This is a tough thread OP. But a lot of people above have responded with very helpful and non-biased information and opinions.
This is definitely a double edged sword and I’ve been in the same shoes you were in.
Please don’t take offense to what I’m about to say, because losing loved ones from this stuff is one of the worst. Burying a mate is probably one of the hardest things to do, especially an ex-lover.
Being in the ‘bandos’ and going into the houses of dealers that I used to buy from, especially in the ‘hood’ and edgier parts of town, I’d sometimes take notice of their families and their living environments. A lot of these kids are just peddling drugs for individuals higher up the chain. I’ve talked to one of them and he said a lot of them only know this sorta practice because they all have fathers that are not present(which I could go into an entire sociological rant about), are incarcerated and that’s what they know, and how to make money fast.
And we both know drugs sell.
Another point is there seems to be this psychological barrier - I’ve known dealers who dealt dope to people who have died, and it’s like they can’t really process or understand that the drug they’re selling is actually killing people. It’s almost an illusion to themselves, as in that they don’t even think about it. I suppose they think it’s the same as peddling weed, prescription opes, ice, etc -
Anyways, just a point from their perspective.
I do think it is wrong though but like I said it’s a double edged sword and it’s a very tricky conversation.
With that being said, your ex could have tested her dope, used around a friend, had narcan available, and many more habits such as slowly raising their dose. I don’t say this to justify their death and I’m so so sorry OP for your loss. I’ve been there many times.
I’ve wanted to turn dealers in too, but I just sucked back into my hole and grieved and tried to understand what us addicts get ourselves into when we use street drugs and opi analogues such as fent.
Breathe, cry, grieve, talk to someone.
It’s not very much evidence that a phone number could lead to an arrest. You could end up in trouble as well and be in danger.
Much love mate