Whoops my mistake. Urgh, tried to edit my post on a mobile and ended up deleting it... managed to go back and copy what I posted though, any future readers of this thread, this post is slightly out of chronological order:
OP, ask yourself, if it is easier to go do it the old fashioned way, then why haven't you done this already?
I seem to be posting a very similar response in a lot of threads recently, but nonetheless... online dating and approaching people in real life are both just different ways to do the same thing, but it does not make sense, in my view, to say that one is "easier" than the other as they both use quite different but somewhat complimentary skill sets. And on that note, online dating is to some extent a skill, and, just like in real life, and you need to put a little effort into it. You will attract the sort of person that you project through your profile and through messages, so if you are projecting a person that is not willing to put any effort in, has a defeatist attitude, and with unrealistic expectations and stipulations about a partner, like...
Markomarkh said:
Ideally I'd like a girl with no kids or even been touched, ya know what I mean
...(LOL) then it is no wonder that you are not attracting the sort of woman you actually want to date.
Online dating can be a time saving device although it depends what you're looking for. Yeah it might be easier to connect with any random stranger on the street if you have rudimentary social skills and take care of yourself, but out of these people that you meet there is a far lower chance of it developing into anything meaningful, whereas online if you connect with someone you already know that you have some things in common and some compatibility.
Also, -=SS=-, I am sorry but I just have to call you out on a few things.
Women get a TON of attention on dating sites, which is probably more the reason they're on there in the first place anyway.
I really don't think this is the entirely true... they probably join in the first place for similar reasons as men, although they may come to enjoy the attention they get after they have been on there for a while. Equally though in my experience many women find the constant onslaught of generic, desperate and sometimes offensive messages quite frustrating, but they persist because of the other reasons that they joined.
They can also filter out any and every man that doesn't fit the fantasy criteria they have in their heads.
This is true of men as well.
.. nothing to suggest any real depth of personality, and the pictures show that as well. A lot also don't exude relationship material, and even display signs of mental instability, though I feel that's probably just representative of women in general these days.
Again, I think this is true of men as well. With these statements you are projecting a fairly negative and frustrated view onto people, and seemingly, primarily, women, which no doubt has some basis in your own experience but is not reflective of reality. Again, we attract the sort of person whose character matches the attitude we project to the world, so these views you hold are very likely to become a self-fulfilling prophecy if you don't make some effort to keep them in check.
All that said I will agree however that in my experience POF really is the bottom of the barrel as far as online dating goes, I don't know why this would be the case, but for some reason it does seem to be the case.