Small penis and girlfriend with sensitive clit

[mchtmstr1]

So me and my girlfriend have been dating for about a year now and we've had sex a lot in that one year but she has never came from sex. I am about 4-4.5 inches erect and about 2.5 inches girth but usually people with a small penis like to make their partner orgasm with oral sex but my gf sensitive clit makes it so I can barley lick her before its sore for her clit. I've tried fingering her and rubbing her clit to get her to cum but she just can't. The only time she does cum is when she uses her vibrator on herself. I always turn her on but never can finish the job. It just kinda ruins my confidence since I can't make her cum with her sensitive clit and I feel like me having a small penis is factor too. I was wonder if anyone else had anything similar or advice that could help?

 

[HYDRO_CHRONIC]

hmmm,you should still be able to hit the gspot,finger and with your dick .turn up the foreplay ,I mean before u even get to the undressing part ,like just casually start pressing her "on" buttons throughout the day,sucking on her neck ,or whatever,just make it to where shes basically pulling you into the bedroom or wants it as soon as you get into the house

good position I like is girl on top ,supporting herself with her hands and there is a little distance for you to travel to be all the way in,grab the soles of her feet for some support for yourself it will allow you to be a jack hammer type of thrusting, but she has to be almost all the way upright but not with you completely in her have some distance for thrusting ,your dick should run righ into the gspot as you enter ,find a rythum ,this can be awkward with larger guys

she can get some desensitizing cream for her click ,or u can lick AROUND it ,I found most girls go in a circular motion AROUND it not directly touching itwhen they masterbate ,so work on all these thing and find your groove ,oh don't forget anal ,and she can use the vibrator while you enter her butt ....if you do it right shell get off plenty easy

 

[mchtmstr1]

Thanks for the response man! I do that position a lot with her too :D I think I'm going to try some sex toys during sex to help her cum too. When I posted this I never realized how much girls prefer foreplay then just the actual sex. Now I understand it's not about size but how horny you can get your girl so she just NEEDS it lol

 

[Nom de Plume]

The female orgasm and especially the "g-spot" are as as real as something not real. There's no definitive scientific evidence a g-spot even exists. Indeed, the only evidence is counter-evidence, in this case.

References:
1.) http://health.howstuffworks.com/sexual-health/female-reproductive-system/vagina5.htm
2.) http://www.livescience.com/17977-spot-science-find-60-years-study.html
3.) http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/09/g-spot-vaginal-orgasm-myth_n_5947930.html
4.) http://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health/g-spot-fact-or-fiction.aspx

 

[neversickanymore]

It is real.

The G-spot, also called the Gräfenberg spot (for German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg), is characterized as an erogenous area of the vagina that, when stimulated, may lead to strong sexual arousal, powerful orgasms and potential female ejaculation.[1] It is typically reported to be located 2–3 inches (5.1–7.6 cm) up the front (anterior) vaginal wall between the vaginal opening and the urethra and is a sensitive area that may be part of the female prostate.[2]
Neither the G-spot nor the existence of female ejaculation has been proven

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G-spot

ROFL..

Warning this link is to explicit ponography showing many femail ejaculations. I have been intimately involved in quite a few female ejaculations so i also draw from first hand experience. G spot is real and so are female ejaculations.

NSFW:

http://www.xnxx.com/video4536134/the_best_wet_compilation_ever

Its interesting she is to sensitive for your tounge, but can handle a vibrator? When do you usually go down on her? If its right in the begining then you may consider waiting until after intercourse as the clit is usually really sensitive rite off the bat.

Another possibility is that she may be very insensitive. From what i understand women can over utilize very stimulating ways of achieving orgasm, like a powerful vibrator or sitting with their box positioned under a running tap for the tub. After long term use of these methods some women find it very hard to achieve orgasm through traditional ways.

You also may consider bringing a vibrator into play to make her climax. You could probably get some good techniques watching a few free porns of ladies buzzing themselves off. You can incorporate this into your oral stimulation.

