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SweetIrony, Inc.
21-11-2004, 02:18
I have figured it all out! this is the ultimate way to orgasm (well, ok, short of a few amyl nitrate poppers or a whole lotta cocaine, but I don't do that shit anyways...so..yeah)

I used to think the technique was cutting off the AIR supply, but oh no...tis wrong.

the trick is to cut off the BLOOD supply. Right when your girl is about to explode...well, about 10 seconds before, squeeze the sides of her neck, you know, where the jugular is...no blood to the brain...

Everything gets all lightheaded and distant, but the orgasm is fucking intense...i mean out of this world.

I do it to her when she gets off...then she does it to me when I'm about to.

Oh man... wow.

try it and report back.

SI

FestiveCheez
21-11-2004, 02:51
I'd just be afraid of forgetting to remove my fingers from her jugular (I'm absent-minded like that). So I look at this rather sketchily, but hey, power to you if it works. :D

randycaver
21-11-2004, 02:56
that is really dangerous

rollinginecstasy
21-11-2004, 03:09
kinda creepy too

SweetIrony, Inc.
21-11-2004, 03:09
yeah, i can see the risks involved here. We're very very trusting of eachother, and it's not prolonged...i mean10-15 seconds.

I'd imagine if it was taken too far, she would probably start punching me or something...lol.

*Venus*
21-11-2004, 03:35
I think the dangers are a *bit* overexaggerated. Almost every case in which erotic asphixiation (major sp?) caused a death included MAJOR shortages of oxygen. This is achieved often by partially hanging oneself during masturbation or their partner during sex.

Moderate pressure on the neck for 10 seconds won't cause harm, if you think it's worth it.. mine weren't that much more intense.

Sounds scary, but with common sense it shouldn't be a problem. People hear of it and kinda freak of the dangers, yet you won't hear many people talking about the dangers of road head :)

I personally would not do anything more than what the poster suggested, dying for an orgasm... insane.

Web
21-11-2004, 20:15
Once a girl said to me... "you can choke me if you want to." Having never heard such things come out of a person's mouth, I wasn't sure how to handle it... but it was obvious she wanted me to do it, SHE'S the one that brought it up... so I gave it my best shot. Wish I'd thought about what your original post was (cutting off blood flow rather than air).

Serendair
21-11-2004, 20:47
All I can do is laugh. :) Fun times. I'm not sure if we were cutting off air or blood, you'll need someone else's input on that; all I know is I'd black out and then when I came to... well, we made a movie of it. I'm sure theres still a copy or two out there.

wanderer21
22-11-2004, 16:26
Originally posted by *Venus*
erotic asphixiation

It was my impression that this was called autoeroticism. People do it when they are masturbating and some with a partner during intercourse??

nowonmai
22-11-2004, 17:57
^
It's only 'auto' if it's a person doing it to themselves.
Autoeroticism is any erotic behaviour not involving a partner. Autoerotic asphixiation is cutting ones own air supply off to achieve erotic stimulation.

banksy
22-11-2004, 18:03
was seeing a girl for about a year who was keen being smothered by my or her hand during the play...
worried me a little...

wanderer21
22-11-2004, 20:43
Originally posted by nowonmai
^
It's only 'auto' if it's a person doing it to themselves.
Autoeroticism is any erotic behaviour not involving a partner. Autoerotic asphixiation is cutting ones own air supply off to achieve erotic stimulation.

Thanks for the clarification!!
=D

Mariposa
22-11-2004, 20:46
One of my best friends is really into this. I'm not, I don't like being grabbed by the neck at all, it gives me panicky feelings...

now, whippet orgasms, THAT'S another story entirely. ;)

ArmyDansGirl
22-11-2004, 21:54
I've read a lot about this and I too read that it is a matter of cutting off blood supply. I read that if you hang your head over teh bed its supposed to make it that much more intense. Sounds like it would make me dizzy. I trust my boyfriend to let him do this if he wanted to but I can't say I've heard from people who have tried it that its that eath shattering...maybe they weren't doing it right? I don't know

robbyrob
25-11-2004, 16:04
sounds freaky, goota try it!

keystroke
25-11-2004, 18:39
I've seen it done in movies, but it looks very freaky and creepy..

