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cumstoofastguy
14-03-2010, 13:27
It only takes me a minute or so to jerk off. as soon as i stick it in a woman i cum instantaneously... i cant even get 1 pump off. as im putting it in i explode. is very embarrassing :( i have to say i need a minute hold on and i will eat her pussy and put on a new rubber.


i have done those penis exercises but they dont help at all.. help me :(

PriestTheyCalledHim
17-03-2010, 16:25
Learn how to control your orgasm/ejaculation and I've heard that jerking off once before vaginal sex helps someone last longer.

SpelunkingTheMind
17-03-2010, 16:41
To an extent, it's a problem that will lessen over time.. How long have you been having sex? The longer you're active, the less you'll be so-horny-you-can't-hold-it the second it starts..

One way to train yourself is when you're whacking off.. You say it only takes you a minute, but you're probably just going full-force until you blow. Don't do that. Go until you can tell an orgasm is coming on, then stop and let yourself cool down. Start again until you feel it coming on, then stop again and cool down. Do that a bunch and try to stretch out the time of your solo sessions as much as possible (after a bunch of near-orgasms the mental urge to finish will probably be too much.. it will also be much more satisfying which is always fun). As you get more practice with that, change the routine up so that instead of stopping completely, you just change your rhythm when you feel an orgasm coming on. When you're really comfortable with that, you'll be able to do the same thing during sex - feel when an orgasm is coming, slow down, keep your cool, and go longer.

And yea shooting one out an hour or two before sex doesn't hurt either.

serenafails
18-03-2010, 23:37
Are you wearing a condom? If you're not wearing one you'll cum quicker

RedRum OG
19-03-2010, 00:10
think un-sexy thoughts. my personal favorites: concrete blocks grinding together, antique stores, tools or construction related things, papercuts, doing math in my head.

get a little tipsy first. or if you dont mind take opiates- i usaully come in like 10 minute from sex, if i use opiates i can go for 3+ hours.

Unbreakable
19-03-2010, 00:19
beat yo dick before you fuck

Dr Pepper
19-03-2010, 00:21
I've got the opposite problem.. although now with great diet/excercise and the right mental stimulation (a good view haha) i can come 99% of the time without fail.. although very rarely under 5 minutes. It happens on occasion though if im super horny and dont take it slow. Fucking circumcision cut off my best parts i think. ALso, since i quit smoking cigs (only 3 days now) i've had huge morning erections, wheras before i rarely got them . So quit smoking will help your health all around. Try kegals in your case.

^lol at papercuts.

moonyham
19-03-2010, 01:38
Yeah im super horney sometimes.. and have cummed super quick a couple of times, but generally my way of not cumming is simply dont think about 'my dick is in pussy right now' or any aspect of sex.. think how good of a day it is or how beutiful the girl is, dont think about the sex, just DO IT, dont THINK IT. I find i cum quick if i think about it.

raver2008
19-03-2010, 07:36
This is only a short term thing but try out those condoms with desensitizing lubes in them. I used to have this problem bad and was always using oxys b4 sex so I could last sooo much longer. Now i dont really need them as im so much more experianced than b4 and not so nervous

amishlogs
19-03-2010, 07:53
I used to blow my load quickly. Just embarrassing. If I pop a vicodin 30 minutes before I bone, it's just money. Usually I can't even come. I don't care, I'd rather be getting my girl off anyways.

Jblazingphoenix100
19-03-2010, 15:36
I would suggest gettigng a lil tipsy - do you smoke up??getting stoned works for me too, I can last about 3 times as long if I want if I've been blazing some herb.

I would also say practice wanking for longer and longer everytime...it could also be becuse you get too excited too quickly, and just blow, build it up more & more - stop watching so much porn.

I seen this fleshlight thing which looks like it would be really good practice, heard it's more realistic than having a wank.

Hope some of this sticks.

Pans-Advocate
19-03-2010, 17:55
Smoking pot always slows things down for me. I'm also a lot better at going for round 2 when I'm stoned.

Sykoknot
19-03-2010, 18:04
Smoking weed makes me cum quicker. I cum very quickly, under 5 minutes normally. I can keep it up easily afterward though so its never been an issue. What I have noticed to make me last longer is just don't focus on what your dick is feeling. Like someone else mentioned, think elsewhere, like papercuts. Lol

jewbyrd
19-03-2010, 22:16
I like to think of the cops knocking @ the door..extreme control

Pillthrill
19-03-2010, 23:26
they make lots of things that you can pick up and sex shops that have numbing agents in them that you can put on your penis beforehand.

