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Advice Ask Shordie

Hey @SoCalShordie ,

Interesting thread, thanks for the opportunity to ask questions.

I think I read you said you had an OF? Did you used to make custom videos for fans? If so what was the most unusual one that you did? And were there any requests that you declined because they were too wild?

Also what proportion of your peers would you say enjoyed their work as opposed to those that did it either through desperation or to fuel addiction?

What is your opinion of OF as an organisation and did you feel like you were well treated and supported or otherwise?

Cheers,

BB
 
SoCalShordie said:
Yep that’s the Corey I speak of lol. And David Blaine was a total weirdo, but still interesting lol.
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Shame about that Corey kid and yeah heard lots about Blaine. Thanks for the answers.

Anyone you wanna libel just for the fun of it? I feel like a tabloid hack here lol. I'd be paying you by the hour just for the stories.
 
SoCalShordie said:
Me?? I didn’t know u were into astrology! I can even do birth charts and im really good at it! I’m a Scorpio sun, Virgo moon, Virgo rising. With a Scorpio stellium all in the 3rd house lol
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The astrological charts are based on the sky 2000 years ago and are about a month off. This is due to the natural wobble of the earth.
SoCalShordie said:
You know, his parents are really good people. And I have to kinda retract there, bc he was really generous and courteous as long as he wasn’t cracked out. One time a female guest at one of his dinner parties spilled wine all over by brand new LV bag. It was the first one I ever bought myself and growing up in poverty, I was really attached to it and proud that at 21 I could afford it. He felt really badly about it and arranged for the same bag to be delivered to my house. It was a limited edition one too so I didn’t even think he’d be able to find the same one. The first night I hung out with him, I had been there all night into the morning hours and he said something like “omg where are my manners, you’re probably starving. I’ll call my chef to come right away” and it was like 5 or 6am. He had her make this huge breakfast spread enough to feed like 10 people bc he wasn’t sure what I liked and told her to make a whole bunch of things lol. It was just when he was drunk n cracked out he would act a fool.
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Crackheads are annoying, self centered, humorless and have this almost wild animal quality, when they are not hitting the pipe and want to. The personality change is incredible/ horrible
 
pharaoh said:
Shame about that Corey kid and yeah heard lots about Blaine. Thanks for the answers.

Anyone you wanna libel just for the fun of it? I feel like a tabloid hack here lol. I'd be paying you by the hour just for the stories.
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Or at least buying you beers or rolling you spliffs to keep the stories coming😁
 
1) Have u ever performed with one of Italy´s finest (Rocco Siffredi, Franco Trentalance etc) and if so, is it true that Italians do it better?
2) Is it true that male performers use and abuse Viagra or similar to get an hard on ?
3) Let s say that one has a 20 cm or more penis and is a porn star, but regularly uses Viagra. Another has an average penis, but never used Viagra, managed to have an hard on even when he was wasted , has good oral sex skills and even a PhD in , say, Philosophy. Can we say that the guy with the average penis is the real stallion and not the porn star? asking for a friend....
4) As a teen, pornography convinced me that having a 20-25 cms cock was the minimum in order to have sex. This was not my case and led to a tremendous sense of inadequacy. Can I sue the porn industry as a whole? Where to start?
5) Why do American porn actresses take the name of our Lord in vain? That s what lead many God´ s fearing wankers to switch to Japanese porn, which according to recent studies is more damaging to a men s mental health than crack and meth combined.