Tones
27-11-2004, 16:29
Just ask Michael Hutchence... oh wait... hes dead O_O

shorty69
29-03-2005, 10:19
my boyfriend is really in to choking me and i am new to that but i do enjoy it.

swifty
29-03-2005, 11:25
me and my SO do it when we're high and shit, she got the idea and I was really a bit "how ya going" about it all at first, but she insisted so we tried it.

Well all I can say is that she's not really a vocal girl in bed, only when we go doggy, but if I choke her, during her orgasm, then straight after, like when I stop choking, she fucken wails like a banshee!!!

Blue Footed Booby
02-04-2005, 08:45
i like to get the choke every now and then when i'm in the mood, and sometimes my guy likes it too. i feel it is a matter of trust and closeness, if they know you, they'll know when to stop. combine w/ some whippets and whoo-hoo ya! :)

LoveAlways
15-03-2006, 21:24
I can get into it a little if I'm in the mood. The problem is that my boyfriend is really strong so its easy for him to hurt me. I love being dominated/play rape and choking really adds to that affect, but like I said its almost pointless for my boyfriend since it doesnt take much at all for him to hurt me.

On the other hand my boyfriends gets off hardcore when I dominate him, unfortunately (lol) its really hard for me to hurt him--like he wants me to really cause him some pain, but I'm so little and weak! When he asks me to choke him it usually goes something like this "Fucking choke me! Harder! Use all your strength! Come on, can't you do it a little harder? FUcking choke me!" I guess he doesn't feel too much, I wish I could do better :(

BadAssBillyBong420
15-03-2006, 21:25
no. This girl i fucked told me that someone she knew did that while jacking off and killed himself lol. Actually they say maybe or maybe he just killed himself for fun. But his pants was down when they found him.

Personally i find it pretty disturbing... I mean its definitly not something i would do with a girlfriend... Actually i wouldnt do it at all but whats your girl gonna think if you choke her while fucking her? not gonna love you...

Johnny1
15-03-2006, 21:48
Just don't do it when you're by yourself (using a belt, etc.) no matter how good the orgasms are. It's too dangerous. Other than that, you seem like you have a really good attitude about sex. :)

exarkann
15-03-2006, 22:54
my SO annd i have been experimenting on and off with this... with both reciving and giving. we are still trying to get the hang of it. i think we may be doing it differently though, she doesnt like how having her airways restricted feels, so i've been applying pressure to her main bloodlines in the neck.

do you actually close the airway? or just cut the bloodflow?

miss starry
15-03-2006, 23:53
no. This girl i fucked told me that someone she knew did that while jacking off and killed himself lol. Actually they say maybe or maybe he just killed himself for fun.


lol. That is hilarious!!!!!
8) 8) 8)

I've never known anyone to kill themselves "for fun."

MazDan
16-03-2006, 03:13
I dont think I could do this. I just couldnt bring myself to hurt someone no matter how much they begged me for it.............and apart from that i would be way to scred of actually hurting them permanently.

Could I have it done to me? I dont think so, Imk asthmatic and hate anything anywhere near my neck so I doubt I would be turned on by that.

Would I like to experience that level of orgasm? hell yes but Im afraid i will have to wait till they invent another safer way.

Strawberry_lovemuffin
16-03-2006, 07:34
Could I have it done to me? I dont think so, Imk asthmatic and hate anything anywhere near my neck so I doubt I would be turned on by that.

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Ditto......my greatest, greatest fear is not being able to breathe. I can't even snorkle. :D

HOWEVER; I do find it hot to be the Choker. ;) Have done this once or twice to my fiance during sex and oh boy, it's fun. He doesn't mind it, but I think it's me that *really* loves it. I never go any further than lightly wrapping my hands around his neck - he's never indicated he's up for any more than that - but even just that danger element ups the horn level for me a thousand notches.

I wonder about that - why I, who am normally uber-submissive, can be turned on by doing something so dom? Especially something I'd be so turned OFF having done to me....

katmeow
16-03-2006, 07:37
It's definitely something I'm interested in, but would obviously need to be with a partner that I really trust. I did have one partner who I know it was one of his turn ons, but it was in the days when I was a little too scared to think of experiementing with something like that ;)




Would I like to experience that level of orgasm? hell yes but Im afraid i will have to wait till they invent another safer way.

