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ceej
06-04-2009, 06:11
it's so frekin frustrating my bf really wants me to & i want too aswell but i jst never do

the sex is awesom but i never seem too let myself relax & just let it all happen
i thinki mite have once but it was not what i expected

advice pleasee...:(

mdmantpa
06-04-2009, 06:22
hmm...I'm not a girl and I dont know much about squirting, except for when I cum and it squirts everywhere, but that is to be expected now isn't it?

If the sex is great, than who really cares if you squirt or not, I think thats more of a small technical difficulty than anything else.

thehardway
06-04-2009, 06:28
it's so frekin frustrating my bf really wants me to & i want too aswell but i jst never do

the sex is awesom but i never seem too let myself relax & just let it all happen
i thinki mite have once but it was not what i expected

advice pleasee...:(

do you normally have at least ONE big orgasm each time you have sex? or is it a bunch of little ones...less explosive for example.

zigzag| dta
06-04-2009, 06:44
^^^ good question

yougene
06-04-2009, 07:03
Have you tried doing this?
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&client=firefox-a&rls=com.ubuntu:en-US:unofficial&hs=e20&ei=H3_ZSdKrIKKCyAWWirHoDg&sa=X&oi=spell&resnum=0&ct=result&cd=1&q=female+ejaculation+tutorial&spell=1&cts=1238990646552

silentscience
06-04-2009, 07:10
try some mdma (preferrably with speed) and have sex on one of those exercise balls. trust me.

ceej
06-04-2009, 07:31
i have some 'less explosive' orgasms
it still feels great but i jst feel like im missing out...

fatallyflawed
06-04-2009, 08:05
try some mdma (preferrably with speed) and have sex on one of those exercise balls. trust me.

not when sex while rolling can make orgasiming nearly unreachable at times.

Maybe you just arent a squirter :\

Survived Abortion
06-04-2009, 09:02
ceej... You don't have to squirt! Anyone who says you should is an asshole.

I have heard from the female community that squirting is something you feel building up as if you are going to actually piss. This makes it uncomfortable for some, and so they hold it back. However, it will never happen if you are not stimulated properly. This can vary from lady to lady, because each person is absolutely unique. The sex required to work each person up into an outrageous orgasm is different. Remember it is both mental and physical.

Some girls are much more highly sexually charged at certain points in their life than others, and some lasses simply have a more sedate hormonal drive for the mental aspect of sex. It affects how wet you get and such.

I must mention, I once was with a girl who had severe mental issues. She ended up needing antipsychotics for dissociative disorders. In bed, she was dry as a bone, and could not come for love nor money. However, I had another girlfriend who was very depressed with low self-esteem, and she would wet the bed like crazy, and continue all night long.

cowgirrl225
06-04-2009, 09:55
it's so frekin frustrating my bf really wants me to & i want too aswell but i jst never do

the sex is awesom but i never seem too let myself relax & just let it all happen
i thinki mite have once but it was not what i expected

advice pleasee...:(

Hi there, I just recently found out myself about a year ago that I could squirt.. and a guy taught me how to. He used alot of pressure on my Gspot(with his fingers) and i held my legs back and he went at it.. it was super intense but at the same time its so easy to tense up and get uncomfortable like you have to pee.. but once you let go youll know what to feel. Have you ever tried a G spot toy? Do you know where you Gspot is? Im pretty sure most women can squirt they just have to learn how to do it.. :) Also being well hydrated is also a good thing if you and your boyfriend try it one night.

If you cup your two fingers like a hook and put them in your pussy you will feel a spongey texture inside. try putting alot of pressure on it. Good luck

ceej
06-04-2009, 11:01
my bf is pretty experienced like i know the whole 'feeling the need to pee' thing
he is trying real hard to help me get there
ill keep tryin i guess

silentscience
06-04-2009, 22:41
not when sex while rolling can make orgasiming nearly unreachable at times.

Maybe you just arent a squirter :\

I wouldn't say that. For men it's usually unreachable, but in my experience chicks can get off lots on ecstasy. usually more times than when sober....

McFly
07-04-2009, 00:25
I thought squirting wasnt very common and not every girl can do it?

I tried so hard to get my gf to squirt, oxy fuelled long sex sessions and loads of licking and poking and nothing. She could be absolutely drenched and still no.

Rogue Robot
07-04-2009, 00:30
Maybe you just arent a squirter :\

seconded. not everyone can do it, and those that can may not always be able to do it.

fatallyflawed
07-04-2009, 05:52
I wouldn't say that. For men it's usually unreachable, but in my experience chicks can get off lots on ecstasy. usually more times than when sober....

Yet I dont hear alot of females saying they come on spot while rolling.

jackie jones
07-04-2009, 06:05
Have him do the 'come hither' when he goes down on you. Two fingers, like he is motioning you to come hither with his fingers, while rolling his tounge on your clit. Also, you may want to experiment with some stimulants. For some reason that helps the process with females (have him take some opioids).

