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forestman4

forestman4

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Is jacking off to porn the same as having real sex..
If not than what's the difference ?
 
not at all the same, in my opinion and experience

masturbating (with porn) is all about fantasy. sex with another person is about being intimate with another being, bonding, trust, etc. this gives it a whole other dimension. and fantasy can also be a part of that. but fulfilling a fantasy with a real person is a whole other level than thinking about it while masturbating. you're a virgin, right? you will find out soon enough, I say :)
 
i can wank to porn 7 or 8 times a day. Its fun but not as fullfilling as real sexy times, (not a bad substititue tho)
 
Watching porn whilst you masturbate is entirely different to having sex.

The former is purely down to visual gratification and is fantasy based.

The latter requires cooperation with another person.

When you have sex with someone, there is a lot more involved than just relieving yourself of sexual tension.

There are other factors that differ sex from masturbation, such as different textures, smells, sounds, touch and emotions.
 
Well God knows how long it's going to be till Im gonna get laid. And when I do she'll be a keeper...
 
forestman4 said:
Is jacking off to porn the same as having real sex..
If not than what's the difference ?
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You'll still need intimacy, the feeling of doing it together with someone will obviously enrich the experience.
 
forestman4 said:
Is jacking off to porn the same as having real sex..
If not than what's the difference ?
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is looking at a picture of somebody the same as having a conversation with them?

if not then (note spelling) what's the difference?

alasdair
 
I will not judge you at all my lovely.

You seem embarrassed about this? Please don't feel that way, I know all too well how you must be feeling as I have felt exactly the same.

When I turned 17, I was still a virgin and I remember being very embarrassed, clueless and I had no one that I dared talking to about the way I was feeling.

At that time, all of my immediate friends had lost their virginity and were having sex. I faced a lot of peer pressure and I felt as though I was weird and was being labelled an outcast because I was still a virgin.

I eventually gave in to peer pressure a few weeks later and stupidly lost my virginity to a local idiot boy in a cold and wet field. It was absolutely awful and I still to this day, 14 years later, regret it.

As I've aged and matured into a sexually experienced woman, I've come to learn the importance of sex being special, intimate and experiencing it with someone who you trust and have a connection with.

Fair enough, some people seek out a casual fuck because they think that it's great and pleasuring. I used to do the same thing and have various one night stands and casual fucking, but my experiences were mostly shit and I realised that I only did it because I wanted a cheap thrill and ego/confidence boost.

I'm not saying that once you become sexually active, not to have casual sex. You may decide that that's what you want to do and there's nothing wrong with it at all, but my personal opinion is that the best, most passionate sex that you can experience, is when you find someone who you have a bond and attachment with.

Take it from me, don't be self conscious or ashamed of yourself. I've been there hun and I promise you that things will get much easier once you respect yourself and mature.

I really hope you can overcome your situation and lose your virginity to the right girl and in the right way. You'll be proud of yourself once you do that.

Good luck.

P.s I'm just an inbox away if you need to talk x
 
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