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I noticed that if I don't masturbate for several days I will still have "wet dreams" where I cum in my sleep. These are however dreams of me masturbating, not dreams of having sex. I guess that is probably a positive sign
You might just really enjoy masturbating more than sex with others... due to social anxiety. OCD is about compulsively doing things to prevent obsessive thoughts causing anxiety/worries. Imagine you may not "have OCD" but are doing an OCD-like pattern to avoid rejection or anxiety of intimacy or... whatever (there's many other "phenomena" that may prevent you from naturally seeking out sex with others? I can't know as I seek sex out with others and haven't all the personal knowledge I could on such a subject?).
I will relate this to post getting clean "using dreams" I get. They will become less frequent with time.
Wet dreams normally happen more when you're younger, less when you're older. At your age I'm not surprised you're getting them but, how many times a month are you having an orgasm?
Like how many days will you go between orgasms no matter how achieved?
How long can you go on average before a wet dream happens in your sleep?
Part of good sex is creating a feeling of being at ease in yourself and between you and your partner to help them become at ease, forming a connection while having sex, respecting each other's boundaries, doing what feels good for both of you etc. A lot of this is 100% "unnecessary" in masturbation. Sex might be seen as "work, psychologically trying" etc. to people who are not "into it".
It's important to have sexual experiences at appropriate ages/times in your life to start learning how to have an interpersonal connection with someone on that level. A lot of it is "lost on someone" with a rich inner life (which porn pushes you further into and normally does not draw you out of).
Honestly porn does not "do it for me" and I'd have to be frustrated beyond belief and backed up to want to jerk it off to porn now.
I also often question my sexuality itself. Like maybe I'm bi curious. can be a bit confusing, especially with my anxiety and overthinking of everything
It would be really disappointing to fool around with another guy only to find out that you don't like it, are still sexually-socially anxious and feel trapped more into a "jerking off routine".
Let yourself have fantasies about what you want. Don't be afraid to experiment or fool around with men or women that you want to and feel comfortable with / are open and honest with.
There might be a bigger "expectation" on sex with women for whatever reason; I cannot know (because I'm not actively aiming for sex with women... I'm really not, nor have I had sex with women in ... a long time...).
If your thoughts are mostly on you/your body during sex it is possible you are gay (but again I cannot know, I'm not straight) but when I had sex with women normally my thoughts were on both of our bodies, not just mine... if that makes sense. The same goes for now (if I was just thinking about my body during sex I wouldn't have sex, I would just masturbate). I really get off with someone else thinking about both of us.
Do you have problems socializing or talking to people you know as friends or family? How about strangers? Is it easy for you to strike up a random conversation with someone?