Advice Faking orgasms?

[axe battler]

So this is a question maybe mainly for the ladies. I'm seeing someone and she says I'm awesome at giving head.
She makes the appropriate noises that met me know to she's come. However normally when a girl comes (I us me mouth and 2 or 3 fingers) there normally is normally a lot of squeezing and pushing against me fingers, which doesn't happen with her.

She's very happy for me to do it and I can definitely tell when first contact is made she is genuinely moaning (so hot!)

So I'm asking does the internal muscle action happy with all girls or not. Ive encountered this lack of pushing before but it never occurred to ask here!!

I àlso really wanna please this woman. I like her.

 

[Keeloverandfly]

Im not a lady but…

If she says she enjoys it, then she probably does. Maybe she is having an orgasm, maybe she isn’t. The important thing is she is having a good time. I had a partner who never came except alone with a toy. But in bed with me she was so much fun and screamed and writhed with pleasure. Without having orgasms, she still got as much pleasure as plenty of other multi orgasmic women I’ve been with.

Anyways you won’t find out from strangers on the internet if a woman is faking an orgasm. Not all orgasms are accompanied by clenching. Only she knows what is happening in her body and mind, so if you want to know more about her sexual response, create an open and supportive dialogue with her. If she is faking to some extent, that is a whole can of worms to deal with but definitely don’t guilt her. Maybe ask her how she feels when you lick her. Also you could ask her to masturbate in front of you to see what her orgasmic response is, to see how she likes to be touched, etc.

 

[Jabberwocky]

rhythmic pulsating contractions when you cum when you are girl is what happens your instincts are dead on
moaning not needed but the rest definitely is

maybe she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings or feels like it takes too long for her get off
maybe she is too busy moaning and trying to make you feel good to concentrate and get off

who knows

this is why I do kegels when I fake it

 

[jasperkent]

This is what I don't miss about being young: everything's a guessing game.

Ever considered just asking her?

 

[Robi]

yep , twitching inside is often an indicator and clitoris bulging, if she kicks you off if you keep licking her clit after orgasm(it tickles for many, hard sucking often feels great after climax for a little bit) its a sure bet not a fake O, every(and some common ground) female is so unique, and ive had a few fakers and faked it my self, in fact im faking it now, but to happy fuckin sweetheart, you will learn of each other, and awesome you really care for her pleasure, just remember, its the journey not the destination

 

[Robi]

rhythmic pulsating contractions when you cum when you are girl is what happens your instincts are dead on
moaning not needed but the rest definitely is

maybe she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings or feels like it takes too long for her get off
maybe she is too busy moaning and trying to make you feel good to concentrate and get off

who knows

this is why I do kegels when I fake it

 

[axe battler]

This is what I don't miss about being young: everything's a guessing game.

Ever considered just asking her?

I have asked her if she came. She said she's never sure and not just with with me. She THINKS she comes, but if I'm honest I think she perhaps struggles.
She's 34 though and I like her and don't want her missing out!!
She gets super wet and had a good sex drive, and I know I'm adequate in that dept. I just want her to fucking come already!
I suppose the next step is having careful conversations where I can get tips.

 

[Keeloverandfly]

Does she have a womanizer or hitachi wand sex toy? They are known to bring out elusive orgasms.. and they make great presents.

 

[Eligiu]

I faked it last time I had sex, but he seemed to think it happened twice. I did not have the heart to tell him it was pretty average at best and I'm never going to see him again so what does it matter? I know how to fake it because I know how it feels when it's real - so you just do the same basic thing with your body. It's not difficult to fake it.

However if two people are in a long term committed relationship I'd be seriously questioning why one of them feels the need to be faking it, what the purpose of that is, and why they can't just be having a healthy mature adult discussion about the issue.

I would suggest asking her my dude.

 

[Atomic_Decay]

this is why I do kegels when I fake it

That is some next level profesionalism and consideration for your inadequate partner.

If only all ladies dotted the i’s and crossed the t’s in the bedroom like that…

 

[jasperkent]

... if two people are in a long term committed relationship I'd be seriously questioning why one of them feels the need to be faking it, what the purpose of that is...

Exactly.
As my gf of 7 yrs said: Why would I pretend it's OK if it's not? Then it would never get any better!

 

[Atomic_Decay]

Also..i know this is a question for respectable women and I am a male with known deviant tendencies…

…but I have faked orgasms for years to keep the ladies happy. Originally I’d fake just the second one out of boredom or because I had work to get back to..

..now I usually fake the first one after a very moderate amount of time (10 minutes max) when having stim sex lest the combination of meth and Cialis cause me lose the plot and unwittingly come to 8 hours later to find a severely traumatised lady/ladyboy pinned to the sheets underneath me.

Some partners a bit suspicious about the lack of visible evidence of my satisfaction but since I had my prostate re-sectioned i have retrogade ejaculations anyway even when I do cum.

 

[axe battler]

What's funny I think I've only came twice out of the 8-9 times we've had sex. With me it was due to benzos though.

I'm not gonna worry about it tbh. She's told me she wants to keep it casual (think because I'm an addict) so I assume she enjoys the sex. Or just my company. She always seems game for sex, anyway.

If we were to get a bit more serious it could be something to worry about more, but I think deep conversations on her sexual functions are kinda off limits at the moment.

For now I'll just try to tweak techniques... I do know my way around a vagina.

Ah man I miss me late fiancée.