Vaya
20-03-2010, 05:00
concrete blocks grinding together.... hooo man that one got me LOL!!

Pot increases all sensations, but almost especially tactile sensations... I wouldn't recommend it before having sex if your aim is to increase your longevity. I think the drug-related suggestions have some merit (opiates, benzos, etc.) but the healthiest thing to do would probably be to take the suggestions of those who offered advice along the lines of practicing self-control during masturbation.

It's definitely embarrassing as I've struggled with both extremes - cumming in literally 2 or 3 thrusts, or going for so long the lady says she's got no juices left to keep things running smoothly down there. The thing that helped me the MOST is simply having a lot of sex and becoming completely comfortable with everything. When I'm mentally comfortable I find I can exercise a lot more control over my body. Good luck :)

~ vaya

n33d2kn00w
20-03-2010, 05:27
masturbation is key

Z Y G G Y
20-03-2010, 06:22
have you tried a therapist? They really know a lot about this stuff and can help you out with a few sessions.

Rogue Robot
21-03-2010, 02:15
Let's keep this legal, harm reduction related and safe please. :)

untaMe
21-03-2010, 07:19
kegels http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_60/67_love_tip.html
and also do some researching of your own. when you exercise your pc muscles and learn to better control them you will learn to better control yourself from ejaculating prematurely.

good luck

Vaya
21-03-2010, 09:57
Sometimes I can just go for an hour and not cum, but then I have to spit on her back so she thinks I went....

Y'know, for the nights where I can't make it happen due to drugs... this is really, really interesting advice. I'll have to take note; if I get caught, though, the credit goes to you :D

~ vaya

drugfukkdrockstar
21-03-2010, 11:30
Let's keep this legal, harm reduction related and safe please. :)

Indeed. Please keep this complying with harm reduction - cheers.

Violenza666
21-03-2010, 11:43
Maybe try a cock ring..

RedRum OG
21-03-2010, 21:45
or maybe just work with your situation, even if you do bust way too fast, just go again and keep it up strong.

jam uh weezy
22-03-2010, 10:15
It only takes me a minute or so to jerk off.
theres your problem right there. learn to control yourself and stop before you blow. aim for 5 minutes next time. then 10. then 20. blah blah blah.

Jblazingphoenix100
22-03-2010, 21:06
^ what he said - ya can't ENJOY having a wank in a minute...it needs a build up, otherwise it's JUST a release of pent up sexual tension.


kegels http://www.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_60/67_love_tip.html
and also do some researching of your own. when you exercise your pc muscles and learn to better control them you will learn to better control yourself from ejaculating prematurely.

good luck

This can help yeah, but I think everything should go before trying this one - this won't work by itself...also where's the fun in having to concentrate on squeezing your PC muscles while trying to have a good fuck? none - exactly.

MrIbis
23-03-2010, 05:17
lucky you dude, i been fucking this bird, some sessions 6hrs + and i cant cum at all... and shes amazing...

FUSIONZ
23-03-2010, 05:33
lucky you dude, i been fucking this bird, some sessions 6hrs + and i cant cum at all... and shes amazing...

Use the spit on the back technique... doggy style.. tricks em' everytime..=D

BoulderBob
23-03-2010, 05:36
Don't feel like a chump if you don't last 30 minutes, all those porn films you've seen are fake, ya know? Most guys are lucky to last a good 5 minutes, it's simply natural to come quickly. The numbing agents may help, and while it's not a great idea to get into opiates...they will certainly make you last at least 15-30 minutes...if you can come at all.

is300ss
23-03-2010, 11:52
lucky you dude, i been fucking this bird, some sessions 6hrs + and i cant cum at all... and shes amazing...

im sure tellin him that makes him feel real special...

Jblazingphoenix100
23-03-2010, 23:31
^ hahahaha./..

JLee180IQ
24-03-2010, 04:18
I had a B/F who had the same problem. After some looking into to it we found that... now listen up... relaxing your ass cheeks while you have sex is the #1 surefire/non substance enhanced way to last.


