Issac Sinclair
Bluelighter
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- Jan 27, 2011
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I met my now ex through my other ex gf. She and I broke up, and this girl I always knew liked me. You can kinda tell when someone likes you. Basically she put me on a roller coaster of horrible emotions, and its really hard to get my head off her. She has done some of the most horrible stuff to me, and also been one of the kindest people to me at the same time.
Our relationship started when she didn't like her ex anymore. We were fooling around, she went back and forth, and eventually chose me. I felt good because apparantly her ex fancied my ex and they all had a threesome, and I felt like it was the most fitting fuck you, you fucked my girl, now I will take away your girl from you forever! This was already exhilarating, and it was terrible, we both got chlamydia from her ex, thankfully nothing else. I should have worn protection, but we didn't since the start, and I didn't know any better (I do now).
I've never let anyone do that to me, and I don't think I will ever again either. She and I had a good few months of nonstop sex, and enjoying doing everything together, but then she cheated on me with her ex, and I found out at a festival when he came up to me and threw it in my face. It ruined the festival for us, and we left early. I should have ended it there, but I really felt that I loved her and we continued to be together, but she would always have emotional outbursts towards me about the guilt. Later she got pissed enough to fight me, and I let her hit me until she calmed down, while she threatened me with the fact that I was trying to rape her and she would call the cops and say I beat her. I packed my stuff to leave that day, but she held me back, and I thought it would be ok. This occurred again except this time I fought back and I felt very bad about it, because I am not a violent person. I don't want to blame her for my actions, and I told her family what I had done, although they agreed with me, I felt very guilty about it. She did more stuff after this like kissing the roommate, and lying about going out, in which I just moved all my stuff out and I just couldn't stand the pain anymore. I tried having no contact with her, but she is very beautiful, so it was really hard to say goodbye. I still saw her and I still love her for whatever reason. I even started cutting, doing excessive drugs, and I feel like this is rock bottom from my previous bad experiences.
I just want to ask... am I that pathetic? Am I that much of a loser to let all this stuff go because I felt love for her? I thought relationships could be fixed, and after a fight, it would be made up. I'm also not sure if Inherited traits from her that may impact future relationships. I don't know if that's possible, but I guess I wanted to write some of this stuff down, because in a relationship, I would have never accepted these things, but I let it go because I loved her, and I thought it was a symptom of her issues. Now I played with fire, and I got burnt.
If anyone has any advice from someone who has BPD or can chime in and tell me what a piece of shit I am, please do. I want you to tell me how fucked up I am, and what this means for my next relationship if I even have one. For those of you who are dating someone, and you google damaged good or BPD and discover their nature, try to leave. If you don't you'll end up like me, a fucking mess and a loser who has nothing to live for besides hoping that everything will be alright.
Our relationship started when she didn't like her ex anymore. We were fooling around, she went back and forth, and eventually chose me. I felt good because apparantly her ex fancied my ex and they all had a threesome, and I felt like it was the most fitting fuck you, you fucked my girl, now I will take away your girl from you forever! This was already exhilarating, and it was terrible, we both got chlamydia from her ex, thankfully nothing else. I should have worn protection, but we didn't since the start, and I didn't know any better (I do now).
I've never let anyone do that to me, and I don't think I will ever again either. She and I had a good few months of nonstop sex, and enjoying doing everything together, but then she cheated on me with her ex, and I found out at a festival when he came up to me and threw it in my face. It ruined the festival for us, and we left early. I should have ended it there, but I really felt that I loved her and we continued to be together, but she would always have emotional outbursts towards me about the guilt. Later she got pissed enough to fight me, and I let her hit me until she calmed down, while she threatened me with the fact that I was trying to rape her and she would call the cops and say I beat her. I packed my stuff to leave that day, but she held me back, and I thought it would be ok. This occurred again except this time I fought back and I felt very bad about it, because I am not a violent person. I don't want to blame her for my actions, and I told her family what I had done, although they agreed with me, I felt very guilty about it. She did more stuff after this like kissing the roommate, and lying about going out, in which I just moved all my stuff out and I just couldn't stand the pain anymore. I tried having no contact with her, but she is very beautiful, so it was really hard to say goodbye. I still saw her and I still love her for whatever reason. I even started cutting, doing excessive drugs, and I feel like this is rock bottom from my previous bad experiences.
I just want to ask... am I that pathetic? Am I that much of a loser to let all this stuff go because I felt love for her? I thought relationships could be fixed, and after a fight, it would be made up. I'm also not sure if Inherited traits from her that may impact future relationships. I don't know if that's possible, but I guess I wanted to write some of this stuff down, because in a relationship, I would have never accepted these things, but I let it go because I loved her, and I thought it was a symptom of her issues. Now I played with fire, and I got burnt.
If anyone has any advice from someone who has BPD or can chime in and tell me what a piece of shit I am, please do. I want you to tell me how fucked up I am, and what this means for my next relationship if I even have one. For those of you who are dating someone, and you google damaged good or BPD and discover their nature, try to leave. If you don't you'll end up like me, a fucking mess and a loser who has nothing to live for besides hoping that everything will be alright.