Pillthrill
07-04-2009, 07:14
I don't think its something that every woman can do. I mean I've had great sex and never had it happen. I've felt that I might but was afraid I'd piss myself or something. Eww I know. I mean really I think science has been trying to figure out exactly what it is...anyone have any research data?

mariacallas
07-04-2009, 12:38
Some girls can, and some girls just cant. I dont aspire to be a Cytherea...imagine all those soaked sheets! ;)

nakoma74
07-04-2009, 19:14
I found out I could squirt while I was rolling. For a long time, I thought that was the only time I could. But if you can relax enough, and get it out of your head that your gonna pee on your bf, you'll get there. For YEARS I thought I was going to pee on my husband, and one night, he talked me into just letting go, and HOLY SHIT. adameve.com has a video, that I own, that teaches you all about it. I suggest getting it, especially if your bf wants you to squirt. Personally, I think it's kind of gross, but my hubby LOVES it. So I do it. Toys play a HUGE roll. Get some!!

nakoma74
07-04-2009, 19:19
I don't think its something that every woman can do. I mean I've had great sex and never had it happen. I've felt that I might but was afraid I'd piss myself or something. Eww I know. I mean really I think science has been trying to figure out exactly what it is...anyone have any research data?

It's actually a liquid that is formed in the bladder. Since it comes from the bladder, that's why it feels like we are going to piss ourselves. It is NOT pee. It doesn't smell like it, and it's more of a milky color. The next time you're having sex, and feel like you need to pee, DO IT. You will have such an amazing orgasim, and wonder why you didn't do it sooner! If you push while having the big O, that's when you get the actual "squirt". Otherwise it just streams, kinda like pee lol, and the effect is different. The movie that I mentioned in the above post explains the whole thing. I think it's called Nena Hartley's guide to squirting, or something very similar.

Pillthrill
07-04-2009, 22:16
Nah, I think I'd rather not have the fear that I'll piss myself...

rant*N*rave
07-04-2009, 22:22
Try peeing before sex, that way you don't have to worry about peeing on your hubby.

That aside, I think your hubby is a dick. Why does he care so much that you're upset about it? I'd lose the asshole asap.

Pillthrill
07-04-2009, 22:45
Perhaps he just wants to be 100% sure he is good in bed...but still to get upset about it is kinda out of line.

nakoma74
13-04-2009, 20:42
Dude, he just wants to see you squirt. Guys are SO turned on by it. And hey, I'll do anything I can to keep my man happy. He's not an asshole, he's not worried that he's not good in bede. He's a perv, as all men are. Embrace it, be a perv with him! He'll thank you for it, and love you that much more. Besides, why would he go looking elsewhere when he's got the girl of his dreams in his own bed?

happyus
14-04-2009, 00:14
put a towel down, from my experience it helps with the fear of peeing everywhere.
just lay back and enjoy it, if you squirt you squirt if you don't you don't it's really not the be all and end all. As long as you are enjoying trying then you can always keep trying. If though it's something you are really not comfortable with then you won't be able to tip over the edge and do it, your body will hold you back.:)
For me and my partner, in the early days, he would literally pin me down with one hand pressing down on top of my tummy so that he was pushing down on his fingers inside...the pressure from both sides makes it easier to give in and squirt=D, I remember one time he even sat on top of my tummy so his full body weight was pushing down from the outside so that his fingers were buried into me...it was ah-may-zing=D

really and truly though it builds up and up and then you just have to let yourself fall off the end of the cliff (metaphorically speaking), the falling off the cliff part can be the most difficult though because it does feel like you're about to piss everywhere, once you've gotten over that fear though the whole world implodes=D

lola
14-04-2009, 00:59
Thing is... if she's not a squirter (and as far as I'm aware most girls aren't, which is why in the porn industry squirters get top dollars) then what's the point in trying to force it? It's like the boyfriend is trying to make a point or something. I understand he'd like her to squirt, but for fuck sake if the sex is good just let it be. Not everyone can squirt, not everyone can orgasm from intercourse, not everyone can orgasm from anal sex (I can't squirt but am lucky on the orgasms front!) Basically we're all built differently and our partners should understand and respect this. Just enjoy what you've got... sounds like pretty hot sex to me, give up the pressure! And if your b/f doesn't give it up, tell him you'll only squirt for him if he gives himself a blowjob ;)

cosmicfrequency
15-04-2009, 12:14
There's a really good video on Redtube to teach a guy how to make a chick squirt - look it up! Ill post the link if i can track it down...

jimmyblaze1
17-04-2009, 00:58
I've heard that it is physically possible for almost every woman to ejaculate.

That being said - of course there are exceptions to the rule, and also there is a massive chance a mental block is there too...

I've found the key is to work it up really slow for the first orgasm (clit only) - it has to be a big one...