He went from lasting maybe 2-3 mins to being able to go 20-30
= (any more than that isn't the most fun just FYI - all the pre-stuff is what we like the most).

Anyways, it turns out that it is actually hard (pun intended) for a guy to release without his ass clinched.

Choronzon333
25-03-2010, 03:12
Don't feel like a chump if you don't last 30 minutes, all those porn films you've seen are fake, ya know? Most guys are lucky to last a good 5 minutes, it's simply natural to come quickly. The numbing agents may help, and while it's not a great idea to get into opiates...they will certainly make you last at least 15-30 minutes...if you can come at all.

Yeh very true. Its evolutionarily advantageous because over the ages before civilization in the wild savanna if it took you an hour to get off in your mate you would have a much higher chance of either getting eaten or having to stop to avoid danger in which case u wouldn't be a good propagator of genes...


However if u wanna fuck forever take and SSRI... It can make u last a really long time. At first it might even be difficult to cum but after a while u can cum when you want or go for a really long time. Even though it feels really good u don't get over excited as quick! I know it works for me and one of my friends used to complain because her boyfriend would take over an hour to be able to get off and she got bored of it because every day they'd have to spend at least a couple hours fucking and honestly if your a girl riding or even having him fuck you theres only so many reps of the same thing over and over until it get monotonous... I mean its cool to have a marathon when u want it but if u can't get off ever and you're girl feels obligated to have to get you off in her cunt and it is taking so much time she may get over it fairly fast... SOmetimes fucking all night for hours is nice but sometimes a quicky before you go out is all you want or have time for...

jaguraguguru
25-03-2010, 03:18
This might be a last resort, but SSRIs have been clinically proven to treat premature ejaculation quite effectively. Basically any pure SSRI (NOT WELLBUTRIN, which will do the opposite) will help to a great extent in extending sexual performance before orgasm. This is at least an option, though psychological and physical exercises would probably be a better first choice.

Choronzon333
25-03-2010, 04:53
This might be a last resort, but SSRIs have been clinically proven to treat premature ejaculation quite effectively. Basically any pure SSRI (NOT WELLBUTRIN, which will do the opposite) will help to a great extent in extending sexual performance before orgasm. This is at least an option, though psychological and physical exercises would probably be a better first choice.

right and SSRI's alone or in combination with certain other substances cause some people Erectile dysfunction where its a little bit harder to get really hard. Idk its nice being able to fuck as long as you want though.

Dray911
25-03-2010, 05:13
you could just try taking some viagra then applying a numbing cream to your penis, you wont feel much but you should last until shes done or it stops working.

Choronzon333
25-03-2010, 05:47
you could just try taking some viagra then applying a numbing cream to your penis, you wont feel much but you should last until shes done or it stops working.

yeh and realize some girls have a hard time cumming... so maybe better to giver her orgasms another way.,..

BeckyLee
25-03-2010, 06:14
Are you wearing a condom? If you're not wearing one you'll cum quicker
seconded.

jaguraguguru
25-03-2010, 09:38
I think the incidence of ED in premature ejaculators treated with SSRIs is probably extremely low, unless they're taking heroic doses of SSRIs or taking them in conjunction with something else. For that matter, I believe that to some extent, caffeine and many other stimulants are actually anti-erection as they are usually vasoconstrictors whereas the penis requires vasodilation for erection.

Are you currently taking any drugs daily for any reason? Some things like amphetamines and ritalin can cause premature ejaculation.

Dray911
25-03-2010, 09:59
yeh and realize some girls have a hard time cumming... so maybe better to giver her orgasms another way.,..

yeah my idea would still mean he would last longer wasnt that the original problem?

MrIbis
25-03-2010, 23:51
^disagreed, i find pot an extremely sensual drug, and it hightens the senses and nerves in my dick and makes me cum alot faster..

my comments wern't knocking him man, i wish i was getting a load off in 30 seconds.. My tip, focus on what she wants, more than what you want.. if you find you're an average performer.. learn to use ya tounge and fingers to get her off, maybe make he squirt, and believe me, how fast you cum will be of little consequence.

Choronzon333
26-03-2010, 00:24
with marihuana in your brain it takes more time to ejaculate :D

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ApDbzFerojY
Uhh IDK. The ganj always makes me blow my load faster for some reason. Its like I just wanna cum sooner because it feels so good and I can't wait!