Maybe try just holding your breath as you're about to climax rather than having someone choke you. I know that increases the intensity for me if I'm getting myself off, though I'm yet to try it when I'm with someone and I haven't tried the whole choking business either.

joannie_mhm
16-03-2006, 07:41
I dont think I could do this. I just couldnt bring myself to hurt someone no matter how much they begged me for it.............and apart from that i would be way to scred of actually hurting them permanently.


I haven't done it and am not really interested, but a friend of mine was into it for a bit and it was my understanding that you could do it so that it's just pressure on your neck rather than actual pain? Not sure how accurate that is, maybe the OP could clarify for me?

BingeBoy
16-03-2006, 12:20
mzzfluffy that's just so hot


i can only dream :(

percy168
16-03-2006, 12:42
Is anyone into this? with you dear, anything.;)

L O V E L I F E
16-03-2006, 17:39
Maybe try just holding your breath as you're about to climax rather than having someone choke you.

I know that increases the intensity for me if I'm getting myself off . . .

Word to your mother.

In my experience, the mastery of simple yet vital breathing exercises can be the difference between a decent quality 10 to 15 second orgasm and a mind-blowing 45 to 60 second orgasm.

hyperboreasghost
16-03-2006, 19:45
Personally, I don't know about actual choking and asphyxiation, as I would be a little nervous about actual damage being done. But recently I've found that putting my hand on a girl's neck during sex is an incredible turn-on for me and for many girls.

A great position is the Cat's Meow (doggystyle with the girl's back arched, it looks wickedly sexy if the girl has a nice body, and good for hitting her G-spot), with one hand on the girl's shoulder and one on her neck applying slight pressure. The hand on the shoulder is used to control the girls body so that you don't have to worry about how your banging her is putting pressure on her neck, so you can regulate the pressure on her neck.

There are other situations where slight pressure on the neck really turns me on. Think of it as asphyxiation lite :)

Bi KaNd*E* RaVeR
16-03-2006, 20:19
I am totally into this... like too much into it...

The first time it happened was an accident, this kid and i were in the spooning position fucking (him behind me of course) and he went to move me a little closer and he put his arm across my chest. When we started getting really into it, his grip around me got tighter and his hand slipped upwards and suddenly he was choking me. I gasped, but not cause i was scared.. cause it felt kinda good. He realized what he was doing and apologized and pulled away.. and i said something like "no!! stay like that!" He wraped his arm back around my neck and pulled me towards him... it was totally hot.

After that i just request it when i want it... the last guy i was dating was huge (6'3 or 4)- and he had massive hands... he used to pin me to the wall by my throat while we were kissing in publlic. holy fuck it was hot. :)

He and i also got down one night when we had gone out fancy.. he had a tie on before we stripped and he used that wrapped around my neck while he was doing me doggy.. hot hot hot i tell you.


why did i type this out at work.. fuck!

*fans self*

Bi KaNd*E* RaVeR
16-03-2006, 20:20
Word to your mother.

In my experience, the mastery of simple yet vital breathing exercises can be the difference between a decent quality 10 to 15 second orgasm and a mind-blowing 45 to 60 second orgasm.

Seriously. If i can't breathe the way i want or be loud during sex i can't get off at all. It has sooo much to do with the airflow, even when i'm alone..

syymphonatic
16-03-2006, 20:28
I am totally into this... like too much into it...

The first time it happened was an accident, this kid and i were in the spooning position fucking (him behind me of course) and he went to move me a little closer and he put his arm across my chest. When we started getting really into it, his grip around me got tighter and his hand slipped upwards and suddenly he was choking me. I gasped, but not cause i was scared.. cause it felt kinda good. He realized what he was doing and apologized and pulled away.. and i said something like "no!! stay like that!" He wraped his arm back around my neck and pulled me towards him... it was totally hot.

After that i just request it when i want it... the last guy i was dating was huge (6'3 or 4)- and he had massive hands... he used to pin me to the wall by my throat while we were kissing in publlic. holy fuck it was hot. :)

He and i also got down one night when we had gone out fancy.. he had a tie on before we stripped and he used that wrapped around my neck while he was doing me doggy.. hot hot hot i tell you.


why did i type this out at work.. fuck!

*fans self*

holy shit BKR!! i need to change my pants now...


