How are you doing, Ultim?
As I said I do relate to you and I understad you. Totally. I hope you have felt so.
But I just want to make one last point.
As we know, heroin use will jeopardize a relationship. Allways. Even ( or maybe specially) when both partners are users.
Being a non user and having to deal with what you say, paraphernalia, needles marks, your lover on heroin.... don't know, man, but it has to be something else, frustration wise.
We need to realize this is the cold truth.
You wanting to use h is something that will not change in the foreseable future.
I don't use it, but knowing I would be able to do so if I want to, makes me feel confident.
If you were able to benefit of heroin existence without any heroin scheduled use, it could be a great thing.
I know you are not ready, nor willing, to quit your DOC, but maybe if you use let's say 4 times in 3 months time without following any kind of pattern, maybe you could feel more free about your use. And then you can do it 3 or 4 times in 5 months time.... I think you see where I'm going.
Maybe that can work for you or maybe not.
Wish you well, mate