The morals and ethics of escort services?

[undergrounddlz]

Hi Bluelight,

Been a while since I’ve been on here (2011ish), Anyways, SWIM (do people still use this acronym on the interwebz..?) has an interesting divulgence with regards to interrelational dynamics, and would enjoy some thought exchange.

So to start this off I suppose I’d say I’ve never been particularly much for socializing, as a whole. I more or less have chosen to keep to myself an awful lot in life. However, I’d have to say it does depend on the forum (no pun ), situation, and context. Consequently in point of fact, I’ve never been particularly successful with women. Not that I’m an unattractive guy, I’m respected, just served a term in the military, have extraneous boy scout badges to prove my accomplishments, education, blah blah etc. you name it; I’m 26 years old. Everything has really developed into a pretty nice life with the exception of gaining any true mastery with relationships, women, and dating. Honestly I’m not really sure exactly why this is, but it does kind of suck at times, despite having grown stronger and more accomplished as an individual over the years. It would appear as though I've predominantly spent my time doing other things. Additionally, I’d like to say it’s not like I haven’t “tried” to fit whatever kind of mold I need to be in to play the game. Could expand on these aspects, and things I’ve done/experienced/tried, etc. but much of this information would exceed the true point of this discussion (for now anyways).

Over the past few years, experimentation has taken place with escorts. However, it was not always this easy to do at all. Due to societal social conditioning, religion, laws, morals, ethics, etc. this is obviously rather taboo (people generally don't talk about this at least). Eventually, it kind of got to the point where paying was better than none at all. Obviously there’s a ton of different viewpoints which could be brought up with regards to a topic like this, because it spans so deep, on so many different levels, and is quite heavy. I mean, I guess it is what it is.

Would some wise souls care to offer some information on the morals and ethics of using escort services? Any and all ramifications.

 

[Pretty_Diamonds]

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. I mean, as long as you pay the girl, what's so bad about it? I think sex with prostitutes has a little bit more of a stigma, especially since a lot of people view them as "dirty". Or have you been to any asian "massage parlors"? Or even "buy me drinky" bars, where you sit with asian "hostess" girls.

 

[Bearlove]

What are your morals and ethics about using them ? Follow them.

I personally couldn't care less about what other think of what I chose to do but I would rather hook up with somebody also looking for sex than actually pay for it.

The problem with using escorts, prostitutes etc is your removing yourself further from the dating game so could be limiting your chances of meeting somebody that could possibly turn into a LTR or even a friend etc.

The 'buy me drinky' bars can be really great fun, I've been to a few in Thailand and always had a brilliant time.

 

[undergrounddlz]

Interesting feedback, no I have not engaged in such activities outside of the states, however, it sounds like it would be a fun and worthwhile experience, haha. I was expecting a bit of chastising to go on in response to my post, however you guys seem to relate, and understand in some aspects. You are correct Bearlove, however, it would appear as though not everyone has the time and inclination to hit the bars/clubs multiple times a week trying to learn game. Aside from that, not everyone is ready for a LTR/marriage. In our culture and society many things have changed, my parents were high school sweethearts, crazy... most people have to work their entire 20's just to build a decent career in which money, and financial ramifications are not an ongoing issue in which the possibilities of finding the right person, setting down and living the blue collar American dream seems more appealing, motivating, and can actually take place. Of course, there are many ways of looking at the paradigm, I'm not trying to be negative or have a "victim" mentality; quite the contrary. I guess everyone is just different, and at the end of the day we have to play the cards we are dealt, for sure.

 

[Bearlove]

You are correct Bearlove, however, it would appear as though not everyone has the time and inclination to hit the bars/clubs multiple times a week trying to learn game. Aside from that, not everyone is ready for a LTR/marriage.

I don't think I suggested clubbing or going to a bar multiple times a week simply with the intention of having sex? If your simply looking for sex then the sex apps (dating apps) are really useful - swoosh through until you see a face that you like - send a message - move to the next etc. Wait until you get a 'hit' hook up and have sex - it is for me a lot more personal (even though you have no idea who they are) than hooking up with an escort.

I have used the dating apps a lot - I have zero problems with contacting a guy close to me and asking them - fancy meeting up now, if they do and we click then we meet up. We can fuck for the night, day but we are also realistic an don't expect romance or wedding bells etc.

I just feel that two people hooking up for mutual fun is a lot more rewarding that just renting a body for your personal pleasure.

Bear

 

[Erikmen]

What are your morals and ethics about using them ? Follow them.

I personally couldn't care less about what other think of what I chose to do but I would rather hook up with somebody also looking for sex than actually pay for it.

The problem with using escorts, prostitutes etc is your removing yourself further from the dating game so could be limiting your chances of meeting somebody that could possibly turn into a LTR or even a friend etc.

Exactly!

It can be fun and I see nothing wrong with that but you could also keep trying to put yourself out there for real and see how that feels.
I believe that we'll always find someone like us, capable of loving who we are with all the 'problems' we might have.

 

[undergrounddlz]

You both have very valid points, and very positive things one could take into consideration in which to expand the mind, and consider other possibilities. At the end of the day there really are no excuses, I'm glad I got some feedback in general. I feel as though societal social conditioning generally expects to compress everyone into the same mold, where everything is intended to be very black and white in terms of morals and ethics. Essentially, if something is illegal, it is immediately immoral/unethical, etc. you grasp my point.