A Question About Love and Drugs

[InfiniteScience]

Mods, feel free to move if this doesn't belong here.

Cutting to the chase, my question is: do you feel like your drug use has affected how you FEEL about relationships in the long-term?
I realize that in the short-term drugs can affect how you feel about those around you in the moment. Like how when you're actually high, Molly can make you love everyone, or meth can make you fear everyone. But have any of you noticed any change about how you view friendship, love, family, or even professional relationships, since your drug use began? Has it changed what traits, qualities, hobbies, etc. you find attractive in people? Has it changed how you view physical things, like hugs, sex, cuddling, kissing, massaging?
For those of you who are now sober or who have significantly cut back on your drug use or the amount of different drugs you use, I pose the same question. Has sobriety changed how you view, build, and keep your relationships? Has it made the physical aspects of relationships more or less enjoyable/appealing?

This isn't for a specific study. I asked someone this last night and it kind of blew his mind for a second, so I thought that maybe since it's such a complex question, it would be worth asking more people who have had more experience with drugs than I?

 

[mikeezy187]

I,m new too rcs need help to find whats right for me much appriciated hay guys been taken drugs for yars but iv had some time off and ready to retern so i retern to a whole new scene we have somthing called rc drugs now i love coke i love mdma and i love benzoz so i was wondering if u vetrens could help this nebee so based on te drugs i ave told u i love please tell me what the best rcs on the market right now one thing for some reson i hate weed i always have i cant stand the way it makes me feel so that aside i cant wait to hear what u guys have in mind for me

 

[Tronica]

Hi InfiniteScience. Interesting question, but you are right, the thread doesn't belong in Drug Studies. I'm moving to Sex, Love and Relationships

 

[Ligaturd]

I started using drugs early, sexual abuse and trauma as a child had me using drugs at a very early age. Stimulants made me hypersexual but due to anxiety and shame from the trauma it has been extremely hard to actually form sexual relationships or even be comfortable with socializing. Using stimulants and resorting to pornography to satisfy my sexual desires had me being okay with being reclusive and not really venturing out and having relationships and developing in that area.

If I had never started using drugs I would have been forced to expience life sober and actually develop in these areas because I did socialize and have sex with people but using drugs as a crutch, I was able to go out and experience these things but drug abuse can hinder development and without drugs these things are difficult. I tended to really enjoy opioids as they killed my sex drive and made me content with being alone, now that I am trying to quit my testosterone levels that were once suppressed have gone through the roof forcing me to confront having a sex drive again and essentially finishing puberty. Relationships and sexual partners I have had, I sabotaged out of frustration and used drugs to fill that void. Our reward circuitry is usually there to encourage us to attain happiness and connect with others and fulfill biological desires but the pleasure from drugs takes presidence and an addict can find themselves isolating and avoiding those experiences. At first they allowed me to talk to people, going from being socially retarded to not having any inhibitions caused me to make an ass out of myself constantly but I did manage to make friends and connect with people but as my usage progressed the more I isolated and the more desperate I was to please people in have friends and I got used quite a lot, trusting the wrong people

This is not true of everyone but the same sort of concepts expressed here can be applied in different ways for the effects of drugs on others relationships and how it affects the way that they experience love.

 

[RhythmSpring]

I,m new too rcs need help to find whats right for me much appriciated hay guys been taken drugs for yars but iv had some time off and ready to retern so i retern to a whole new scene we have somthing called rc drugs now i love coke i love mdma and i love benzoz so i was wondering if u vetrens could help this nebee so based on te drugs i ave told u i love please tell me what the best rcs on the market right now one thing for some reson i hate weed i always have i cant stand the way it makes me feel so that aside i cant wait to hear what u guys have in mind for me

holy ferk

 

[Vagina Lover]

Mods, feel free to move if this doesn't belong here.

Cutting to the chase, my question is: do you feel like your drug use has affected how you FEEL about relationships in the long-term?
I realize that in the short-term drugs can affect how you feel about those around you in the moment. Like how when you're actually high, Molly can make you love everyone, or meth can make you fear everyone. But have any of you noticed any change about how you view friendship, love, family, or even professional relationships, since your drug use began? Has it changed what traits, qualities, hobbies, etc. you find attractive in people? Has it changed how you view physical things, like hugs, sex, cuddling, kissing, massaging?
For those of you who are now sober or who have significantly cut back on your drug use or the amount of different drugs you use, I pose the same question. Has sobriety changed how you view, build, and keep your relationships? Has it made the physical aspects of relationships more or less enjoyable/appealing?

This isn't for a specific study. I asked someone this last night and it kind of blew his mind for a second, so I thought that maybe since it's such a complex question, it would be worth asking more people who have had more experience with drugs than I?

This is a very personal, complex, and difficult question to answer. Nonetheless, it is something I think about very often.

Have drugs changed the way I feel about relationships?

Well, I don't know by how much, but yes, of course. In general, a mind-altering substance would have the capacity to alter the body and brain to the degree at which it would affect areas of life - including social, physical, psychological/emotional, spiritual, and educational. So, then, a drug will be able to affect the ways in which these specified areas function in our life - sometimes they become so dysfunctional that it seems futile to try make changes.

Of course, it also depends on the drug consumed.

One might be popping a bit of MDMA on the weekend, which would lead to enhanced human contact and other short term and long term changes - for either the better or worse.

It might be opiates which someone becomes addicted to. This can lead to stunted awareness, and it can culminate in personal relationships breaking down. This nearly always happens with addicts, whether fully functioning or not, due to not being aware of the consequences of their own actions/behaviors and ending up in bad stations...

In terms of things like hugs, sex, cuddling, kissing, massaging, I don't believe any remaining, permanent changes to these have been directly a result of my drug use, for me.

My sobriety has allowed me to rebuild relationships in my life.

I don't think I can go into it anymore than that right now or I would end up writing a book/drug memoir. But once drugs have taken a hold of one's life, it becomes very difficult to sustain relationship with friends, family, lovers, and work colleagues.