My friend's gonna fuck me in the ass, really excited and kinda nervous. Any advice?

[Emma2373]

Any advice? Sorry, I ran out of room in the thread. I've never used lube before and know absolutely nothing about it, other than some are water based and some are apparently not. Can anyone fill me in? I've heard water based is best. Good brands? Does it go on the dick? Should I shove it up my ass? Both?

I heard you should finger your ass in the shower before, and I assumed it was to clean it because that's how I clean my pussy but they said it was to loosen it up. When I shower with cold water it's hard to get a finger in my pussy, but when I use warm water its fine. The thing is, it's not like my pussy stays that way based on the water or what I do, it goes back to resting state, so wouldn't my ass too after I got out of the shower? Also, do I need to use an enema? My friend who's gay talks about getting fucked and he says he always use a one, but the way he talks about it it almost sounds like a requirement or something. This may be a lil tmi but every time after I shit I finger my asshole with wet toilet paper until it's perfectly clean and from what I can tell it can be kind of dirty (like the same amount on the outside of your ads) up until like a half inch in, but when you shove you're finger up further it's always clean. Now I'm not saying I wouldn't do that hole finger the ass in the shower thing, but it's not like it seems like there'd be anything visible.

One thing I'm kinda nervous about is I've heard your ass can look like chewed bubble gum after you fuck, and my boys got a huge cock. I'm really protective of my pussy and my ass, my whole body in general really, and am really not into the idea of my asshole no longer looking like it does. What are some ways to negate the damage without compromising how animalistic the sex is?

Also, what are some foods to avoid so I won't feel the need to fart? Like today I haven't really even farted at all I don't think and don't feel like it'd be a problem, but some days it's like blast off city. Does it feel like you're literally having farts fucked into your ass?

I know when I get choked when I'm fucking normally I get really wet and it feels like my pussy tightens and I usually squirt if I'm being choked and fucked right. Does being choked affect the way someone's cock feels in your ass the same way it can change the sensations and make you aware in some new amazing way of their cock filling your pussy?

I read someone say they do yoga before getting ass fucked, what's the purpose of that and what yoga should I do?

Also, I know some drugs loosen you up. Now I have no interest in poppers, convinced my friend to give me his once and when I got home they smelled so foul I felt like I was gonna get brain damage n tossed them. Yea, I know I'm an asshole, took some persuasion to make that kid part with his drugs n then I didn't even want them hahaha. My B. But anyways I heard wine is good for loosening you up. Is it wine or just alcohol in particular? I only really like white wine so if it has something to do with the red that's no good. Plus I'm not a huge fan of sex when there's too much alcohol involved. Unless there's some amphetamines and rough ass kinky shit in the mix xD would heroin be good? I love fucking on fentanyl, and heroin too. Plus that makes you constipated which is prolly a good thing xD how would raw affect the situation? I don't wanna be nodding, n my boys in recovery so it's not like we'd both be on it, and I kinda like being on the level of whoever I'm with.

Well, I think those are all the questions I have for now. Oh wait! What positions are the best? I really appreciate y'all taking the time to read and answer feel free to add literally anything! Just its really exciting (and kinda nerve racking) to think of losing my ass virginity, and I wanna make it an event cuz it's the last virginity I'll ever get to lose xD

Take care =)

 

[Bearlove]

Water based lube like KY can dry out and become sticky - silicone based ones often feel more natural and a just a little bit of water can make them super slippery again if you have been playing for a long time brands like I.D are really good. Put some on your finger and put that up your ass AND on the dick - if you feel like you have used too much you can simply wipe some off with a towel.

How's your poop ? If you goto the toilet and have a solid poop then chances are your going to be clean enough for sex without that much preparation - like you say you can always stick a finger in there and check first :D. A lot of people insist on using an enema and that is down to personal preference and how clean your ass is in general - you know your body better than anyone else. If you make your daily visit at 9 am don't have sex at 8:50 though and wait a while until after you have used before you proceed. It is natural to feel like you need to use the bathroom when your boyfriend enters you - your ass doesn't know whats going on and feels it has to be emptied. Just go slowly and let your body get used to it.

If you want to have an enema then you can simply use your shower, warm water and on low pressure, squat in the bath is the easiest position and start by spraying the water on your ass and then you can work your finger in until your ass relaxes a bit and then you can generally put the shower head against your ass and wash that way. You can also buy the disposable ones in most pharmacies.