 

[itsonlyme123]

So me and my girlfriend have been dating for about a year now and we've had sex a lot in that one year but she has never came from sex. I am about 4-4.5 inches erect and about 2.5 inches girth but usually people with a small penis like to make their partner orgasm with oral sex but my gf sensitive clit makes it so I can barley lick her before its sore for her clit. I've tried fingering her and rubbing her clit to get her to cum but she just can't. The only time she does cum is when she uses her vibrator on herself. I always turn her on but never can finish the job. It just kinda ruins my confidence since I can't make her cum with her sensitive clit and I feel like me having a small penis is factor too. I was wonder if anyone else had anything similar or advice that could help?

Surely you should be asking your partner what will help her achieve an orgasm and not people off the internet.

 

[mchtmstr1]

It is real.


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G-spot

ROFL..

Warning this link is to explicit ponography showing many femail ejaculations. I have been intimately involved in quite a few female ejaculations so i also draw from first hand experience. G spot is real and so are female ejaculations.

NSFW:

http://www.xnxx.com/video4536134/the_best_wet_compilation_ever

Its interesting she is to sensitive for your tounge, but can handle a vibrator? When do you usually go down on her? If its right in the begining then you may consider waiting until after intercourse as the clit is usually really sensitive rite off the bat.

Another possibility is that she may be very insensitive. From what i understand women can over utilize very stimulating ways of achieving orgasm, like a powerful vibrator or sitting with their box positioned under a running tap for the tub. After long term use of these methods some women find it very hard to achieve orgasm through traditional ways.

You also may consider bringing a vibrator into play to make her climax. You could probably get some good techniques watching a few free porns of ladies buzzing themselves off. You can incorporate this into your oral stimulation.

usually she uses a bullet vibrator with a sleeve over it because the vibrator is rough on her but I was just wondering if there was anything I can do to make her have a g spot orgasm and I was gonna try a cock ring since there's a little bullet on it with a sleeve which is perfect !

 

[anniegram]

It's simple. Hand her the vibrator. Insert your penis into her vagina. Begin thrusting. Let her use her vibrator to get herself off while you're inside her. Fun is had by all. Problem solved. In my experience the cock rings with a vibe inside don't work as well because you aren't getting the stimulation exactly where or how you need it.

 

[neversickanymore]

usually she uses a bullet vibrator with a sleeve over it because the vibrator is rough on her but I was just wondering if there was anything I can do to make her have a g spot orgasm and I was gonna try a cock ring since there's a little bullet on it with a sleeve which is perfect !

The whole thing about this orgasm is its timing. Women can have at least three types of orgasms that i know about, or rather two and then the combination of the two. At least thats my understanding, maybe a woman can fill us in for sure. But after talking with a woman that squirts often when we were having sex she said that the experience she had with the G spot orgasm was much different from the experience she had with the traditional orgasm. This was very obvious from her behavior during each. If you watched that video that I linked the majority of those are the third or combination orgasm. As you can see it can literally buckle their legs and role their eyes back. The best technique I know to try and produce this is pretty simple. I was under the impression that any woman has the ability to do this, but this has been disputed in this thread so Im not sure about all that.

So you will need to learn the location of your womans G spot and work with your partner to develop techniques for stimulating it that she enjoys.

NSFW:

So the best way I know to attempt to create the combination orgasms is to give her or have her get herself off with a traditional orgasm before intercourse. Then proceed with intercourse and whatever else.. the longer the session the more powerful orgasm and resultant spray. If your penus misses the G spot then I would work on your thrust to try and get more contact. I would also work stimulation of the G through other means into your sessions. Then she needs to catch another traditional orgasm. As she is going into her orgasm you will need to perform the G spot stimulation. If you two have put in a nice session then the area you need to stimulate will be pronounced and easy to find. She should feal a sensation that she suddenly has to urinate pretty bad. She just needs to roll with and push as she is climaxing. Then prepare to get soaked. What exactly the fluid is and where it comes from seems to be still up for debate. From my experience it certainly not urin, though I guess it could contain some.

