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My man wants to watch me have sex with other men

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Well this is an interesting one and i'm curious as to how common this is.

My man and I have been in a relationship for 3+ years. Our sex life is great (always has been) and we live together. (BTW I'm female and have dreamed of a threesome with him and another man from time to time)

About 6 months ago he mentioned a fantasy he has, to watch me having sex with another man (possibly more than one simultaneously) and possibly join in on the act.

At first, I was worried because I thought it was a type of cheating and thought a lot of guilt would come out of it, as I'm very loyal and i would never cheat on him. But as we talked about it, I started to open up to the idea and thought it would be fun, and to fulfil his fantasy, hell yeah why not, as long as it doesnt wreck our relationship.
Nothing came of it, although I can tell that it turns him on when he thinks about it or when it comes up when we're in the sack.

Fast forward to 6 months later (now) and he still thinks about it, and he tells me that its quite often. He wants me to have sex with other men while he watches, he wants to join in, he even wants to try it himself.

My question is, is this common among men??
 
I don't know if it's common, but there are certainly men out there who are into this for sure...

When i was 18 i went out with a guy that was a bit older than me (about 27) and a month into our relationship he asked me if i would so this - sleep with his friends and he watches and jerks off :\

That's in a different context than your situation i know, needless to say i ran a mile when he asked that of me... but you have been with your man for a while now so it's different for you.

It wont be the same as cheating because this is his idea... he will be present. It will merely be adding some kink into your relationship, and if all parties are comfortable then go for it i guess :)

If he were to freak out afterward, it will be his own fault because he is the on wanting it and bringing it up to you.
 
If you both want to do it, go for it.

Just make sure you both communicate a lot and set up boundaries if you want them.

My ex BF wanted to see me have sex with a woman and then have sex with me and her but that never happened. We had an open relationship but never had a 3 way but neither one of us really had sex with other men or even women all that often.

I never fantasized about seeing him with other men but I did fantasize about a MMF 3 way with him.
 
curiousbutconfused said:
My question is, is this common among men??
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Call me old fashioned, but I would never do this with a girl I loved....I'd get jealous. I won't share a girl with anyone if I see myself being with her long-term.

Now if it was just a girl that I'd been sleeping with but had no emotional feelings for, then it would not be that big of a deal.

Back in my undergrad days (more than 10 years ago) my friends and I used to do MFMs all the time, but it was usually with a girl none of us really liked that much :D When I eventually found a hot girl that I was into, one of my friends asked if we could do a MFM with her and I said, "Hell no!:X" I actually liked the girl and didn't want to share. We ended up being together for a couple of years, had great sex, and never brought other people into our relationship.

So to answer the question in the OP, no, it is not common among all men.
 
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I used to do it with previous lovers, especially this guy who was great in bed and his friend who was veeery good looking. I used to love it and so did they! If it turns you on, go for it, just make sure the guys you choose are ones you find attractive- otherwise you'll feel weird or used - and that he understands the fact that you're attracted to them and will be having hot sex with them. He needs to register the fact that this is real life, not watching porn, in terms of risk-taking. But if you agree the boundaries straight away there shouldn't be a problem.
 
It's not uncommon

If you have the trust factor, then it should not be a huge problem experimenting down that path...........
 
^I'm sure you've seen men in porn before 8)

A lot of guys make this fantasy about creating live porn that has their girlfriend in it. It's not about the fact that there's a guy there that you could look at or even that he might end up touching you. The bf joining in to make a MMF threesome simply extends the fantasy of the porn situation, but he is simply now involved too, so it seems even hotter: "look, omg, my chick is in a porn and I'm in a porn with her!" The other guy is ultimately nothing more than a prop.



To the OP: I wouldn't say that this is a common thing (cuz at the end of the day, a lot of men are simply too jealous about their women), but it's certainly not uncommon or weird. Lots of people have really similar kinks - people into swinging, threesomes, roleplaying, whatever. If you feel comfortable doing it, go right ahead! I think it would be fun ;) =D
 
okay give the guy a 3 sum if he try's some gay action... than you know why he wanted to do it... if not than he just wanted to see you do that... i will bet he will want some sword play, i put money on it
 
i think if i were a girl, & my BF asked me to fuck another guy while he watched or whatever, i would not even give him the politness of a goodbye. i would think i was nothing more to him than a cumdumpter & feel like i was being used as a prop rather than a person.
 
