Advice Being drugged by my partner..why?

[arrall]

I'm going to move this to our 'Sex, Love, and Relationships' subforum as this is a question about an abusive relationship. Basic Drug Discussion is intended for simple harm reduction questions that are primarily/entirely about drug use.
BDD -> SLR

 

[n3ophy7e]

"I think u might just blame emotions youre not used to feeling or have never felt on drugs. There is a lot of instability in ur emotions thats why i think of personality disorder"
This was his response to me asking him for the 3rd time if he had drugged me. What are your thoughts? I've never had a therapist diagnose me with a personality disorder.

Nope nope nope. This is classic abuse. A TEXTBOOK case. He wants to make you feel like you're crazy and that there's something wrong with you, and that he's the only one who understands you and can deal with you, i.e. that you need him. It's a very common gaslighting technique used by abusers to keep their victims from leaving, and is very effective if they are good at it. You however have cottoned on to it now, so luckily it won't work on you.

 

[✿Dai₷y✿]

Sometimes yes, sometimes no, sometimes I'm paralysed,can't move or speak but I can hear and I'm aware of what's going on, sometimes I black out completely. The last time it happened I ended up with a really sharp pain in my head and the next day there was a broken blood vessel under my eye on the same side the sharp pain was

If you are suspecting this is going on, or has just happened, as soon as you can take a piss into a clean container, put lid on and keep at room temp u til you csn go to a doc and ask for a drug screen and check up.

 

[n3ophy7e]

If you are suspecting this is going on, or has just happened, as soon as you can take a piss into a clean container, put lid on and keep at room temp u til you csn go to a doc and ask for a drug screen and check up.

This.
Do you know if she can present to the hospital and they will run the test as part of a rape investigation?

 

[✿Dai₷y✿]

This.
Do you know if she can present to the hospital and they will run the test as part of a rape investigation?

Her own collection wouldnt be valid without chain of custody but would give her an answer.
Best to have a urine and blood to done before 12 hours to get an answer, mention possible research chem as they'll investigate further.

Best thing to do is make a plan of getting yourself as uickly as possible after an event that you're questioning to a hospital so they can do the investigation.

Just be aware, pressing charges doesn't happen just like that. If you just want to know if you've been drugged with anything besides weed, get a scraping of the bong or any leftover baggies, your own urine and go to a hospital. The hospitals have to report assaults to police and up to OP what she does there, tell the whole story which could then automatically start an investigation or not say anything until you're ready.

Sounds like some kind of flakka tbh.

The cops decide if charges are going to be laid after doing an investigation, even if she doesn't want to press charges later. This is why people change their minds after the fact, its the only way to get charges dropped.

So OP, the dude sounds like a tool, maybe you need intervention to leave so up to you if you really want to know or not.


If you don't want to lose him, for whatever reason, and just want to know wtf is going on, set up a camera of sorts?

 

[n3ophy7e]

Her own collection wouldnt be valid without chain of custody but would give her an answer.
Best to have a urine and blood to done before 12 hours to get an answer, mention possible research chem as they'll investigate further.

Best thing to do is make a plan of getting yourself as uickly as possible after an event that you're questioning to a hospital so they can do the investigation.

Just be aware, pressing charges doesn't happen just like that. If you just want to know if you've been drugged with anything besides weed, get a scraping of the bong or any leftover baggies, your own urine and go to a hospital. The hospitals have to report assaults to police and up to OP what she does there, tell the whole story which could then automatically start an investigation or not say anything until you're ready.

Sounds like some kind of flakka tbh.

The cops decide if charges are going to be laid after doing an investigation, even if she doesn't want to press charges later. This is why people change their minds after the fact, its the only way to get charges dropped.

So OP, the dude sounds like a tool, maybe you need intervention to leave so up to you if you really want to know or not.


If you don't want to lose him, for whatever reason, and just want to know wtf is going on, set up a camera of sorts?

Very good post.

 

[Confused111]

I said this yesterday because (well, it's pretty fucking amazing) and you didn't really sound sure yourself.

I hope it didn't come off as being dismissive of your situation. Please get away from this guy and get drug tested asap.

Just wondering if you can tell me what blowing out feels like on ghb? Are you still aware of surroundings or is it total unconsciousness?

 

[Kaden_Nite]

Just wondering if you can tell me what blowing out feels like on ghb? Are you still aware of surroundings or is it total unconsciousness?

I'm not familiar with that term 'blowing out', sorry. Just being on GHB; I'd describe it as euphoric relaxation. Can be quite lucid, even paradoxically energetic at lower doses. Amnesia and deep unconsciousness at high doses. The difference between low and high dose isn't much.