Nature of fluid
Critics have maintained that ejaculation is either stress incontinence or vaginal lubrication. Research in this area has concentrated almost exclusively on attempts to prove that the ejaculate is not urine,[49][50] measuring substances such as urea, creatinine, prostatic acid phosphatase (PAP), prostate specific antigen (PSA),[7] glucose and fructose [51] levels. Early work was contradictory; the initial study on one woman by Addiego and colleagues reported in 1981,[30] could not be confirmed in a subsequent study on 11 women in 1983, [52] but was confirmed in another 7 women in 1984.[53] In 1985 a different group studied 27 women, and found only urine,[54] suggesting that results depend critically on the methods used.[citation needed]
A 2007 study on two women involved ultrasound, endoscopy, and biochemical analysis of fluid. The ejaculate was compared to pre-orgasmic urine from the same woman, and also to published data on male ejaculate. In both women, higher levels of PSA, PAP, and glucose but lower levels of creatinine were found in the ejaculate than the urine. PSA levels were comparable to those in males.[6]
Source of fluid
One very practical objection relates to the reported volumes ejaculated since this fluid must be stored somewhere in the pelvis, of which the urinary bladder is the largest source. The actual volume of the para-urethral tissue is quite small. By comparison, male ejaculate varies from 0.2–6.6 ml (0.01–0.22 US fl oz) (95% confidence interval), with a maximum of 13 ml (0.44 US fl oz).[55] Therefore claims of larger amounts of ejaculate are likely to contain at least some amount of urine. The eleven specimens analyzed by Goldberg in 1983,[52] ranged from 3–15 ml (0.1–0.5 US fl oz).[53] One source states that Skene's glands are capable of excreting 30–50 ml (1–2 US fl oz) in 30–50 seconds,[56] but it is unclear how this was measured and has not been confirmed. One approach is to use a chemical like methylene blue so that any urinary component can be detected.[53] Belzer showed that in one woman he studied, the dye was found in her urine, but not her orgasmic expulsion.[29] Some studies have described the fluid as a diluted form of urine, without the presence of Ammonia.[42]
PAP and PSA have been identified in the para-urethral tissues, using biochemical and immunohistochemical methods, suggesting that the ejaculate is likely to arise from the ducts in these tissues, in a manner homologous to that in the male.[57][58][59][60][61] Another marker common to the prostate/para-urethral tissue in both sexes is Human protein 1.[62]
PSA occurs in urine, and is elevated in post-orgasmic samples compared to pre-orgasmic. Simultaneous collection of ejaculate also showed PSA in both urine and ejaculate in all cases, but in higher concentration in the ejaculate than in the urine.[63]

If you two get this down I will expect lavish gifts or baring that christmas cards

 

[mchtmstr1]

Thanks a lot for all your help! So do you think the best idea is to have her climax from the vibrator with lots of foreplay so she's really into the moment and then when we have sex try to hit her G spot? If my penis doesn't do the trick do you think fingering to stimulate the G spot would still work? And she's told me before she's tries to squirt by masturbation but she only peed which now makes her very nervous to try again. Not sure how I wanna approach bringing up the idea of me helping to make her climax from a g spot orgasm since she is scared she could pee again

 

[Nom de Plume]

If the g-spot exists, where is it and how does one stimulate it? A dozen women—of the very few who even claim to have a g-spot—will give you a dozen completely different answers. If it really existed, why is it not as straight-forward as a male orgasm? Moreover, if it exists, what is its evolutionary function? In males, an orgasm is a reinforcing stimulus that serves to motivate one to seek and engage in copulation. But human females are like all other females in that they are convinced rather than compelled to copulate.

