24 virgin with autism schizophrenia

[lonelyoldman]

I'm male. Am I better off doing without sex? I have antipsychotic related weight gain but nothing major. If Anyone likes I can pm a picture so you can judge my chances for achieving a hook-up, and how attractive she could be, and any advice on my appearance.

I think I'm lonely and would like a nice woman to have sex with.

 

[Pretty_Diamonds]

If you just want sex, there's apps you know....

If you're concerned about your appearance, exercise!

 

[polymath]

I'm male. Am I better off doing without sex? I have antipsychotic related weight gain but nothing major. If Anyone likes I can pm a picture so you can judge my chances for achieving a hook-up, and how attractive she could be, and any advice on my appearance.

I think I'm lonely and would like a nice woman to have sex with.

I think you're taking a bit of a wrong approach here, you're most likely to just get ridiculed if you ask that from random strangers on the net... (sorry for pointing this out)

I have an autism spectrum disorder, too, and I need an antipsychotic medication to prevent stress-induced reactive psychoses. I had gained some extra weight at one point, too, but after quitting regular alcohol use, I quickly lost weight and returned to normal (or maybe even slightly underweight) BMI. I was as old as 26 when I got sex for the first time, and that was with a hooker (surprise, surprise...)

When you're an adult trying to look for a relationship, I don't think it's that important how you look like (as long as there's nothing really grotesque/pathological in your appearance), it's probably way more important to make a trustworthy and responsible impression. If you have a developmental or mental disorder, your best chance to find a girlfriend would probably be to go to some kind of self-help/support group where you get to know some other, including female, people who have similar problems. Or if you have some particular hobby, like yoga, art or something like that, you could go to some group related to that.

If it's simply sex what you're after, it may be most reasonable to just save some money for buying sex from a prostitute, like I did when I was about your age. (just remember to use protection)

Good luck, anyway!

 

[Bearlove]

Nobody can tell you if your better off without sex - that is for you to decide. You may be seeking companionship but mixing your feelings up with sexual desire/frustration so try making friends where a sexual relationship can grow - or use a hookup site, hooker if that is your thing.

 

[pofacedhoe]

If you just want sex, there's apps you know....

If you're concerned about your appearance, exercise!

this!

if you are on antipsychotics i would make an extra effort to excercise because they can make you put on weight you normally wouldn't (SSRI's are very bad for this).

if you want sex go on dating apps and put yourself out there.

on grindr for example i try it on with people who i prob wont get because its law of averages shit. some times it does work and i get some young implausible hotties.

but be safe and use protection

finding love and a relationship is that much harder

 

[Ligaturd]

If you want to get it out of the way, just to have the experience and decide for yourself if it's something you can or can't do without in life than just get an escort. There are even supposed to be sex therapists out there for this sort of thing. There is someone (many possibilities) out there for everyone, it doesn't have to be an escort or something like that. There are also peopke out there who like make sex with strangers regardless of what they look like.

Sex is an important part of general wellness but you may even decide that it isn't for you. There are people out there who are perfectly content without sex.

 

[Bearlove]

There are some people on the dating apps that look for 'quirks' - so what you may feel is your bad points either mentally or physically could be exactly what other people are seeking so don't be ashamed or afraid to chat.

 

[assclass]

Good luck. Men with autism/aspies are basically fucked when it comes to ever having normal relationships. reddit.com/r/foreveralone is basically filled with losers like us

 

[polymath]

^ You're aspie, too? (sorry if I'm nosy) I couldn't have guessed that from your writing style...

The problem with autism and sexuality is that the instincts that drive sexual selection today are probably almost exactly the same that people had in the stone age. An aggressive, antisocial, violent man can often get women easily, but if a man has a slightest amount of autism spectrum problematics, it's usually an instant turn-off for women.

