What you think and what is law are two different things. I have not seen or read 50shades, from what friends have told me and some of the details I know about it.... its crap. I've read some passages from the book... its shit. Its like it was written by a stupid 15yr old girl virgin with sexual fantasies. Its not BDSM, its a guy with anger sexual issues... He takes her, he pushes her, she beats him, she fixes him, happy ever after. There is no "fixing" in BDSM, its just kinky sex play. It *USED* to be illegal to have anal sex in Texas an other states, but that was fixed in the late 90s.
And **NO** it shouldn't to the Supreme Court... its consenting sex... and would you trust the Court to decide on HOW you can have sex? What if enough of them choose to make BDSM 100% illegal? Some countries have various laws against BDSM, some are completely fine with it, as long as no hospital injuries and death. "hey, if having her stick a watermelon up your ass while jerking you off with sandpaper around your dick works for the both of you... not our problem".
Here is a quote from wikipedia on the USA's BDSM Laws:
The United States Federal law does not list a specific criminal determination for consensual BDSM acts. Many BDSM practitioners cite the legal decision of People v. Jovanovic, 95 N.Y.2d 846 (2000), or the "Cybersex Torture Case" which was the first U.S. appellate decision to hold (in effect) one does not commit assault if victim consents. However, many individual states do criminalize specific BDSM actions within their state borders. Some states specifically address the idea of "consent to BDSM acts" within their assault laws such as the state of New Jersey which states "simple assault" to be defined as "a disorderly persons offense unless committed in a fight or scuffle entered into by mutual consent, in which case it is a petty disorderly persons offense".[174] BDSM activities including flagellation (spanking) specifically without paying for such action (i.e., prostitution) between consenting adults are specifically addressed as illegal in certain individual states.
So yeah, depending on your state... the simple act of spanking your wife's butt *IS ILLEGAL!!*! But paying a whore to spank your ass is LEGAL, but she'll still be charged with the crime of being a whore. WHAT The FUCK!? Again, in many states, BDSM is considered a mental illness. Yet in other countries who have done some research have not found any abuse or child-rearing problems with people who do BDSM... ie: Its something kinky to do in the bedroom or party that the kids NEVER SEE.
(quoted from wiki)
The current version of the American Psychiatric Association's manual, DSM-5, excludes consensual BDSM from diagnosis when the sexual interests cause no harm or distress. The International Classification of Diseases (ICD-10) indicates that "mild degrees of sadomasochistic stimulation are commonly used to enhance otherwise normal sexual activity." and "On the contrary, men who had engaged in BDSM scored lower on a psychological distress scale than men who did not."
I've NEVER hit my wife. I'll never hurt her in any such way. When she has gotten injured (accidents of normal living) such as falling, breaking a leg, etc... its quite upsetting. But she does like her spanking and her rough sex domination and of course, its not an every day thing.
Read this (interesting)
http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2009/12/13/the-legal-dangers-of-rough-sex.html
I think this photo (from wiki) is interesting:
That is not my kink, but I can appreciate the commitment and work involved for that horse play. That costume is custom made to fit her, with bells on her nipples. He is dress to command. The carriage, etc.. and her mostly nudity in crowds of thousands of people. She loves it, he loves it... congratulations.
I've been with very dominant partners before but never in the context of a scene. But just thinking about that makes me question myself and how it would feel to not be in control of what's happening aside from the ability to stop it. Also makes me wonder how it would affect the way that I punish her and maybe even the reward aspects as well. I'm going to run it by her and see what she thinks but I don't know if she is open to it. But hey you only live once fuck it.
(about being on the bottom).
Its been recommend by many in BDSM circles. My wife doesn't Dom me. But I do like watching her dom others. Its been many years, long before I meet my wife that I've been in a bottom experience. So several months ago, at a kink/BDSM party with almost 200 people in building venue, the idea came across as a joke from her to have me on a rack and flogged. It was our first time there, didn't really know anyone there. I told my wife "Sure" and her eyes were so bright "really!?". She didn't do it, but a Dominatrix who had use of the rack at the time, cuffed me in. For the experience, I went butt-naked - since my wife is naked and collared as a proper sub should be. I did talk to the Dominatrix about why I was doing it and my pain threshold. It was about 3~5 minutes of flogging with a few types of floggers. It was like a massage for me... I enjoyed it. I got my back, butt, legs hit. But I have no "sub-space" experience and was done. I told her to let me out so someone else can have REAL fun with the equipment. I was never trapped, or felt endangered nor the thrill. But my wife was happy I did, and so am I.
So don't be a pussy, let your wife spank your ass!