Seriously @SoCalShordie , great thread that only someone self confident, honest and corageous and ...dunno the word in English and I m too coked out to check, self aware maybe? could start. Pass as I m sure you ll do these qualities to the kiddo and he-she (sorry, can t remember, it seems tht coke is indeed neurotoxic after all) will be great.
I m my days it was easier for soeone under 18 to buy drugs than accessing porn, still hey , good times but also very distorted ideas about sex that took a while to get rid of. I wonder what s going on now in the head of a teen that can have instant access to every thinkable and unthinkable form of porn, the pros, the contra, it s an interesting and compex topic and it s cool to discuss about this with someone who s been there, Cheers!
 
pharaoh said:
I've been with an escort once, paid 120 for the hour, got a gram of coke and spent the hour talking to her about her native country. I couldn't bring myself to fuck her, it felt wrong, but this was very different
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so I m not the only one! same here man, setting aside the moral considerations I can t feel aroused if the other person is there just for work. The mysteries of the human mind, I m financing daily hardcore criminals but hey, prostitution feels wrong! Which btw as long as it s between consenting adults is not even wrong but just, I dunno, does not feel right. It could be the beginning of a joke, " A marxist and a catholic bought a gram of coke and called an escort...."
 
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pharaoh said:
Also Corey Haim is one of the two Coreys right, who tragically died? The one who is still alive is the one who talked about how they were diddled by people in Hollyweird and all that stuff. That's what I mean about the child star thing - when the parents put their child's earnings before their safety, the predators circle like vultures. Didn't the Corey who is alive even sue his mother or something because she basically stole the money he earned? Fucked up shit.
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Im not saying this as fact, just squaring the circle of the multiple topics brought up here, and he has vehemently denied the allegations, but Charlie Sheen himself was alleged to be one of Haim and Feldman's abusers.
 
skipjames said:
so I m not the only one! same here man, setting aside the moral considerations I can t feel aroused if the other person is there just for work. The mysteries of the human mind, I m financing daily hardcore criminals but hey, prostitution feels wrong! Which btw as long as it s between consenting adults is not even wrong but just, I dunno, does not feel right. It could be the beginning of a joke, " A marxist and a catholic bought a gram of coke and called an escort...."
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Wish I had this problem. It's the opposite for me. Sleeping with someone I don't love or know that will just leave shortly is way easier than being with someone I have to genuinely care about and will have to cater to their emotional needs all that. THAT sounds like unpaid labor to me 😵‍💫😭
 
deficiT said:
Wish I had this problem. It's the opposite for me. Sleeping with someone I don't love or know that will just leave shortly is way easier than being with someone I have to genuinely care about and will have to cater to their emotional needs all that. THAT sounds like unpaid labor to me 😵‍💫😭
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Don t get me wrong, I love (loved, obviously not anymore as I m happily married with an amazing woman who s here on BL) night one stand (especially as they were not a thing back home, I ve started enjoying the joys of sex for the sake of it way later in life) but I need to know that the person I m with is at least having fun or is attracted a lil to me. Ive even hooked up with males (and discovered that I was not as bi as I thought, alas I m dickophobic) because I liked and was aroused by the fact that they liked me ( yeah, I was slightly insecure in my 20 s ) . The escort is not supposed to like you, or to tell u what she likes in bed, what s the fun?
 
deficiT said:
is way easier than being with someone I have to genuinely care about and will have to cater to their emotional needs all that
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I m 41 and I ve had only 3 serious relationships, so I get u, but I guess it depends on the emotional needs and on the person in question. For instance I can handle people with, say depression, but go away you lady with anger issues! So if she s brave enough to have the desire of having a serious relationship with me, has issues that I can handle and last but not least understands that a man needs his hard drugs, it s worth a shot. I think one should be at least open to the possibility of trying something new, whether is loving someone or, dunno, being sober ( that s a though one for me but who knows, is still logically possible I guess....)
 
skipjames said:
Don t get me wrong, I love (loved, obviously not anymore as I m happily married with an amazing woman who s here on BL) night one stand (especially as they were not a thing back home, I ve started enjoying the joys of sex for the sake of it way later in life) but I need to know that the person I m with is at least having fun or is attracted a lil to me. Ive even hooked up with males (and discovered that I was not as bi as I thought, alas I m dickophobic) because I liked and was aroused by the fact that they liked me ( yeah, I was slightly insecure in my 20 s ) . The escort is not supposed to like you, or to tell u what she likes in bed, what s the fun?
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That’s why “high end” escorts are paid so much. I could literally make anyone believe I truly and genuinely want to be with them and am interested in everything they say/do. I’m THAT good. Or should I say. WAS that good. I got the art of conversation down to a literal science at 18 when I was a stripper and became amazing at reading people and fully becoming exactly who they wanted me to be without them even realizing I’m not the real deal.
 
