Social anxiety is all in the mind. [...]It's really simple, even kindergarteners can do that[...] I think everyone just worries too much, unnecessarily[...] just do whatever you feel like. No need to worry about [...] social anxiety[...] I know what it's like too. So ya, it's easy if you feel like it.
There's a huge difference between everyday 'worry' which is what it sounds like you've experienced, and actual anxiety. Yes, anxiety is "all in the mind", but that's kind of disingenuous because so is literally all of reality itself. Perception literally IS reality, and to say that something is "all in your head" as a way to try to decrease the effects of the thing is a massive misunderstanding of the power and the role of perception in life. Anxiety is a serious problem for people who experience it, and it is not something you can just decide your way out of, and that's basically a different way to say "pull yourself up by your bootstraps," and that's something only people who haven't experienced or don't actually understand these things will ever say. If you can just choose not to feel it, then it's simple worry, not the kind of problematic and truly crippling anxiety people are almost always referring to in this context. It's an actual chemical imbalance, not an internal misunderstanding of when to "talk or not talk."
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As for responding to OP's question for the sake of all who read this in the future and not necessarily just to respond to OP...
It's a complex issue. Psychedelics are a great tool, but they're not medicine in the way that western culture thinks of "medicine." We think of medicine as something like Tylanol- something you can take for an ailment that will go to work automatically to cure you of the ailment. There is no work involved with the kinds of medicine we consider to be 'medicine.' Psychedelics are largely a different sort of medicine. Psychedelics aren't a "cure" in that same sense, they're more tools that can help you to find the "cure," so to speak, within yourself, and to understand what you may alctally already know about how to overcome your problems though. Taking a psychedelic won't just cure your anxiety automatically, but the psychedelic experience may lead you to understandings that you may not have otherwise found, understandings that might allow you to work through the underlying cause of your anxiety or understandings that allow you to see reality in a way that no longer makes you as anxious. It's important to understand that all anxiety is a manifestation of an internal fear that has been embedded in your subconscious because of a traumatic event, often, though not always, during childhood. Some very common ones are fear of failure, fear of success (which is ultimately a fear of failure,) fear of death or grave physical injury, fear of loss, abandonment, etc. Most other fears stem from these more basic fears. Social anxiety is often a manifestation of social fears like the fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, or another fear that was instilled early on in life, and to overcome the social anxiety you need to figure out the root fear behind it is, and then understand why you're afraid of it, and then to negate it by proving to yourself that you don't need to fear that underlying cause (e.g. "I'm leaning to genuinely love myself, and I no longer need others to make me feel valuable, so I no longer need to fear abandonment.")
Psychedelics are a great tool for finding out what the root cause is, which will provide you with a target to focus on. You can then work through it during your integration period after the trip and moving forward in life, but a psychedelic alone isn't going to just automatically remove the fear and chemically block you from feeling anxiety anymore the way Tylanol can chemically block you from feeling the pain of a headache.
On another noteworthy point, psychologists have long agreed that the number-one best and most effectuation method for overcoming fears including phobias and social anxiety is immersion therapy. You immerse yourself in situations that cause the fear, but you begin very slowly, gradually, starting perhaps with something as simple as sitting alone and merely contemplating or imagining being in social situations. It's very important not to dive head-on into the thing that causes the fear because this can re-traumatize the person experiencing the fear and/or anxiety, and that's obviously the most counterproductive thing that could happen, so I strongly disagree with the people suggesting you do something like eat a bag of shrooms and go to the mall or something. As anyone with acute and recurring anxiety or panic who also takes psychedelics probably knows, they can and usually do strongly magnify any emotions you're feeling, so in my educated opinion, trying to treat social anxiety by taking a heavy tryptamine psychedelic and diving head-on into a social situation is potentially a real recipe for disaster. Begin slowly and progress gradually. You want to experience being outside your comfort zone to learn that you can handle it, but you don't want to drown while learning how to swim, as it were. This is the working concept behind immersion therapy, but there is a definite balance to this sort of therapy. It's not like throwing a kid into a pond to teach the kid to swim- (which I think is a stupid idea anyway, but the comparison works well for the sake of this conversation,) immersion therapy is more like walking step by step into deeper and deeper water so as to be able to check and see that "Okay, I'm still not drowning, I got this. Moving forward my next step will be..." so as to gradually build a tolerance to the thing you fear, and thereby gaining confidence and actually defeating the fear.
Tryptamines also may not be the best for beginning work on this sort of thing, and in fact, the best thing to do would be to start off stone sober, and maybe even do all the work sober, using psychedelics only as a tool for contemplating the steps you've taken and the steps you plan on taking later, and only when it's honestly gonna help. Phenethylamines like MDMA would probably be more along the lines of the kind of drug that would be conducive to diving straight into chaotic and potentially panic-inducing social situations, but I definitely wouldn't recommend that sort of step with tryptamines, and especially not as a beginner to this kind of work--until you're well into working on being able to be comfortable (or at least confident in yourself) while in social situations AND sober.
I also disagree with the person above who seemed to be implying that using psychedelics to find relief is "lazy," but I think I understand what was meant by that. I do believe there are more effective ways to do this kind if work if you already have a good working understanding of yourself and the issues you face. So long as you don't know damn near every proverbial inch of your own psyche (don't believe anyone really does) then psychedelics can always be useful for gaining a more accurate working understanding of your 'self' and your fears and beliefs, and what work you need to start doing to improve all of the above when you come down.
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Psychology and pharmacology are my two specialties and I have almost thirty years of firsthand experience with literally crippling social phobia- in fact panic disorder with agoraphobia and social phobia--and how they're treated and most often overcome. I've spent the past sixteen years studying these conditions closely in an effort to overcome them myself, and I've stayed up to date with the newest, and the most effective, treatments, for these sorts of things.