My ass doesn't look like chewed bubblegum (last time I looked) but even if it does - how often are you looking at your button and how often do you show it to other people :D.

Farting is natural and probably will happen especially if your bf is pulling out and then going back in - eat as normal but be careful if you have been eating stuff like popcorn or nuts etc the day before and any 'bit's' left over can be very uncomfortable and may even cut your ass.

Never heard about doing yoga in preparation for sex. I would stay off the drugs for your first attempt, some drugs can mask pain and pain can be a good indication of something wrong, they can also make you rush things and this will be painful. Alcohol / weed etc can make you feel relaxed but has no physical effect on your asshole. Fresh poppers should not smell bad, they normally start to stink if they have been left open - if your using them avoid sniffing directly from the bottle. Get another small bottle (pill bottle will do) put a bit of cotton wool or similar in the bottom and pour some of the poppers onto that. This way you can't spill it and won't end up with popper burns around your face etc

If your asshole is really tight, have your bf work on it for a while with his fingers or toy (be careful what lube you use with the toys and if in doubt put a condom on it) it is a muscle and it will tire and give up the fight after a while.

I think I have covered all your questions, if I have missed anything or you need more information just ask

 

[JessFR]

Most if this threads too stupid to hold my interest, but I got say at least this much...

Stop trying to manually clean your vagina or your ass, both are unnecessary at best and dangerous at worst.

 

[Bearlove]

Most if this threads too stupid to hold my interest, but I got say at least this much...

Stop trying to manually clean your vagina or your ass, both are unnecessary at best and dangerous at worst.

What makes this thread too stupid for you ? Did you already know the answers to the questions? Most of the site is based on people asking questions on what others may see as common knowledge or basic knowledge - what you may find stupid may actually be of use to somebody else.

You could have easily shared your knowledge about ass cleaning and moved on without having to call the thread and the questions / answers stupid.

 

[socko]

What's with the chewed bubblegum? Does anal cause damage?

Threads and questions like this are important. People arent born knowing the answers.

 

[Ligaturd]

I understand the not cleaning the pussy manually thing, if you do it just use water. Soap and other cleaning products can destroy the bacterial balance and PH balance leading to harmful bacteria getting a foothold and that leads to fishy smells. Your colon is the same regarding bacteria, bacterial colitis is a horrible condition but usually caused by anti-biotics killing off "good" bacteria. So just doing an enema with water will suffice. Fruits and vegetables, milk and cheese contribute to gas production.

At the end of the day it is an asshole and thats where you excrete shit, so one could expect possible farting. It would unrealistic to expect that never to happen, most people find shit a turn off so an enema is just good manners and removes a potentially uncomfortable situation involving offensive odors. Good luck and I hope your butt secks is all that you hope it will be.

I don't think opioids will be good because you can be constipated and he will be squeezing his dick in there with a big hard turd. Enema might solve that. Speed will enhance sensation and also allow you to clear your bowels as well.

 

[JessFR]

What makes this thread too stupid for you ? Did you already know the answers to the questions? Most of the site is based on people asking questions on what others may see as common knowledge or basic knowledge - what you may find stupid may actually be of use to somebody else.

You could have easily shared your knowledge about ass cleaning and moved on without having to call the thread and the questions / answers stupid.

You're right, I'm sorry I've just been in a really bad mood lately.

 

[dieseldog1]

I would get a butt plug roughly the same size as your friends cock. After using an enema, lube up the butt plug, slowly insert it until it's all the way in , then just leave it there until it falls out on its own. You will then be ready for some good ass fucking

 

[One Thousand Words]

Have you experimented with arse play yet? I'd suggest you get used to at least the second knuckle of your partner before you leap straight into balls deep arse fucking.

 

[Bearlove]

You're right, I'm sorry I've just been in a really bad mood lately.

No problem at all, we all have off days I hope that things improve for you

 

[Mona Lisa]

Yuck, lol

 

[pofacedhoe]

i dunno about this enema thing,

i have definitely found someone who used an enema had ultra wet shit that was all over the condom and really stank. they told me they had used an enema earlier. cant recommend the result. basically eat lots of lettuce and fibre for a few days if you are going to do this, dont eat chocolate/ fatty rubbish food or you'll have oily poo. if your poo is generally solid and you have lots of lube on a condom the condom often comes out with nothing extra attached.

but seriously, my friend who was a bottom ate lots of lettuce and salad for a reason. when you shit after that stuff your poo is nice type 4 no mess

bum sex can be messy butt, it is really good fun and feels very nice in the right situation both to give and take

 

[dieseldog1]

I'm pretty sure the porn stars who are going to do anal somewhat limit their food intake the evening before, nothing the day of, and use perhaps multiple enemas.