skipjames said:
so I m not the only one! same here man, setting aside the moral considerations I can t feel aroused if the other person is there just for work. The mysteries of the human mind, I m financing daily hardcore criminals but hey, prostitution feels wrong! Which btw as long as it s between consenting adults is not even wrong but just, I dunno, does not feel right. It could be the beginning of a joke, " A marxist and a catholic bought a gram of coke and called an escort...."
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Speaking of Catholicism, the experience I mentioned was/is a great source of guilt and shame for me. It wasn't the morality of sex work in itself that had me feeling this way, it is due to the fact that the woman was obviously trafficked and was obviously kept against her will, even though she said that she could "leave any time". But this was one of the prominent Balkan mafia organised crime groups here and I found this out very quickly as it was obvious (dude waiting outside in an Audi the whole time, pretty sure he was holding the drugs too. Naively I just called up one of the first numbers that returned an "escort service" so now I know that the only way to really do it and have certainty about it is by contacting someone who works for themselves and is OK with what they are doing.

I couldn't have sex with a "sex worker" who had been trafficked into the country - I hoped that giving her a "break" was at least preferable to her. I dunno, it was pretty horrible. I was already skeptical about being pro sex work (at least unconditionally due to the fact that every sex worker I knew personally was doing it to feed an addiction and hated it - not saying that this is always the case of course) and this experience really put me off. I've known about it, read about it and all that but seeing it is different. Looking at a person who has been through that, all for the profit of some greedy gangster scumbags. Fuck that. Heartbreaking actually when I think back on it. The woman was utterly beautiful, incredibly naive and a very long way from home. Naturally I wanted to save her which is of course a common thing anyway when it comes to sex workers and their clients.

But yeah, there's a great joke there: a Catholic, a Marxist and a Conservative walk into a brothel...
 
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deficiT said:
Im not saying this as fact, just squaring the circle of the multiple topics brought up here, and he has vehemently denied the allegations, but Charlie Sheen himself was alleged to be one of Haim and Feldman's abusers.
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Yep, I remember hearing that too! Fucking hell. Also a load of allegations were made by an ex wife of his about him being into porn with underage looking boys but the woman went back on it all very quickly - all kinds of legal pressure thrown at her. Can't remember who but pretty sure the allegations are out there somewhere or were at least, like a police statement or whatever. I deffo remember hearing that about Charlie Sheen and Corey Haim tho...
 
SoCalShordie said:
. I got the art of conversation down to a literal science at 18 when I was a stripper and became amazing at reading people and fully becoming exactly who they wanted me to be without them even realizing I’m not the real deal
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Interesting, and explains why many rich and famous, that have no problem in getting laid, go to "high end " escort anyway. But I guess that s the trickiest part of the job, if a client forget that u are working it can get messy, has it ever happened to you ? One of the scariest things I ve ever witnessed in my life ( and as a Heroin and now also cocaine user I ve seen some cray shit) was when one of my best friends and long time fellow H user stopped doing drugs and felt in love with an escort.

My mate was no Charlie Sheen, he earned slighty more than a minimum salary, still he paid for one of the most pricey services offered by the lady, namely unprotected anal sex (around 400 pounds if memory serves), talked about the escort as if he was talking about a gf,was obviously financially ruined, seriously his previous heroin addiction was a joke compared to this mess.....Finally he understood the error of his ways and went back to H instead, the lesser of two evils in this case.
So has a client ever forgot that u were doing your job, felt in love with u and things got messy?
Have u ever felt in love with a customer? and if so, what happened?
 
