T. Calderone
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I've told this story before about how my son got into trouble with smoking weed. He had trouble quitting and got kicked out of drug court. It's been more than 18 months ago this all started. See I live with my dad, his grandfather and Timmy's always been the best kid and never gave me any trouble. Then he got addicted to weed at 14. He's stolen from me and more recently, his grandpa. Taking his debit cards and money. It got to be a frequent occurrence.
In the meantime, his father blamed me the whole time why my son couldn't stop smoking weed. Yeah I took him out of rehab after 7 weeks and will never forgive myself for this mistake. This boy begged and promised he was done with getting high. I believed him and he soon after was right back to it. Dad's attorney had sent me letters demanding custody. I would need to try for legal aid to fight this since I have not job still.
A couple weeks later, my son decided to steal the debit card again and also stole grandpa's truck to do so. Then found out that my son smashed into a tree in the parking lot. This kid had no driver's training and luckily he didn't kill anybody or hurt himself badly. (just a sprained ankle) The truck was totaled and grandpa says he's gotta go. I can't blame him at all. Now my ex's lawyer filed a default judgment against me even though I agreed to the terms in the first modification settlement agreement. So now it's been ordered that he goes with his father, and I have no visitation at all, even though the terms stated every other weekend. I've been ordered to a psychological competency exam and drug test.
I just don't know how to deal with this. I've been divorced from that man since Timmy was a baby. He's had consistent visitation every other weekend since he was 2 while I had primary custody. Besides the past year where they had a 5 month break, partly son was non-responding and dad angry at the weed situation. They had a falling out. He will be 16 in June. I've yet to find out if I have any recourse. It seems so unfair, like they pulled the rug out from under me.
I think my son may have a chance to get straight with his dad. Like the judge at drug court said "people, places and things" The neighborhood kids are all too familiar. But who's to say he won't meet new kids with drug interests with dad? They have a way of finding each other. But what can I do? With no visitation, I won't even be allowed to take him to his court hearings. I'm going to miss him so much. My son is the most important thing I have in my life, and I'm losing him. I can't stop crying.
In the meantime, his father blamed me the whole time why my son couldn't stop smoking weed. Yeah I took him out of rehab after 7 weeks and will never forgive myself for this mistake. This boy begged and promised he was done with getting high. I believed him and he soon after was right back to it. Dad's attorney had sent me letters demanding custody. I would need to try for legal aid to fight this since I have not job still.
A couple weeks later, my son decided to steal the debit card again and also stole grandpa's truck to do so. Then found out that my son smashed into a tree in the parking lot. This kid had no driver's training and luckily he didn't kill anybody or hurt himself badly. (just a sprained ankle) The truck was totaled and grandpa says he's gotta go. I can't blame him at all. Now my ex's lawyer filed a default judgment against me even though I agreed to the terms in the first modification settlement agreement. So now it's been ordered that he goes with his father, and I have no visitation at all, even though the terms stated every other weekend. I've been ordered to a psychological competency exam and drug test.
I just don't know how to deal with this. I've been divorced from that man since Timmy was a baby. He's had consistent visitation every other weekend since he was 2 while I had primary custody. Besides the past year where they had a 5 month break, partly son was non-responding and dad angry at the weed situation. They had a falling out. He will be 16 in June. I've yet to find out if I have any recourse. It seems so unfair, like they pulled the rug out from under me.
I think my son may have a chance to get straight with his dad. Like the judge at drug court said "people, places and things" The neighborhood kids are all too familiar. But who's to say he won't meet new kids with drug interests with dad? They have a way of finding each other. But what can I do? With no visitation, I won't even be allowed to take him to his court hearings. I'm going to miss him so much. My son is the most important thing I have in my life, and I'm losing him. I can't stop crying.