Some biologists have wondered why evolution hasn't removed genes related to autism and schizophrenia from the human population, given that men who have those genes are unlikely to get children. I think I've seen some theory that the nieces and nephews of an autistic or schizo (or gay, even though that's not an illness) person may somehow psychologically benefit from occasionally seeing an uncle who's not quite like other people, and are more likely to become healthy adults who will pass the genes to the future generations.

 

[pofacedhoe]

Some biologists have wondered why evolution hasn't removed genes related to autism and schizophrenia from the human population, given that men who have those genes are unlikely to get children.

because its on a spectrum and some autistic guys are fucking hot and get laid a lot same with schizophrenia (its the anti psychotics that pile on the weight). my friend is mild autistic and is pretty cheeky and tries it on with loads of women now he is in his 30's and has been having a lot of luck in the last 3 years and a relationship with a girl who was bipolar. he's also tall and reasonably attractive

some people with autism/mental health problems are good looking and work out techniques for getting partners (took him till late 20's to get his game honed). at the same time he is a bit awkward in relationships but nonetheless has had a lot of good luck last few years. he says stop being afraid, if you are not cheeky and dont ask you dont get shit which holds true for more parts of life than just getting dates and sex

 

[belligerent drunk]

Good luck. Men with autism/aspies are basically fucked when it comes to ever having normal relationships. reddit.com/r/foreveralone is basically filled with losers like us

Not just men. Women too. My ex-lady has an asperger's mother, and that basically fucked everything up for her (the daughter). Her brother killed himself, their family is fucked because of the mom's negligent behaviour, and the lady is fucked as well, due to needing a mother but not having one (because of the emotional lack in their interaction with the mother). She had sex for the first time at 30 despite being very attractive, and her world views are very not normal. (I'm not saying this in an offensive way, as I obviously love her, but it is what it is)

some people with autism/mental health problems are good looking and work out techniques for getting partners (took him till late 20's to get his game honed). at the same time he is a bit awkward in relationships but nonetheless has had a lot of good luck last few years. he says stop being afraid, if you are not cheeky and dont ask you dont get shit which holds true for more parts of life than just getting dates and sex

Yes, I agree with this. My both parents are mentally fucked, my mom is full-blown schizo, and I notice some similar symptoms in myself, although I'm currently functional. Still, I do a bit of exercise, and stay generally fit (despite my drug problems), and I practice very pleasant way of talking to people, including women, even though I'm not a social person. I feel that if you can find somebody who is similar and can sympathize with you, then a strong bond can be formed. From my own experience, and due to some of my psychological quirks I'm not very interested in being a stud, I managed to have a very healthy relationship with my one lady. To make matters worse, as I said before, she was/is also unstable and with her peculiarities, but we managed.

 

[Scuzzy]

I have a serious case of aspergers, but I'm relatively good-looking. Let's say I'm a 7/10, I've mostly dated girls with less than average looks. That was until I met my wife of 12 years, she is very attractive but has serious antisocial tendencies of her own. I'm know I'm flawed, so I have always sought flawed. I have a tough time making advances on girls because I'm so self-conscious, so I don't rush into things because I can only partially control my anxiety. When I meet a girl I like, I usually friend-zone myself before the girl even has a chance, and if they want to be with me that much, they eventually take it upon themself to move me out of the friend zone. Or they don't.

Just be the best you, you can be. Work out and get a job if you don't have one. Take risks but don't feel like you HAVE to force yourself out of your comfort zone all the time. Being autistic/aspie, we get to enjoy things that others don't, so try not to see the glass as half-empty.

 

[Intense]

Some biologists have wondered why evolution hasn't removed genes related to autism and schizophrenia from the human population, given that men who have those genes are unlikely to get children. I think I've seen some theory that the nieces and nephews of an autistic or schizo (or gay, even though that's not an illness) person may somehow psychologically benefit from occasionally seeing an uncle who's not quite like other people, and are more likely to become healthy adults who will pass the genes to the future generations.

I believe autism has a lot to do with the environment and not solely genetic.