I wouldn't call it common, but it's not so rare that I've never heard of people that are into it.
 
curiousbutconfused said:
Well this is an interesting one and i'm curious as to how common this is.

My man and I have been in a relationship for 3+ years. Our sex life is great (always has been) and we live together. (BTW I'm female and have dreamed of a threesome with him and another man from time to time)

About 6 months ago he mentioned a fantasy he has, to watch me having sex with another man (possibly more than one simultaneously) and possibly join in on the act.

At first, I was worried because I thought it was a type of cheating and thought a lot of guilt would come out of it, as I'm very loyal and i would never cheat on him. But as we talked about it, I started to open up to the idea and thought it would be fun, and to fulfil his fantasy, hell yeah why not, as long as it doesnt wreck our relationship.
Nothing came of it, although I can tell that it turns him on when he thinks about it or when it comes up when we're in the sack.

Fast forward to 6 months later (now) and he still thinks about it, and he tells me that its quite often. He wants me to have sex with other men while he watches, he wants to join in, he even wants to try it himself.

My question is, is this common among men??
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Your description here sounds like a carbon copy of what we went through, the fantasies, sharing fantasies, the relationship etc. The more we talked about it the hotter it became for both of us, we have now been in a swinging relationship for 3 years. We enjoy it, all aspects of it, it adds to an already incredible sex life. We do have boundaries and we only do it together, ultimately its for no one else except us.

If you choose to go through with it, enjoy it, its definitely an experience of a lifetime.
 
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his bisexual most likely because i am 100% striaght and i wouldnt ever want that...Only more women
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Unbreakable said:
okay give the guy a 3 sum if he try's some gay action... than you know why he wanted to do it... if not than he just wanted to see you do that... i will bet he will want some sword play, i put money on it
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Okay mr. homophobe, there's nothing gay about a MFM threesome with 2 straight guys.
 
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Jerry Atrick said:
Okay mr. homophobe, there's nothing gay about a MMF threesome with 2 straight guys.
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You're talking about a MFM 3 way right? Where two men each do a woman but they don't have sex with each other. Or do you mean sort of like a 3 way gangbang type thing where the one guy does the woman while the other guy watches and then he does the woman?

There's the Cuckold thing that GoddessLSD-XTC wrote about which can be a porn/fantasy type thing like she wrote or I've seen closeted bisexual men use it as a way so they can have sex with men.

IME mainly only bisexual men and some bisexual or even straight women want to do, or crave MMF 3 ways or sex where the men do each other and the woman and everyone has some sort of sex with each other even if it's oral sex or one guy fucks the woman while the other guy fucks his ass or he gets sucked off by the guy fucking the woman. I've seen a bisexual porn where a tiny asian woman watches two men fuck and then they fuck her and later she puts on a strapon dildo and reams the one dude's ass and says things like "Yeah you like that shit! Take it bitch!" I've seen other bisexual pr0ns where something like that happens but the woman makes the guy suck the dildo and that doesn't sound too fun to me since silicone/gel smells nasty and it's not a real penis.

I know a few gay men who had MMF 3 ways but they were younger and did it with a woman they were dating before they knew that they're homosexual and it helped them realize that they're gay since they were only sexually interested in the other man and not both the man and the woman.

I don't see Unbreakable being homophobic or biphobic since what he wrote can be true.
 
^ Thank you for putting all that into words for someone to understand... I see that your money is his bi-sexual and wants to have gay fun and use it as a excuse... I have gay friends, i have bi friends, AND NONE, of my straight male friends say they would ever want to do that
 
Having been in one woman two guy situation a few times, I can certainly confirm that the whole thing works better if both guys are not averse to other guys.
When you get into a situation that one of the guys is homophobic or biphobic things like double penetration and so on just don't work out.
So does it really matter? It can be really pleasurable for you as a woman. But are you sure it's not alibi for him so that he can ball another woman because you balled another guy?
 
as a guy i couldnt imagine wantin my girl to get banged out by some other dude...
it sounds like he just wants the cock and wants an excuse

i have ran a couple trains but this was back in the day when i was younger and it was almost too uncomfortable bein so close to my boy while im tryin to pound some chick out

2 girls is a whole nother story.
 
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