I always force myself to do "what I HAVE to do", instead of what I would like to do. I've been diagnosed with OCDP (personality disorder). Basically I have to control everything and the result of everything. This leads to feeling disconnected from the body quite often. I used to create music freely, but since I've started having this disorder, I don't find pleasure anymore in music, because it has become "something that I HAVE to do" (otherwise I will be a failure, that's what I think).
If i smoke, all the rumination stops and I can lose myself in the present moment.
However I'd prefer not to have an addiction, because then I'll get OCD on it.
The only thing that seems to help is exercising, however I cannot exercise all day......
I'd like to know if there are some methods to get out of rumination / "should - shouldn't" way of thinking
and to enjoy the present moment without the feeling of "impending failure".
P.S. I feel writing this post was liberating somehow.
If i smoke, all the rumination stops and I can lose myself in the present moment.
However I'd prefer not to have an addiction, because then I'll get OCD on it.
The only thing that seems to help is exercising, however I cannot exercise all day......
I'd like to know if there are some methods to get out of rumination / "should - shouldn't" way of thinking
and to enjoy the present moment without the feeling of "impending failure".
P.S. I feel writing this post was liberating somehow.