pharaoh said:
It wasn't the morality of sex work in itself that had me feeling this way, it is due to the fact that the woman was obviously trafficked and was
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been there as well, and really is in the top 5 of my biggest regrets. It was back in Italy, I was a teen drunk and high on benzos, an older friend of mine ( RIP, unfortunately he is not with us anymore) took my almost unconscious self to a Nigerian prostitute. I was clearly unable to perform but I sobered up and felt that was WRONG, the girl was paid, nothing happened, but still, WRONG. These poor women are trafficked by the Nigerian mafia it s sex slavery poor and simple. of course sex work is a very complex thing, there s the super escort who earns in a night more than I d in a month, the trafficked ones and anything in the middle, but better safe than sorry.
Also (sorry but the blow is over and I m having the mother of all comedowns with Catholic guilt included) is watching pornography that different? The stories of many ex performers that left the industry are pretty dark....
Ok, time for some good self loathing now and hopefully some sleep.
anyway, I miss having a decent discussion with a marxists, I ve changed my mind on a lot of topics but marxism has always been one of my nemesis, if u feel like it let s make a thread and have fun!
Cheers
 
skipjames said:
Interesting, and explains why many rich and famous, that have no problem in getting laid, go to "high end " escort anyway. But I guess that s the trickiest part of the job, if a client forget that u are working it can get messy, has it ever happened to you ? One of the scariest things I ve ever witnessed in my life ( and as a Heroin and now also cocaine user I ve seen some cray shit) was when one of my best friends and long time fellow H user stopped doing drugs and felt in love with an escort.

My mate was no Charlie Sheen, he earned slighty more than a minimum salary, still he paid for one of the most pricey services offered by the lady, namely unprotected anal sex (around 400 pounds if memory serves), talked about the escort as if he was talking about a gf,was obviously financially ruined, seriously his previous heroin addiction was a joke compared to this mess.....Finally he understood the error of his ways and went back to H instead, the lesser of two evils in this case.
So has a client ever forgot that u were doing your job, felt in love with u and things got messy?
Have u ever felt in love with a customer? and if so, what happened?
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Yeah I definitely had a few clients like this. There was one regular when I was a stripper who was absolutely in love with me and it got complicated for me. Like, I know I was a pretty good hustler but dam how could he be that stupid to think he could actually be with me lol. Like you’re paying me dude, get real.
 
SoCalShordie said:
Like you’re paying me dude, get real.
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well, in neo pentecostal megachurches people believe that the more money they give to "God" (to the pastor) the more there will be a miracle in their life, some people in need (emotional in the case of your former client) will believe anything. The only thing I miss of when I was a broke as a joke post grad student with an H problem is that...if someone was sleeping-dating me, it was definitely NOT for the money, because there was none . Anyway, I m sure that to do this job you really have to set boundaries. I just wonder how hard can it be having a good time with someone, having sex and fun etc, and not develop if not love some form of affection. In my 20´s I used to fall in love every two weeks so I don t count, but I guess that even two no nonsense sex worker and costumer develop some form of bonding, did u?
 
SoCalShordie said:
That’s a great question. Because of my past and how I turned out (until recently changing my ways) I plan on always keeping an open line of communication with my kids. I’ll make sure she won’t be afraid to come to me about something like needing to get picked up from a party bc she’s too drunk. As long as she comes to ME about it, there won’t be punishments. Just lessons learned that we will talk about together. My mom tried to be too strict with me because she got pregnant at 15 and she wanted to make sure the same didn’t happen to me. So she was always on my ass lol. Because of that, I think that’s why I went buck wild as soon as I turned 18 and started stripping etc. I was never allowed to go to high school parties or go on dates with boys my age. I’m gonna make sure to give my daughter a lot of freedom as long as she’s responsible and checks in with me, always answers her phone, comes home when she says she will be home etc. I definitely feel like I would be a lot more lax with a son than with my daughter lol. But you can’t be too strict bc then they’ll start wildin’ out on you and being a hoe in the streets lol. And we don’t want that 🤣
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Something that worked really well for me and my son was to start really early with the big deal concepts and just roll the truth. My kids doing great and has avoided many of the big pitfalls. I was letting him in on allot the big deal stuff well before he was ten. Just something to consider.
 
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