I think the incidence of ED in premature ejaculators treated with SSRIs is probably extremely low, unless they're taking heroic doses of SSRIs or taking them in conjunction with something else. For that matter, I believe that to some extent, caffeine and many other stimulants are actually anti-erection as they are usually vasoconstrictors whereas the penis requires vasodilation for erection.

Are you currently taking any drugs daily for any reason? Some things like amphetamines and ritalin can cause premature ejaculation.
Yeh idk. I feel like amphetamines and other stims make me take longer to cum. SOmetimes if you take too much amp or something you are right. Even though I might be reallly horny I can't get a solid erection if I have taken large amounts of say adderall like 100+mg at a time or taken significant amounts of amps with SSRIS...

opiateslut
26-03-2010, 01:48
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Draigan
26-03-2010, 04:56
Yeh very true. Its evolutionarily advantageous because over the ages before civilization in the wild savanna if it took you an hour to get off in your mate you would have a much higher chance of either getting eaten or having to stop to avoid danger in which case u wouldn't be a good propagator of genes...
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lmao = )

Nice theory.

Jblazingphoenix100
27-03-2010, 19:57
Uhh IDK. The ganj always makes me blow my load faster for some reason. Its like I just wanna cum sooner because it feels so good and I can't wait!

seeeeeerious?!?! that sucks... I would sugesst a lil bit of ganja not too much...like one spliff

SonChris
27-03-2010, 21:56
I seem to have the opposite problem in here, I have no came once during sex, which makes me feel embarrassed. For you, all you really have to do is have a wank before sex and you'll last longer. Also when wanking take it slowly.

/navarone/
29-03-2010, 03:54
Hi.

This is a problem that affects many men, it mostly psychological but it also has some medical points of view. Premature ejaculation happens when your emotional state goes far to high but far to fast so I would advice you to contemplate on your sexual psychology, don't let sex overwhelm you, let you control your sexual performance.

Also there are some tantric exercises that can help to control erection stability and ejaculation timings. Tantra is something fantastic and i advice you to read some books about it. Some male tantric experts are able to achieve orgasms that last up to i minute, no joke!
One of these exercises is the Kegel exercise (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegel_exercise) that work both for men and women, basically it consists in training the muscles on the pelvic floor (The same muscles that we normally contract when finishing to urinate or constricting our anus), the muscle between your penis and your anus plurious times and it has been shown to give excellent results In controlling orgasms.

Another pharmacological treatment that has worked for many men was to get prescribed to very low doses of some kind of antidepressants like SSRI's.
SSRI's are known to reduce libido a bit but in the mean time they are known to give longer performance once a god erection has been achieved.
The best one out of these class of antidepressants is Venlaflaxine (Effexor XR) which is an SNRI (meaning that is doesn't only affect serotonin but also noradrenaline uptake which is good for curing lethargy symptoms).
I suggest you ask your doctor to try 37.5 mg, a very small dose (I'm currently on 225mg daily for depression) of effexor XR (XR stands for extended release so you'll have to take it just once a day) and see if that helps you.

Let us know.

-Nav

Wave Jumper
30-03-2010, 16:41
^disagreed, i find pot an extremely sensual drug, and it hightens the senses and nerves in my dick and makes me cum alot faster..


Maybe that's because you're not smoking it pure and therefor you are consuming way too large ammounts. Marihuana in your brain is not the same as marihuana plus tobacco in your brain. Also I think the ammount is a crucial factor: one spliff is way too much, one hit of a bong should do the trick.

And offcourse: amphetamine like substances will help also, but I don't think that's a very healthy solution for such a problem.

pofacedhoe
30-03-2010, 18:17
Marihuana in your brain is not the same as marihuana plus tobacco in your brain.

so true- tobacco always made my sex drive go down and made it harder to cum (less sensation). weed or hash on the other hand are very sexy drugs that make sensual seduction a great joy

hence http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y1PVmANeyAg

CaverjectJR
31-03-2010, 07:01
Possible options:

1. Fleshlight stamina training unit (just google Fleshlight and you'll see)

2. SSRI antidepressant

3. For the bold and gutsy, caverject. Doesn't matter if you cum in 10 seconds or 1 hour. Dosed appropriately you can remain rock hard for up to 4 hours no matter how many times you cum.

4. what others said