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I love my man, so why do I want to cheat?

I think if the intention is there, you need to think about why long and hard - I would normally say cheating is a confidence issue, or you're just horrible, but here it's you wanting to cheat and not having done so yet.

This leads me to muse that for once you're seeing yourself really happy, and you have opened up more than before to this guy, and that scares the shit outta you - that this guy might actually be the one who you're supposed to be with right now for all the good reasons, and you're second guessing yourself.

Don't second guess yourself if this sounds like you - just share your thoughts with him, after considering how to say them, and what's most important to discuss with him.

Hopefully after having shared even more with him, and him not thinking you're nuts, you'll be even closer still and will find the thoughts diminish and disappear.

Good luck!
 
Maybe you might want to talk to a psychiatrist about this if you got the money.
 
Thomas29 said:
Maybe you might want to talk to a psychiatrist about this if you got the money.
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Pay someone to tell you that it is normal to want to fuck other people even if you are having great sex with someone you love???

I guess you could do that......OR you could simply ask any truly sexual person over the age of 25.

LOL
 
I think your man would be ok with it if say you could record the encounter for him to watch later, maybe while you n him are "reviewing" the tape and getting it on.

Guys usually like their missus fucking while they watch or know, due to sperm competition theory:
If two guys share one girl (knowingly or not), whoever has sex with her the most (or comes first in a mfm) is more likely to impregnate her. Therefore its in the guys best interests to be turned on, as the more turned on he is the quicker he can come and the more often he can ride. The genes for thise odd sexual behaviour are then passed on to his children. The whole thing is of course unconcious and genetic (so whether the girl CAN get pregnant doesnt matter), and mostly designed to combat cheating or sharing arrangements in tribal society.

Because its unconscious, this drive can lead to the wierd situation where a man has a completely monogamous female, and then PURPOSELY seeks out another male for her to fuck, because the situation turns him on so!

Even though I know where this drive comes from, I have considered going through with this fantasy with my own GF.
 
Comrade Kane said:
The genes for these odd sexual behaviour are then passed on to his children. The whole thing is of course unconcious and genetic (so whether the girl CAN get pregnant doesnt matter), and mostly designed to combat cheating or sharing arrangements in tribal society.

Because its unconscious, this drive can lead to the wierd situation where a man has a completely monogamous female, and then PURPOSELY seeks out another male for her to fuck, because the situation turns him on so!
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I don´t think we all have it on our genes but agree that most of these actions could be unconscious from past generations.:\
 
anonvld said:
We've been together for eight years. We have kids together. We generally get on. We have mind-bending sex. Not every time, but plenty. I do really love him.

Lately, though, I've been having mad crushes on other men. An ex. A facebook friend. A BLer. I've even looked at some of the sexy personals online. I want something different.

Sad thing is, he'd be thrilled to watch me fuck someone else. I just wouldn't. I don't like the dynamic of a threesome with 2 men.

How far into fantasyland can I go without cheating? Sexting/phone sex? Webcam fun? Is it really different from him wanking to porn? Please discuss.
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I don´t believe most of us would like to see our girl having sex to another men. That´s what I think, but I don´t know your situation.
Maybe some men tell this not to show weakness.(?)
 
If you love something, let it go and if still loves you the next day, it'll come home.
That's always been my motto.
 
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