I've never tried the choking thing, but I'm very into rough/dominating sex, and I know I'd love it. I don't actually want to have a loss of breathing or anything (none of that asphixiation crap, too scary) but the hands around the neck idea is VERY hot.

wowie %)

Mariposa
17-03-2006, 00:47
Like SLM stated - one of my greatest fears is an inability to breathe, and the couple times it's been tried on me (one in a nonsexual situation by a friend who's really into it, the other time very lightly in a sexual situation by a past boyfriend) - I had some pretty nasty panic reactions. I use breathing techniques to deal with panic attacks, though - so I shouldn't be that surprised.

So, it's not my thing at all. I'm open minded about it and I know there are ways to do it safely, but it would throw me off if it was done to me, I think. I would do it to my guy if he was interested, I have very limited past experience with being the "choker" and it was both safe and well-received.

For background - I am not predominantly dominant or submissive - I go through phases but averaging out, I'm one of the few true switches I know. ;) Most of my female friends I talk about sex with are extremely sub in the bedroom, though their personalities vary. Likewise with most of my guy friends being primarily dominant. I honestly don't get it, there's so much fun in both. ;) It depends on my mood.

And lastly, it's great to see MzFluffy posting in SLR <3 but if you want to hit on her or tell her how hot she is, let's take it to the Lounge or PM. ;)

exarkann
17-03-2006, 01:34
still wondering on the actual techneque used..

lagomorpha
17-03-2006, 03:16
I have one ex that liked to be choked during sex. One night we were enjoying ourselves and she just tells me to strangle her. Not long after that she looked like she had the most intense orgasm I had seen. She didn't like it all the time but sometimes it was just what she needed to get sent over the edge and it'd always cause very powerful orgasms.

As far as what I thought of it... usually her resulting orgasm would set me off and she'd be to tired to do much other than enjoy the afterglow. Between the feeling of mutual satiation and knowing that she trusted me enough to do that to her it's a hundred times better than good rolls with nitrous.

I've never been the receiver of choking but am not opposed to the idea if I was with someone I was comfortable enough with. I do enjoy getting scratched and bitten and have fairly long scars on my back, left arm, and stomach as a result of a couple nights where we got a little carried away. Who'd have thought the endorphins that make that sortof activity so exciting also keep you from realizing how badly scratched you're actually getting...8) It probably isn't to big a jump from there to strangulation so now you've got me curious about it.

Oh and you're a sick freak for liking it but nothing wrong with that=D

version 1/11
17-03-2006, 08:14
i absolutly love it. even when im not having sex...:\

Mariposa
17-03-2006, 09:14
I've never had the courage to be a dominant person in bed. I always feel over powered by anyone that i've ever had sex with.

Well if you get panic attacks from it, it's a good thing that you don't. I mean it's not for everyone. If it's going to cause you any discomfort, you should never do it :)

About the panic attacks - yep, screw with my breathing and I get hostile and reactionary. Not good for sex at all.

About my dominant tendencies - mostly they involve telling the guy what to do, I've never physically overpowered anyone, but I know how to put extreme and prolonged psychological pressure on. The experience with the topic of this thread I had was really limited, neither of us knew what we were doing except that if we started choking to let up, as I recall we were kissing really hard and he guided my hand to his collarbone area. It gravitated to his neck. I applied pressure, not a lot, just to see what he would do. He enjoyed it... but it wasn't a major part of the night's play.

:)

exarkann - I'll try to find you some links on safe(r) asphyxiation play. Not quite sure where to look, but my friend who is into it who I had the nonsexual experience with could probably point me into a direction. I do know that it is covered in most basic BDSM texts, at least to a degree... yet I cannot find a text that is primarily about harm reduction, and I hesitate to recommend them on that ground. These texts are available over discriminating Google and Amazon searches.

However, without reservation - I will recommend Exit to Eden by Anne Rice, may be indexed under her pseudonym Anne Rampling. It is fiction, but no vampires as is characteristic of the author, very well done and sensual fiction, a BDSM novel beautifully told and a love story.

Be safe, everyone - NO ORGASM, no amount of getting off, is worth dying over. Asphyxiation is a risky activity that should be entered into only in trusting relationships with set boundaries, between individuals with responsibility and accountability toward one another.

