Is she being friendly,interested or am I friend zoned?

[jsquire93]

So there is this girl I realized I kind of have a thing for, but have not really done anything about it. We do work at the same place I found out that this is what she thinks of me.
"Sometimes people touch you, and you want them in your life for a long time. Relationships ruin that for me"
Is there any chance for something to happen, or should I "cut my loses"? We get along very well with each other and have the same type of humour. For example today, she was telling me how she was treating her bikini line for ingrown hairs. She also got a little surprised and agitated, when she mistakenly thought I was leaving my job. The closest we have come to a date, was when we both decided to have dinner at a casino restaurant at 4.30am after a night of karaoke and clubbing.
I've been told that she does not "want anything" from work due to potential awkwardness. Further to this, I've found out that I'd be her no 1. choice
What complicates and confuses me is
1. She is 9 months out of a 4 year relationship
2. At work she suggested that act /pretend to others that we are getting married. Also on a night out with work colleagues, she asked me to pretend to ne her husband/bf if anyone hit on her.
3. Because we have a similar style humour it is hard to tell if she is just being her self or stepping it up. Case in point:She came over to my place for the first time, she noticed how my dog was kicking when I was rubbing/scratching her belly, and she said " You sure know how to find your dogs g-spot".
4. The way she slept when we were crashing at a friends place.
Feel free to ask any questions

 

[Maya]

You will never know the answer if you don't try asking her out for real, or starting up a conversation with her regarding how you feel. So it is okay to be in a relationship with someone you work with at your workplace? Hmm I find that odd because most companies will not allow that.

In short, we can't really assume because for her it might just be something friendly, something that she says or do because she is comfortable with you and she trusts you as a friend. Why don't you try asking her and see how she will respond? Good luck!

 

[Pretty_Diamonds]

Why don't you ask her out on another date? She may have a rule about co-workers but you can be an exception. Just don't make the date super formal, just casually, grab a bite to eat after work.

1. So it's been almost a year? You're fine.
2. Girls do this often with guys (friends/crush/randoms)
3. I think she was just making a joke--I don't know how that's "stepping it up"
4. Right.

 

[Animal Mother]

Here's the thing about being a guy. Women hold the key to the gates of...uhem...well, women just have to say yes.

you, on the other hand, have to pursue and play a game of balance between forwardness and coyness.

it's rough, but we tough it out. Man up, take the I initiative and go for what you want.

 

[95Land]

Yeah, your sweetness/looking for signs is kind of endearing but it's not gonna get you anywhere. Waiting for some girls to initiate involves a lot of.... Waiting.
As a guy you're much better off just throwing something out there. Something along the lines of, "I don't want this to ruin our friendship and I know you've got a thing about dating people from work. But I really enjoy spending time with you and wondered if you'd want to spend more time together and have it be a little more formal."
Something along those lines. If she says she's not ready or whatever, it's probably just a matter of her fully working through and over her last LTR. She likes you, so there's probably a future in it, right? From the sound of things I seriously doubt you'd get a out and out "No."

Personally I try to not be overly coy. I used to be really, really shy and would wait until I was absolutely 100% sure I wasn't gonna get rejected before I did anything.
Now I can see some of the potentially significant people I let slip out of my life because I was scared of getting my feelings hurt. Knowing is so, so much better than letting a opportunity pass you by and then having to wonder for the rest of your life.