Take Papua New Guinea's so-called birds of paradise. The female is persuaded by the males' ornate plumage and elaborate choreography. The male, and not the female, evolved these traits because of the males' unquenchable desire for intercourse. The female, and not the male, did not evolve these traits because the female is more interested in the mate than the mating. This is why male birds ars usually so much more colorful than the female. As an evolutionary rule, the male performs and the female chooses.

So if female animals are enticed to mate by the quality of the males and male animals are inclined to mate by the quantity of the females, why would a female have even evolved orgasm?

 

[neversickanymore]

If it really existed, why is it not as straight-forward as a male orgasm?

Both female orgasms are pretty strait forward. It just gets complicated when you try and combine them. A straight G spot orgasm is not as enjoyable or powerful as the traditional orgasm. But stimulate the G spot enough and she will come. Stimulate her vigiana, clit, and esp Mind enough and she will come. Pretty straight forward.

But human females are like all other females in that they are convinced rather than compelled to copulate.

False. They may choose the mate, but they choose to mate for many the same reasons as men. It feels great and there is a possibility for an orgasm. There would also likely be a feminine drive to have a family and children. But when they are fucking and not reproducing they are doing to feal good and get off. Sure there may be instances where a woman mates only to conceive, but this is the exception and not the norm.

Moreover, if it exists, what is its evolutionary function?

Good question. There should be one as its seems to be a natural occurrence. My penus is a natural G spot stimulator. Because of this it has brought women to their very first orgasm like this and it was not a planned goal. Because it seems to happen naturally there must be something to it.

In males, an orgasm is a reinforcing stimulus that serves to motivate one to seek and engage in copulation.

Human women engage in sex for the same reasons as men. The have a sex drive, they come in contact with a male they are sexually attracted to or someone that turns them on. Sexual intercourse is very pleasurable for most women. Women actually are thought to experience 10x the level of the male orgasm (measure of theta waves) and many have the ability to have multiple orgasms one after the other while the refractory period in men prevents this. The time period of orgasm is thought to be very similar with men averaging out a few seconds longer according to one study.

Take Papua New Guinea's so-called birds of paradise. The female is persuaded by the males' ornate plumage and elaborate choreography. The male, and not the female, evolved these traits because of the males' unquenchable desire for intercourse. The female, and not the male, did not evolve these traits because the female is more interested in the mate than the mating. This is why male birds ars usually so much more colorful than the female. As an evolutionary rule, the male performs and the female chooses.

This may be kinda true with humans, but I see women pursue men all the time and I have been pursued by all kinds of women.
But your idea hear is not sound. women may choose the men, but they are choosing the men who they will have sex with. The reason they choose to have the sex in most cases is it feels really good and they are driven to engage in it by a sex drive.

So if female animals are enticed to mate by the quality of the males and male animals are inclined to mate by the quantity of the females, why would a female have even evolved orgasm?

Again this is not correct. Females are attracted to a particular mating partner by their quality. They are compelled to mate because its usually quite pleasurable and they have a sex drive as well that makes them horney and randy just like men.

Females developed orgasm to encourage them to mate. It also plays a strong part in the bonding that is needed between a man and a woman who have successfully conceived.

Indeed, in the Prairie voles, oxytocin released into the brain of the female during sexual activity is important for forming a monogamous pair bond with her sexual partner.

The orgasmic history of oxytocin: Love, lust, and labor

Oxytocin during the initial stages of romantic attachment: Relations to couples’ interactive reciprocity

 

[mabzie55]

The female orgasm and especially the "g-spot" are as as real as something not real. There's no definitive scientific evidence a g-spot even exists. Indeed, the only evidence is counter-evidence, in this case.

References:
1.) http://health.howstuffworks.com/sexual-health/female-reproductive-system/vagina5.htm
2.) http://www.livescience.com/17977-spot-science-find-60-years-study.html
3.) http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/09/g-spot-vaginal-orgasm-myth_n_5947930.html
4.) http://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health/g-spot-fact-or-fiction.aspx

Yeah female ejaculation and orgasm are definitely real.

You learn that pretty quick when the squirt is going in your mouth.

/other experiences