Got some bad news tonight

[Eligiu]

My mate, a gay guy I sometimes use with told me that a trans woman I've met a couple of times got murdered/was found dead in suspicious circumstances on Wednesday evening. She was found on the beat (the gay sex beat) which is around 500m away from my apartment.

I don't do street sex work anymore, that's long in the past, but hearing stuff like this makes me feel really insecure and vulnerable about my safety as a trans person (especially as a sex worker) regardless of living in what is a relatively decent country for transgender rights.

I really wish my trans brothers and especially my trans sister's could live a life of safety. It says a lot about our lives that our two 'holidays' are 'can society please acknowledge our existence' and 'these are all our dead siblings from the past 365 days'.

I'm heading to the beat now to pay my respects. I haven't been here for a while since I stopped working it but there's a group of us going to meet there.

 

[Jerry Atrick]

@Eligiu I'm so sorry this has happened. Please stay safe out there

If you don't mind, due to the subject matter, I'm going to move this thread to The Dark Side.

EDIT: I Thought I posted this message when I moved the thread but apparently didn't.

 

[Eligiu]

@Eligiu I'm so sorry this has happened. Please stay safe out there

If you don't mind, due to the subject matter, I'm going to move this thread to The Dark Side.

EDIT: I Thought I posted this message when I moved the thread but apparently didn't.

Thanks, that's all good.

Apparently I got the day she died wrong. She was found on the Wednesday, but was left there for over a week dead with no reports made about her or for her safety.

I cannot imagine feeling such a sense of disgust towards another human that you would kill them senselessly and leave them to rot somewhere for more than a week. It is beyond me. She wasn't a great person by any stretch, but she didn't deserve that.

Honestly when I used to go over to people's houses to work I used to think 'i could die here tonight and no one would ever know' because of how little society cares about trans sex workers.

The vast majority of murdered trans people are trans women of colour, who do sex work as they're locked out of mainstream jobs due to staggeringly high levels of transphobia. I remember the first trans day of remembrance I ever went to and they read the list of names out and it went on forever, and these were people in their mid twenties. The oldest? Maybe mid thirties?

What kind of life is it really when they suffer miserably throughout it, only to die violently 30-50 years before the rest of society.

It doesn't seem to matter how I try to describe transphobia to cisgender people, it's completely impossible to understand. Last week some drunk guys found my escorting profile online and called me to make fun of me, then threaten to correctively rape me. And that was just a Friday evening for me.

These woman experience that x1000 and I just wish they could have an easier life.

 

[Flynnal]

What I can't understand is that this is happening in a sexually liberal society...or so we're told. I guess it isn't quite as liberal as it's made out to be. And that's a shame because there is no room for this kind of abuse in any civilised society.

 

[paranoid android]

I had a trans friend that was also a bluelighter that got shot in the ribs with a .22 by some random cunt. How the fuck you can be fucked up enough to just shoot some random trans person i dunno.

 

[Foreigner]

What horrible news, I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. My friend who was trans who used to do sex work in Portland, OR went missing 3 years ago and nobody has heard from her. I used to talk to her once a month on video chat and even though her life was hard she was such an uplifting person. Sorry to add another sad story to the thread, it is just reminding me of a pain I have.

Although I am not trans, I'm gay, and I understand how the impact of hate crimes affects everyone in a demographic. I would feel unsafe too. Is there anyone you can reach out to for support? I feel that sex workers are still so vulnerable because of the laws and stigmas, and trans workers have it the worst. I wish more would be done to bring stuff into the daylight.

 

[Eligiu]

What I can't understand is that this is happening in a sexually liberal society...or so we're told. I guess it isn't quite as liberal as it's made out to be. And that's a shame because there is no room for this kind of abuse in any civilised society.

I had a trans friend that was also a bluelighter that got shot in the ribs with a .22 by some random cunt. How the fuck you can be fucked up enough to just shoot some random trans person i dunno.

I don't know why people hate trans people so much. All we want is to exist and not be targetted for harassment and to have as normal lives as possible. I don't get why so many people hate us to the point of trying to make our lives as miserable as possible.

 

[AussieJoe]

So sorry to hear that.Not sure what to say...its just so fkd up when ppl cannot live their lives and choose their own path for whats right for them...Where does this hate stem from?Is it the upringing from religious households .Or is it just plain evil ....maybe both fkd if i know.

 

[Foreigner]

I don't know why people hate trans people so much. All we want is to exist and not be targetted for harassment and to have as normal lives as possible. I don't get why so many people hate us to the point of trying to make our lives as miserable as possible.

It's because their definition of "normal" is so narrow that they are practically mentally retarded.

 

[fromuponpoppyhill]

I don't know why people hate trans people so much. All we want is to exist and not be targetted for harassment and to have as normal lives as possible. I don't get why so many people hate us to the point of trying to make our lives as miserable as possible.

Literally. We've just been targeted as some sort of scapegoat for all the evils of society under capitalism and it's so fucked up. Choosing some of the most vulnerable people in society to make some sort of example of is fucked up.

 

[Atomic_Decay]

I am really sorry to read this. It’s really unbelievable that people have so much hate over something that’s really none of their concerm or any threat to them.