Hi guys! I was hoping to get a little advice.
I am dating this guy who tells me he has strong feelings for me, but is not "yet" head over heels. He wants us to be completely exclusive but is not yet ready for the boyfriend/girlfriend title. The reason being is that he believes the title comes with certain expectations that he doesn't like (the feeling of having to report to someone). He said that he sees us heading in that direction eventually, but that he wants me and his feelings are definitely there.
I am completely back and forth on this because I feel that exclusivity is the only real expectation of a monogamous relationship. I have never felt that "reporting" was a major expectation, or a healthy one at that. Is he trying to have his cake or eat it too? Or should I just allow him to move at his own pace?
I mentioned to him that I would be more than happy to just date and see where it goes, that exclusivity isn't a necessity for me at this point. He told me absolutely not because he does not want me with other people, nor does he want to be with other people. I have never thought I would be exclusive to someone who was not ready to fully commit.
Am I overthinking this? Go with the flow or run for the hills?
Thank you in advance.
I am dating this guy who tells me he has strong feelings for me, but is not "yet" head over heels. He wants us to be completely exclusive but is not yet ready for the boyfriend/girlfriend title. The reason being is that he believes the title comes with certain expectations that he doesn't like (the feeling of having to report to someone). He said that he sees us heading in that direction eventually, but that he wants me and his feelings are definitely there.
I am completely back and forth on this because I feel that exclusivity is the only real expectation of a monogamous relationship. I have never felt that "reporting" was a major expectation, or a healthy one at that. Is he trying to have his cake or eat it too? Or should I just allow him to move at his own pace?
I mentioned to him that I would be more than happy to just date and see where it goes, that exclusivity isn't a necessity for me at this point. He told me absolutely not because he does not want me with other people, nor does he want to be with other people. I have never thought I would be exclusive to someone who was not ready to fully commit.
Am I overthinking this? Go with the flow or run for the hills?
Thank you in advance.