 

[Bearlove]

i dunno about this enema thing,

i have definitely found someone who used an enema had ultra wet shit that was all over the condom and really stank. they told me they had used an enema earlier. cant recommend the result. basically eat lots of lettuce and fibre for a few days if you are going to do this, dont eat chocolate/ fatty rubbish food or you'll have oily poo. if your poo is generally solid and you have lots of lube on a condom the condom often comes out with nothing extra attached.

but seriously, my friend who was a bottom ate lots of lettuce and salad for a reason. when you shit after that stuff your poo is nice type 4 no mess

bum sex can be messy butt, it is really good fun and feels very nice in the right situation both to give and take

I'm pretty sure the porn stars who are going to do anal somewhat limit their food intake the evening before, nothing the day of, and use perhaps multiple enemas.

The thing with this is .. if you use too much water with an enema you start to flush your bowels and if this is the case you have to continue until your completely clean and your bowels are empty. If you don't then your going to be leaking watery poop.

Some porn stars do this to ensure they are completely 'empty'.

It really varies from person to person - some people need to use an enema some don't, you may need one at some times of the day and not others etc.

 

[pokepoke420]

Astroglide.

 

[Bearlove]

Astroglide.

Are you recommending the product or leaving a warning about it ?

 

[jjones0207]

Ehh i think astroglide is overrated. Although it makes for a messy cleanup, petroleum jelly works very well because u dont have to keep applying it and its a perfect lubricant.
Far as hygiene goes, you both should probably shower within about an hour of the main event; Making sure to not have any residual. I know a bit of regular sex helps losen things up too but the finger methods works. ur not trying to penetrate, more so as massage. Shouldn't be painful, if it is ur doing something wrong. Uncomfortable maybe, but ull stick it out for ur bf.

Source: Lets just say I know what I'm talking about far as this subject and hetrosexual relationships. Ill leave it at that lol.

 

[augustaB]

Having a good poo beforehand is a good idea.
Personally I always douche before receiving anal.
It does take some time, but using a shower shot (a tube attached to the shower hose) can make it quicker.
Most water-based lubes dry up rather quickly.
I recommend any of the silicon-oil lubes (Pjur, Eros, Swiss Navy, etc.)
The reason petroleum jelly is not recommended is because condoms dissolve in no time in contact with petroleum-based oils.
J-lube is a viable water-based lube you can mix yourself.
It's important to put the lube inside as well as on his penis.
Buy a "lube shooter" or a "vaginal applicator" for this purpose (available from Amazon)
Practicing with a butt plug will not help much. Practice with a dildo.
For beginners I recommend the Doc Johnson 12" double dong - flesh coloured (do not let jelly dildos anywhere near your body)
This dildo is about as thick as the average penis, and is sufficiently flexible to allow you to explore deeper as well.
Should you accidentally push it all the way in, the fact that it is double ended will allow you to easily poop it out again.

 

[Bearlove]

Having a good poo beforehand is a good idea.
Personally I always douche before receiving anal.
It does take some time, but using a shower shot (a tube attached to the shower hose) can make it quicker.
Most water-based lubes dry up rather quickly.
I recommend any of the silicon-oil lubes (Pjur, Eros, Swiss Navy, etc.)
The reason petroleum jelly is not recommended is because condoms dissolve in no time in contact with petroleum-based oils.
J-lube is a viable water-based lube you can mix yourself.
It's important to put the lube inside as well as on his penis.
Buy a "lube shooter" or a "vaginal applicator" for this purpose (available from Amazon)
Practicing with a butt plug will not help much. Practice with a dildo.
For beginners I recommend the Doc Johnson 12" double dong - flesh coloured (do not let jelly dildos anywhere near your body)
This dildo is about as thick as the average penis, and is sufficiently flexible to allow you to explore deeper as well.
Should you accidentally push it all the way in, the fact that it is double ended will allow you to easily poop it out again.

And should the need arise you can fold it and half and double the fun :D - shower shot is the best thing as it's easy to use and regulates the pressure which is essential if your squirting liquid up your ass. It should be mentioned that sharing toys etc carries risks so if your sharing use a condom etc, also wash and dry them after use.