Northernman
Greenlighter
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- Aug 11, 2015
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Hi, this is my first post. I'm in my 50's and have 3 children in their teens. My wife and I have been together for 20 yrs. Three years ago I discovered that my wife was involved with a married work colleague. This bloke is a similar age to my wife, both in their mid 40's. I outed him to his wife and children and was then subjected to an AVO. My wife blamed me for the affair and has not done anything to rebuild our relationship. I found out all the gory details from her affair partner prior to him running off and hiding behind his AVO. The text and e-mails I uncovered and a couple of iphone pics were humiliating. The thing that shocked me is a common theme. My wife was prepared to do things with this piece of dirt that she refused to do with me or only ever did reluctantly a handful of times back in the day. I was taken aback by how she lavished praise on this low life. As a man it rocked me to know that he had the type of impact on her that she described. I understand that things do get blown up out of proportion when two people are caught up in this but nonetheless it was powerful stuff. This whole charade lasted about 18 months I've calculated. She refuses to discuss it now, even though I did get her to fess up some detail early on. But because I was angry about what she told me, she then used that as a reason to shutdown. In any case our sex life came to a complete halt after about a week of what is known as hysterical bonding. She will not have intimate relations with me. Unfortunately there is too much at stake with my children right now in terms of schooling and also financially. I simply cannot afford to move out and she refuses to leave. So I am literally stuck. I am trying to meet other women but it is difficult as we are under the same roof and to be honest I just want some physical relations right now, I am not wanting to start a relationship. Yeah, I know but that is how I feel right now. Prostitution is out of the question though; It's just not my thing. My situation is a tough one but not that uncommon from what I have read. Thanks for reading - Northernman