My Boyfriend's mother is in a porn movie and he does not know what to do

[vickyvicky]

I have been with my boyfriend for around 3 years now.
He is father to my child and an honest hard worker.

However his Mother, who as far as i am aware is an extremely good person with a good job as a manageress and was always a responsible parent according to my boyfriend and also loyal to his father, went a bit off the rails a bit after divorcing his father.

About two years ago my bf was left deeply embarrassed after he found out from a friend his mother had appeared in an Escort magazine.

I also teased him a bit and he was so unwilling to believe it that he had to find out for sure and i actually done the most embarrassing thing ever, and went out on his behalf and bought an escort magazine and i stood at the door to the lounge flicking through it while he lay scared on the couch asking me if it is true, to which i replied, "sorry, but yes".

Seeing his mother in escort was traumatising enough, but time is a healer and it all got forgotten about.

Now, he has been hit with the biggest shock of his, life, right before xmas too.

We have just been informed that his Mother is in a porn movie, and he was furious about this.

He spoke to his Mother about this and apparently she confessed after appearing in Escort she was approached by several agents asking if she would be interested.

He has also been warned that there are several other videos online about to be released.

However when the rage died down he was met with another dilemma one night lying in bed with me.

Should he watch it?

We have watched plenty porn but this is different.

I have told him if he wants to watch it i will watch it with him.

I admit though it is maybe not a good idea because i have not told him, but one afternoon when he was at work i sat down and watched it and omfg, this is as hardcore as you get, i actually felt sorry for her and him.

Now i have not told him i have watched it and i am now extremely worried he will ask me to watch it with him but i dont think he is quite realising the extent.

I dont know how i can even sit down to xmas dinner with her.

Should he watch it?

 

[Vastness]

Nice trolling but I guess I have too much free time. Why does he want to watch porn featuring his own mother? Perhaps he should see a therapist instead.

 

[vickyvicky]

He might have too

 

[alasdairm]

why on earth would you (plural) want to watch it? how about he calms down, respects his mother's right to make her own decisions and you just move on without watching it?

alasdair

 

[PriestTheyCalledHim]

I have been with my boyfriend for around 3 years now.
He is father to my child and an honest hard worker.

However his Mother, who as far as i am aware is an extremely good person with a good job as a manageress and was always a responsible parent according to my boyfriend and also loyal to his father, went a bit off the rails a bit after divorcing his father.

About two years ago my bf was left deeply embarrassed after he found out from a friend his mother had appeared in an Escort magazine.

I also teased him a bit and he was so unwilling to believe it that he had to find out for sure and i actually done the most embarrassing thing ever, and went out on his behalf and bought an escort magazine and i stood at the door to the lounge flicking through it while he lay scared on the couch asking me if it is true, to which i replied, "sorry, but yes".

Seeing his mother in escort was traumatising enough, but time is a healer and it all got forgotten about.

Now, he has been hit with the biggest shock of his, life, right before xmas too.

We have just been informed that his Mother is in a porn movie, and he was furious about this.

He spoke to his Mother about this and apparently she confessed after appearing in Escort she was approached by several agents asking if she would be interested.

He has also been warned that there are several other videos online about to be released.

However when the rage died down he was met with another dilemma one night lying in bed with me.

Should he watch it?

We have watched plenty porn but this is different.

I have told him if he wants to watch it i will watch it with him.

I admit though it is maybe not a good idea because i have not told him, but one afternoon when he was at work i sat down and watched it and omfg, this is as hardcore as you get, i actually felt sorry for her and him.

Now i have not told him i have watched it and i am now extremely worried he will ask me to watch it with him but i dont think he is quite realising the extent.

I dont know how i can even sit down to xmas dinner with her.

Should he watch it?

If this is for real, and you are not a troll, no he should not watch the porn video. Most people do not want to see their parents naked or having sex, or if they are prostitutes learn this about them, and it would really not be a good idea for him to watch the video.

 

[Kittycat5]

This surely is a troll. Guess SLR is fertile territory for creative writing.

 

[Brad F.]

Should he watch it?

Oh, for Gods sake, NO. I’m embarrassed for you for even asking that.

However his Mother, who as far as i am aware is an extremely good person…

Enjoying sex in what ever way you wish (as long as you’re not hurting anyone) does not make you a bad person. Sounds like you may be questioning her morality here. Those are HER morals, not yours or her sons. If she can make some side money doing it. Good for her!! She’s an adult and I’m sure quite capable of making her own choices in life. Don’t judge her.

We have watched plenty porn but this is different.

You should consider the double standard here. You and your husband are okay with porn…as long as mom isn’t??

I dont know how i can even sit down to xmas dinner with her.

Do it the same way you always would. As in the past, don’t bring up anybody’s personal life. Anyway, I assume you don’t have personal (sex) conversations at these family gatherings.

Should he watch it?

Again, I would say NO. I’m no mental health expert but something about even posing that question seems strange. So, assuming that he felt that sex between his mother and father was normal, would the question to watch them having sex ever even be a question?

Bottom Line: Let his mother make her own choices! You and your husband should not judge her. Sex is perfectly normal and natural and each of us gets to choose what works for us. You don’t need to involve yourself where you feel uncomfortable. But, don’t judge!

 

[JessFR]

So, I'm reading this post, it's sounding fairly reasonable and sensible. Then I reach "should he watch it?". I immediately switch from mobile website view to desktop and check, sure enough, greenlighter, 2 posts.

Now, I don't want to just, assume this is totally made up. But I don't exactly wanna discount it either.

Sigh, ok I'll bite.

First, there's no question of "should he watch it". It's up to him. But if he's so traumatized and if I'm honest I don't have much time for "my mom was in porn" trauma, then seems pretty obvious that he shouldn't at least until he's processed his profound trauma more. :/

And second, my advice is for him to get over it. And know that I don't say "just get over" lightly. But yeah, get over it. If here were still a kid having to go to school it'd be different. But if he's an adult it is neither any of his concern nor is it his problem. I should also mention I don't have much time for "my parents have had sex the world is ending" reactions in general, again least of all from adults.

 

[pofacedhoe]

op this is nonsense