Then while going for the 2nd orgasm, Clit & G-Spot Stimulation to the max, not too fast but not too slow (as in the build up - G spot stimulation generally has to be pretty quick, and fluid...) and position is EVERYTHING...just experiment as much as possible if you really wanna do it...My ex fiance who I had the best sexual relationship ever with really wanted to try it so after I'd done some prelim research we downloaded "Seymore Butts' squirting vid off the internet and watched that and tried it out as we watched...

It can take a while...and getting over the psychological barrier of needing to piss can be hard, but it's all about flow - being in the moment..the first time she did it was very little...but obviously not just her normal natural lubrication...it was quite like cum but less thick, and spurted out in little bits, not like a pressure cannon typa thing..

BUT then when we were in Amsterdam we got this purple "love egg" vibrator and she was on all fours and had already had 2 orgasms, and then when we were using it she shuddered and squirted RIGHT DOWN with immense force and there was a Soaking wet patch on the bed and wow...hot hot hot...

From then on it's alot easier to do, just getting over the mental issues is the major hurdles...

Chainer
17-04-2009, 07:03
Ha - my GF stops me sometimes because she says "it feels like I have to pee!" I tell her to let it go, but she never does....

elemya
17-04-2009, 07:24
Dude, he just wants to see you squirt. Guys are SO turned on by it. And hey, I'll do anything I can to keep my man happy. He's not an asshole, he's not worried that he's not good in bede. He's a perv, as all men are. Embrace it, be a perv with him! He'll thank you for it, and love you that much more. Besides, why would he go looking elsewhere when he's got the girl of his dreams in his own bed?

:) Thank you.

cosmicfrequency
21-04-2009, 07:48
Also, a comment on the squirting porn thing. 99% of the females "squirting" - are really just shooting contact lens fluid and milk out of their vag's.

Trinity85
22-04-2009, 07:28
Two words: Archer Wand.

chopped_chimp
03-05-2010, 14:19
My girlfriend just taught herself how to do it and surprised me with her new talent. Um.....awesome!!! Looks like the cytheria DVD we've been watching has rubbed off on her!

It's all about the G spot. She did some online tutorial and viola!

Time for some rubber sheets! 

exarkann
04-05-2010, 04:56
perhaps she isn't drinking enough water. even mild dehyration(very common) can inhibit things a bit.

Pillthrill
04-05-2010, 05:33
Ok this is something I just figured out.
1. You can't be pressured. If you feel you HAVE to you won't.
2. Practice on your own. I learned to do it on my own in the shower.
3. It is a forced thing like you may think. Its more of a relaxed feeling. Kinda when you relax to pee. lol
Hope that helps.

hyroller
04-05-2010, 09:26
Not every girl can do it, unlike men, who can all jizz til their hearts' content :p

I only learned to when I was 21 and to this day I am the only person that can lay claim to achieving such results (with myself) :p

and I was on a massive meth comedown lol with lots of GHB thrown into the mix, so.... there you have it.

obsessing over something that may not ever happen is going to ruin your sex, so please, focus on having fun!

Azron
04-05-2010, 12:21
Not every girl can do it, unlike men, who can all jizz til their hearts' content :p

I only learned to when I was 21 and to this day I am the only person that can lay claim to achieving such results (with myself) :p

and I was on a massive meth comedown lol with lots of GHB thrown into the mix, so.... there you have it.

obsessing over something that may not ever happen is going to ruin your sex, so please, focus on having fun!

Meth comedown and GHB.... Nuff said=)

hyroller
04-05-2010, 12:32
:D :o =D


(most winning combination ever)

micky_mouse
04-05-2010, 17:35
I love how this thread has 1522 views.

beamers
05-05-2010, 02:32
There are instructional videos. With my next long term girlfriend I would like to try and learn it together.

User Name Here
05-05-2010, 07:50
If you can't, you can't. From what I understand some females do and some don't. I think I read a Kinsey Institute study regarding this topic and if I remember correctly it said that only about 10% of females "squirt."

I mean I'm sure there are ways to heighten your chances of "squirting," but I wouldn't let this bother you too much if you can't do it.

Also, your boyfriend should just get over it. The sex is amazing as is; he'll live. If he becomes truly upset about this then screw him =)

User Name Here
05-05-2010, 07:51
PS: I hate the term "squirting."

That is all.

chopped_chimp
05-05-2010, 09:09
There are instructional videos. With my next long term girlfriend I would like to try and learn it together.

Good idea. I was of the opinion that you either did it, or didn't. However after living a good quarter of her life not knowing it was possible, my awesome girlfriend decided to watch an instructional video and what do you know, she can do it! 8o

This was after she had me nearly convinced that it wasn't real and must be pee. Now we both know that is most definitely NOT pee. <3

User Name Here
05-05-2010, 10:38
Honestly I am not that interested in learning how to do this. It just sounds messy. Besides, an orgasm is enough for me. I don't need to add a mess to it to keep it sexy.