I wish I could be with my family during my oxycodone detox, but I am seen as the druggie failure of the family. There is no real love, everything is very formal. I cannot share secrets or talk to them about anything important without feeling harassed or ganged up on. I was kicked out very young for smelling of weed, and things have never been the same since as it really fucked my life up being on the run from place to place. My parents decided to wage war against my cannabis habit, meanwhile ruining my self esteem, sense of stability, and initiative as a young adult, while closing my relationship off with them forever. It's just never the same after they kick you out, and that attitude only led me to smoke more weed and abuse other drugs. I mean if I got kicked out for smoking weed at night once a day... I may as well smoke it all day every day right? I mean, it cost me my family. It's their loss, really. I think if they would have accepted that it is common for young adults in university to experiment with marijuana and be stoned from time to time, things between us would never have gone sour. I find that almost embarrassing it is so stupid - but their generation is brainwashed by propaganda, so what can you do but go along with it and move out? It is their choice of course.
I am presently detoxing in a place I would really rather not be. They have a beautiful home with a room for me, but there are constant stipulations and means to control me if I decide to move back in. That's cool and all, it's their choice... but being ganged up on just isn't for me, and that's all they do. I'm not going to rehab for marijuana, by the way mom. I don't even smoke it anymore, but there is a big chance of 'relapse' as she puts it - lol. They have no idea I use anything else. I wouldn't even go to rehab for my oxycodone habit as I'm kicking it just fine on my own. I'm a grown adult male at this point, and my mental health is my own business in my opinion so long as I can be nice and respectful around them and keep drugs out of the house. Again, their choice...
My parents have always been under-appreciative of me. I'd graduate from my engineering degree and if it wasn't all A's, I would be 'partying my brains out' to them. It was never enough. I always felt like shit about myself, they always focussed on the negative. If I got a new girlfriend, it was all about what was wrong with her, not how she was making me happy and the positive aspects. If I got a new job, there would be no congratulations - only questions about what might be wrong with it. Like a fucking interrogation. Nothing whatsoever was ever accepted and everything I have ever done was questioned to the point that I even began doubting myself about decisions I was certain about.
When I was younger, I swear they had me on GPS. They would track me down everywhere, drag me home from parties, and photograph me while sick or puking from being drunk to show me later. All the while celebrating their success.
I don't blame them. I still love them. I just, for the most part, stay far the fuck away from them. It really fucked me up not having a supportive family environment. It was all about control - what they wanted for me, not what I wanted for myself (which really wasn't all that unreasonable)
That's just my view as an adult male. I feel very awkward around them now, and there is always that formal tension. If I have any problems in life, my parents would be the last people I would ever talk to about them. I would immediately be ganged up on and attempted to be controlled the way they see fit, which really doesn't mesh with my very different personality from theirs. And I think that's just wrong... you should be able to talk to your parents about stuff that is on your mind or bothering you. Just my opinion... I have yet to be a parent myself. It's just pretty obvious when you see such bullshit going on.
This probably has a lot to do with why I'm borderline now... I mean I don't blame them, they only 'love' me apparently, I just feel like they were dumbass authoritative parents who raid their kids every time they walk in the door. I've been totally abandoned at this point unless I would like to agree to an outrageous authoritative regime, and I'm simply not willing to have personal aspects of my life controlled like that.