Hey
@rock1970
I was going through the posts, I couldn't help but notice how you spelled "Gabbapentin". It was at that point, I knew we had a greenhorn on our hands and these are some of my favorite folks to help answer. No true addict or degenerate like myself or other BL'ers would ever sin so badly as to misspell the names of our drugs, but I'm digressing.
I too have had experience with managing medication for family members and dealing with doctors in basically identical circumstances to yours. It's a real bitch, so pat yourself on the back for being there for her. My gran was on Benzodiazepines and that was basically her issue, although she's been on Gabapentinoids before as well. She had had multiple instances of not being able to control her consumption, typically running out 5 days early or whatever, nothing crazy, but enough to screw her over. I would have understood making a plan to withdraw the medication, but gradually, over a few months at least. They took her completely off the Lorazepam (Ativan) she had been taking for a decade in two weeks.
As I said, many of us are seasoned drug addicts and we've seen some shit. My grandmother is not a seasoned drug addict. Watching her experience Benzodiazepine withdrawal, while having dementia, while recovering from knee surgery at 85 years old made me sad, angry and hopeless. I felt it was totally inappropriate to put her through that, but sadly, once the doctor has initiated this sort of thing, it is
extremely difficult to get them to change.
For them to change, would mean them doing an about face and admitting that they were wrong, which is unlikely regardless of how crazy things get for your ward. Going to get "a second opinion" will almost certainly lead to backlash from that provider, entrenching the idea that this person is an addict. This will only make the situation more difficult.
It really kills me to say this, but you have an uphill battle here. As
@shugenja was saying, get everything prepared so that you can speak for this person and be an equal part of the treatment plan. Next, we can help you figure out exactly what to say and how to say it, but in the end, the argument will always be that this taper is too fast and that the suffering involved will cross ethical lines. For the record, I do believe that it will be a difficult withdrawal. Gabapentinoids can be pretty rough.
For now, play the game within the established channels. See if you can make any kind of headway in getting the taper reduced to a more suitable speed. Ideally, this would be over 3 months at least. I see no clinical value in taking someone off of a medication in two weeks over 3 months. It just contributes to suffering needlessly, but doctors in this country are not exactly known for their medical ethics or dedication to the wellbeing of their patients. There are some good ones, sure, but as a society, we are basically abused by doctors who take their marching orders from the pharmaceutical companies. When doctors get scared, I believe they do the rapid taper as a way of saying "see, I'm tough on addiction. I'm not gonna tolerate it in my practice" even though they were the ones who planted the seed and nurtured it to full-bloom.
If you are unable to work within the established channels, things will be difficult, but not impossible. I would recommend actually experiencing the taper and if it is too extreme, which it likely will be, have your ward present at the ED with her extreme withdrawal symptoms. Let them see her writhe, cry and sweat in the hospital for an hour or two. I know this sounds really cold, but that's what you need to do. Don't mess around. Don't go to the ED until things are bad. This will just arouse suspicion and potnetially end any chance of receiving better care.
We're here to help you and let us know if you have any questions.