Please, be careful.

 

[n3ophy7e]

I'm not familiar with that term 'blowing out', sorry. Just being on GHB; I'd describe it as euphoric relaxation. Can be quite lucid, even paradoxically energetic at lower doses. Amnesia and deep unconsciousness at high doses. The difference between low and high dose isn't much.

Please, be careful.

GHB can't be smoked though, and she thinks he's giving the unknown substance to her mixed with weed.
Or @Confused111 is it possible he could be slipping GHB in to a drink? It's very easy to conceal the taste if you don't know it.

 

[December Flower]

This is only going to end up one way, and that is with you dead. He is going to end up killing you, whether it's accidental or not. Pack your bag and leave AS SOON AS YOU CAN. Do not fuck around, do not try to reason with him or yourself, do not look for reasons to stay, he does not care about you, get as far away from him as soon as it is safe to do so.

@Confused111 she is very smart listen to her

My advice would be drugging him, cutting off his ballsack and feeding it to him.
I'm no social expert.

 

[Skorpio]

This is only going to end up one way, and that is with you dead. He is going to end up killing you, whether it's accidental or not. Pack your bag and leave AS SOON AS YOU CAN. Do not fuck around, do not try to reason with him or yourself, do not look for reasons to stay, he does not care about you, get as far away from him as soon as it is safe to do so.

In addition don't let your partner know you are leaving. Just disappear.

 

[Confused111]

Thanks for the support everyone. Still trying to figure out what it could be, drug test is out of the question, it's too late and if it's G it just won't show up. Could anyone tell me whether GHB gives you any come down effects the next day? I was having shallow breathing, slow heart rate and I felt brain dead.

 

[arrall]

Thanks for the support everyone. Still trying to figure out what it could be, drug test is out of the question, it's too late and if it's G it just won't show up. Could anyone tell me whether GHB gives you any come down effects the next day? I was having shallow breathing, slow heart rate and I felt brain dead.

I have no personal experience with GHB, but apparently there is an afterglow the next day from standard doses. With that said, the kind of dose needed to near-paralyze someone could have a far less pleasant feeling the next morning than the dose someone would take to go dancing at a club.

 

[jasperkent]

GO.
NOW.

 

[Skorpio]

Thanks for the support everyone. Still trying to figure out what it could be, drug test is out of the question, it's too late and if it's G it just won't show up. Could anyone tell me whether GHB gives you any come down effects the next day? I was having shallow breathing, slow heart rate and I felt brain dead.

G doesn't tend to have after effects. It breaks down into normal products of metabolism so you aren't gonna be able to be tested for it.

At the end of the day though if this has happened what matters most is your safety - get out before this behavior escalates into something that kills you.

 

[✿Dai₷y✿]

You had too much.

Ring him. Ask if he gave you g without telling you. If he says yes for any reason , hang up and ghost him.

Serious, otherwise what's the point in wondering?

 

[Confused111]

You had too much.

Ring him. Ask if he gave you g without telling you. If he says yes for any reason , hang up and ghost him.

Serious, otherwise what's the point in wondering?

Fuck the reality of this is mentally fucking with me. I have asked, he will never admit it.

 

[Dextro .45]

If it’s Methamphetamine you’d know…..libido’s INSAINE and you’d wanna F@ck like an animal…probably best animalistic sex of your life time

If you’re feeling drugged like a “Roofy” or Ketamine like you’re impaired and easy to manipulate …that’s kinda illegal and REALLY creepy ……like REALLY creepy

Next time go to the hospital/walk-in clinic immediately (day after all metabolites will still be detectable) sometime for up to 3/5/7/10/15 days depending on frequency of drugging

Any who…..just say you were at a party and you had a drink that made you feel weird and you want a full blood culture and urine sample for any chemicals / controlled substances

Then you’ll know 100%

 

[PriestTheyCalledHim]

He is not a partner, but a rapist/sexual predator. Get far away from him as you can, stay safe, contact the police, and do not go anywhere alone with him.

 

[matteric27]

No this isn't a troll post I'm actually going through this and it's weighing heavy on my heart.
What I don't get is, because this person pays for sex workers, so I'm sure many of them would enjoy free drugs while they're being paid for sex. So why would he do this to me who is a recovering addict, clean for 10 lPoease years? When he can just go pay for it and do it with someone who enjoys drugs?

Hey can I just say hon...this has broken my heart...how the hell does someone do this to their somebody. Fuck that guy