<3

exarkann
17-03-2006, 17:33
... and that what we are trying to find out.

MzFluffy, do you actually have your airway constricted? or is it just the blood flow?
i'm assuming its the airway, since you say its about controlling your breathing, but we both find that the closing of the throat is quite uncomfortable, to the point of distraction from enjoyment of sex...

Emelie
17-03-2006, 21:37
8o Choking, Biting, Slapping, all of it gets fun...while being erotic.8o


=D

Bi KaNd*E* RaVeR
17-03-2006, 22:28
That is what i'm talking about!!!

See you know what's going on ;).


But of course, m'dear!!


Caitlin - Sowwie ;) 0=)


exarkann - with me it's a slight constriction of breathing.. not so much that i am turning blue.. but enough to feel like someone is in control of your next move...

SmokeTrails
17-03-2006, 23:23
i hate being dominated in any way... shape... or form... it makes me get very hostile very quick... a girl actually tried it with me once and... yeah... it dident turn out well

altho... im very dominate...

SxCrAvEr
18-03-2006, 02:31
.....I don't know about other women, but when i'm to the point of near orgasm I find the harder and rougher the person continues to be with me, the better I get off. I can't have some guy be rough with me, and then just slow down right before I cum. Having him add to the roughness by putting his hands around my neck, and making it even more intense than it was before is what makes it great. That little loss of air that contributes to the abnormal breathing from having sex is just heaven x100000

.....It's just something that can really turn me on. I love the fact that you can be with someone that's dominant, and comfortable enough to be in that situation with you. Plus the feeling itself is like a rush. If you're having rough sex, and a guy just grabs your neck from behind, it's great! Feeling him take control like that can put you over the edge.




Doesnt anyone find these posts hot and sexy?
I could imagine doing that to MzFluffy ;)
*reaches for MzFluffy's neck*

alter ego for SLR
18-03-2006, 03:30
I always find that it's the bigger more dominant looking men that want be the be submissive one in bed lol. It's cute in a way haha.

I find people are the opposite in bed. When I was really submissive in general (IE, let people set over me, more peace-nic, didn't ever tell anyone off when they deserved it, etc.) I was very dominate in bed. As I have grown more balls in real life I have become more and more submissive in bed. I don't know which came first. I find each one has their own appeal to me and I tend to have phases where I perfer one over the other. I was really into being dominate and sort of harsh for about 7 months or so and recently just switched to being the submissive and A hard submissive at that.

I may have starting to switch when I was fooling around with my than gf and we were both stoned. Meaning I said more harcore stuff thinking it would turn her on more and instead she whimpererd and said it was mean. I hate hurting people for real, so it sullied it alitte. Now she is stressed and being dom helps her and I sort of have always loved the pain/sex combo. (I did it to myself when I was in high school, but had forgotten until she was dom for consistent basis and I enjoyed it).

BUT...back to topic...It doesn't interest me but I'd give it a try. I think It would be harder for me to do.

zephyr
18-03-2006, 06:14
I always find that it's the bigger more dominant looking men that want be the be submissive one in bed lol. It's cute in a way haha.

Submissive men are a real turn off for me. Theres nothing more sexy than a sexually confident strong man. The choking thing- that is a turn on for me, to be choked rather than be the choker.

mariacallas
18-03-2006, 07:16
Haha I hear what you're saying. I'm small too, and I don't know how to put the hurt on someone.
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Word. Fluff you're around 5'9 right? Imagine me, 5'2 and a half with a guy who is 6 feet talll or over and thats what Im saying when I say I just LOVE being thrown around and manhandled during sex =D (only with my S.O. of course) I cant get it on with a man who is submissive in the bedroom...thank God i've lucked out in that department anyway ever since. Lol.

I used to have ashthma and I cant really stand anything on my neck so the choking thing is out...but I DO love getting chased around the house and being fucked breathless lol 8(

Bi KaNd*E* RaVeR
18-03-2006, 15:01
It's funny, because i am pretty dominant in general.... but i really hate submissive guys. My last bf was such a pussy in bed.. i hated it. It's okay to want me to take charge and believe me - I will and you will get the hurt! (lol) but seriously for someone who is whinne whine and cooing, and laying there and acting like a punk who doesn't know how to fuck a girls brains out ... ..

id rather go masturbate by myself.. shit.