would never have had otherwise. Whether I chose wisely or not, I will forever be grateful.
I love you buzzy. You and that wonderful wife of yours. Whatever happens, don't stop being a part of my life, okay?

The last year has taught me lessons that have humbled me.
- Life is finite. Choose how you spend your years wisely.
- If you find love, stick with it. Life is too short to chase an impossible dream.
- Hopefully those you have known for a long time are good people, because then you can be pretty sure you can trust them completely.
- Like Stevie Nicks says, women will come and they will go. Like i say, good friends are forever.
- It may never be too late to make amends for you, but i may be too late for the other person. Some things are better left irreversible.
- Some things are too important to dilly-dally. If a person can't come to a coherent decision, they should be maneuvered around. Some people like to indulge in hesitancy and anticipation. They are stealing your time.
- I will never accomplish all the things i have set out to do. I must spend the rest of my time and life doing what i really value.
- I learned i want to be a father.
- I have learned that a just person serves their network.
- I have learned that all beautiful things are fragile and fleeting. Even those things you desperately try to cling on to. They are better left sinking to the bottom of the infinite ocean.
- There is nothing sure in this world. The appropriate response to the chaos of the world is a changing relativistic stance.
- I have learned to grab love where i can, seize the moment, forgive myself and everyone in my spiritual vicinity, and give praise and gratitude for being blessed with the gift of life.
Sometimes

* here is the lesson you are trying to learn
Once again.......
** The answer is yes. you know it is. lisen to your self and do it ... stop being silly.
and yes.. Im talking to you.
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Peace
Braja

just work very hard for what i need and want. nothing comes easy in life.
i dun need many many friends. i just need a handful of really good friends.
im still in love with my bf.

i have learned that :
"life will always push you to your limits, and that little bit farther too, just to show you that you really dont have any. You think you cant take it any more, youre just about to break, but if you push on just that tiny little bit itll all get easier. Its how life always works."
^ By Harrasser, a very wise wise friend

I've learned that:
again and again, just how flaky internet people can be.
the only person I can really depend on is myself.
porn gets more interesting the older I get.
I can live without women.
people aren't quite as fucked up as I've thought in the past... most of them that I've met are pretty decent.

since i've spent the better part of the past year being single, i've learned that i needed to just 'date myself' for a while and find out more about ME. since i was 15, i've been in pointless relationship after pointless relationship, never giving myself a break to regroup and find out what I really wanted. nearly a year ago, i finally gave myself the chance to get rid of the drama and find out more about myself... and i feel so much better.
by the way... i've had enough of being single and i'm lookin' for some lovin'

*I leaned something about who my friends are and what a good friendship is supposed to be like.

That theres ALWAYS room for improvement and its cool to be me
[ 02 November 2002: Message edited by: ladylizzard ]

-you can't always rely on your parents..or your friends.
-a positive outlook on life is the ONLY outlook on life
-finding a meaning for it (life) is the key to happiness and a sense of fulfillment

^ima agree with everything randycaver said. except the relying on your parents thing, kuz my moms always there for me no matter what.
other things ive learned:
*to laugh when people who are incapable of stringing together a full and/or comprehensible sentence in attempts of insulting you.
*school is fun, and CNN is a good way to spend a day
*not to hold grudges
*not to make a judgement or unkind comment to someone towards them until you (at least!) know them.
*not to live in the past, but to learn from mistakes.
*the harder something is to deal with, the happier& stronger you are when you wake up and it is all over
*i am the only person who will ever make me happy. i am also the only person who can make me sad.

So many things...........
1. face my fears and insecurities head on and deal with them as they appear, tomorrow will not be a better time.
2. unconditional love is better than any other, its definately more honest.
3. I need girlfriends, not just my boys.
4. people you meet on the internet can become real friends.
5. self confidence/independnce, I am doing great on my own

*LOL* @ yer #1 Buzzy! :D
Me, I've learnt that feeling sad isn't all bad and that you can actually create positivity from negativity. While shit may hurt its ultimately worth it in the long run, what doesn't kill me only makes me stronger.
I've learnt to overcome some seriously deep-seated issues regarding comunication and my relationship's with people, I have also come to terms with my sense of self-esteem.
I have learned what it is to really love on a platonic level, to develop a relationship with the opposite sex that is deep, committed and true to one another that isn't rooted in sex.
And that practising love, respect and compassion to as many people as possible really can benefit your life in ways previously unimagined.
Life can be real scary, but goddamn if it ain't worth evry second (l)

~To never assume that everyone I meet is a good person with my best interests at heart. Trust has to be earned.
~That there are some people who have done awful things to try to hurt me, but letting it affect me and getting upset is only letting them win.
~That it's not a good idea to stay up until 4 am.
~That my parents don't want to make my life miserable after all. The most important thing to them is my happiness.
~To let loose and dance when I go out to clubs, even though I suck. I'm there to have fun, not to impress people.
~That I've never actually had a *real* boyfriend.
~That I want one.
~That I am a good person with a good heart, and people can try to tear me down, laugh at me, or take advantage of me, but they can NEVER take that away from me.

1 - Consciousness is not a constant, and may be rather fleeting for a myriad of reasons. Value it, enjoy it.
2 - Remaining open to the entire spectrum of life and emotion is one of the most dangerous things a person can do. It is also one of the bravest.
3 - We interact with different places in markedly different ways. Investigate a few.
4 - Believe in intuition. It can calm the endless parade of questions/doubts if you know how to listen to the barest instincts.
5 - Surprises happen all the time. Many of them are wonderful.
Last - You must be able to answer to yourself at the end of the day.
[ 09 November 2002: Message edited by: silverwheel ]

~ it is going to take a long time for me to become the person I would like to be
~ Life is a balance and in balance there is harmony
~ Money is evil
~ insurance is a necessary evil
~ you can have all the formal education in the world and if you lack the means of teaching a layman your trade, you're knowledge is lost.
~ I've learned to highly reguard the opinions of a selected few, you can't choose your family but you can choose your friends
~ Wars are fought with the minds of grumpy old men and the bodies of the youth
~ appreciate and uneventful day
~ when to be Patient
~ when to Listen
[ 09 November 2002: Message edited by: Crow ]

PATIENCE...
And that everyone deserves a second chance, no matter how bad or evil you may firstly think they are